Never told anyone this before but I'm desperate and it's ruining my life....

[embarassedandmortified]

I've developed a horrendous problem since having children..... there's hair growing on my nipples!

Lots of it....and it's not fine.

I feel like a freak, feel like I can never let a man near me ever.... want to crawl under a rock, fall asleep and wake up with the issue gone.

I'm gutted..... I'm not normal. It's got to be the biggest turn-off for a man.

What can I do? Anyone else out there or am I the only freak on Mumsnet? does electrolysis work? I'd remortgage my house to resolve this.

This has to be a joke right? What is so dreadful about hairy nipples? I am sorry I am not being sympathetic but I have just run from the TV where they are featuring my phobia and turned to some sane conversation on MN to help me forget the images I saw, and then I see this!

I have hairy nipples which only started after having children. I have a few hairs per nipple. I shave them as and when.

Is this really upsetting you this much or have you nothing else to worry about?

Dumbledoresgirl - I have PLENTY to worry about and i post them on MN too..... just was looking for reassurance!

What an oddly agressive response to have toward me!

I am much hairier than before ds. Hate it. Soend a lot of time plucking and waxing to maintain my gorgeousness!

If h and I ever split up, I am going to worry so much about having a new man!

Sorry, but your first post just doesnt ring true to me. I have explained why I don't think much of your intense worry on such a trivial subject.

There are lots and lots of men who LIKE women to be hairy. We seem to have a view imposed on us that women must be smooth, hairless creatures smelling of flowers and fruit.

In reality, hair grows on bodies - i have hair on my nipples and my youngest son asked me why i was growing a beard the other day. I ran to the mirror in horror only to see that yep - the beginings of a girly moustache are emerging!

If it bothers me, i pluck it. This obviously does bother you but i dont think it is anything to be ashamed of or to feel repulsed by. On a more serious note, really excessive hairyness can be a sign of PCOS. If you are worried, your GP can refer you for a check.

I have one of those. I would need the real thing, but wouldn't be able to afford a day in the salon beforehand!

I had one single black hair growing on my boob, not the nipple but just above it and I used to pluck it out, it's stopped growing now, I also have 2 on my chin and I am very very blond so they really notice. Don't be embarrassed. I think it might be age related.

Squidette - I had thought of that, but I really don't have any other symptoms. My sister has PCOS.
Lol Ruby!

time to change your name embarrassedandmortified. you're perfectly normal, just yank 'em out. thank you for posting as i've discovered that budababe is my hairy twin sister!

eam lots of women (including me) have hairs on their nipples but it doesnt mean ita a stupid thing to worry about . we all worry about things that seem silly to other people, but if it matters to you then it important. is suggest plucking them if your brave enough

To say it is ruining your life is also a little extreme though I think.

but hey, don't worry about my opinion.

DG - not long till July now...

I do pluck them.

Dumbledoregirl - you've NO IDEA how much it has changed me..... it's getting to me and affecting my life..... I can't look at my chest in the mirror.

I've dealt with so much shit in my life.... raising my kids on my own too. So I don't take things lightly or get hysterical at things that I assume are trivial!

That's exactly it Ruby - my selfestemm is shattered.

Well how are you going to cope with future deterioration in your body if this is how you feel about a few hairs? What about when you get lines or grey hairs or saggy boobs or anything else that will inevitably come with age? And why are a few hairs on your nipples so awful anyway? If you shave your armpits, legs, bikini line (and in my case, upper lip - try that one for embarrassing! far more noticable if you forget to do it) then how hard is it to just quickly swipe at the hairs on your nipples? I can tell you one thing: they come away far more easily than other hairs.

dumbledoresgirl - a guy licking your nipples and feeling stubbly hairs the first time you sleep together is going to make him run a mile.....

I know, I've talked to enough male friends about it!!!

All the other aging things I'm fully expecting and it won't bother me!

Stop making me out to be some silly little pathetic girl! I'm so not! You don't even know how old i am.

I have a few hairs round my nipples. It's never occurred to me to be embarrassed or mortified by them and dh has never remarked on them.

Can't understand what you thought was aggressive about Ddgirl's view. I thought it was quite supportive in its way.

Am rather concerned about your over-reaction, e&m, as it smacks of self-hatred. Many women forget that their body is primarily for their own benefit, not to fit in with other people's ideas of attractiveness. We are in danger of taking concern over our appearance to extremes; beauty is such big business these days. Is beauty really more important than health? I feel that if you are healthy, then your personality has a chance to shine through and show you in your best light.

There is a poem in which a man writes lovingly about the hairs around his lover's nipples. Can't remember who wrote it, but it's reasonably modern, written some time in the last 50 years. Tolstoy certainly mentions Natasha's "downy lip" (sounds like a moustache to me) in War & Peace but that was 19th c of course, and ideas of beauty change.

believe me.... it's the only thing i hate about myself.... I'm pretty arrogant in every other way.