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Fairydust26 · 09/12/2017 15:31

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppaBrew put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hiSmileFlowers

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inthewoods4 · 17/01/2018 20:27

Thanks Fairydust. I think it's those dips in mood- like your stomach dropping- that really get me. They come out of nowhere, and feel so horrible x

gttia · 17/01/2018 20:29

Intheeoods I am just the same. Don't be so hard on yourself you did really well xx

Fairydust26 · 17/01/2018 20:43

You have to remember that our bodies are so used to being so anxious all the time that it takes a while for the physical aspects of it to go. This is something I have to keep reminding myself when I’m feeling good mentally I could get a physical symptom and like a switch I’m back to being anxious again!. I guess what I’m trying to say is be kind to yourself your not alone in feeling like this inthewoods4 x

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inthewoods4 · 18/01/2018 14:29

Last night I had a horrible dream about something do with my anxiety- I woke up hot and sweaty and heart racing. This morning I felt very anxious and I've felt low all day. I think it's related to the dream... has anyone else had anything similar?

Fairydust26 · 18/01/2018 20:21

Yes inthewoods4 I’ve had dreams similar they can sometimes leave me so anxious & drained for the rest of the day, Usually happens when I’m really worried about somthing. I find listening to guided meditations really help if it’s a recurring event there’s some particular ones for dreams.

Hope everyone’s doing well?

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gttia · 18/01/2018 21:00

Small dip today fairudust, but that's due to a conversation that was had this morning. Set my mind racing. But the meds have kicked in I think and although still a little on edge it's bearable. I'm on my own at work tmrw though and in the evening so that may change, I may be posting here lots as my mind will wander! I've stuck to 10mg of citalopram, may not go up to 20 till I know the date he's going. Maintain until I need more. Xx

Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 10:21

Hope today goes well for you gttia if not we’re here to listen😊 x

Last night I had an anxiety attack out of nowhere, hadn’t had one in a while forgot how horrible they are but I stuck on a guided meditation focused on my breatheing and managed to drift off. Worried it’s gonna set me back to being anxious again☹️.

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gttia · 19/01/2018 10:37

Thanks, I had a dreadful nights sleep. About three hours so I'm exhausted. I just lay thinking it's too long to be apart and too many nights alone and once it's happened once then he'll be expected to go again. Feel do silly when people cope with this all the time. And here alone today so that doesn't help.

mumof2sarah · 19/01/2018 16:17

I've had an awful afternoon with mine. After having 3 good days it feels like it's all gone downhill. I'm currently hiding from the kids and DP sat on the stairs between the emotions of crying, shaking and struggling to catch my breath. I feel like something's about to happen but don't know what 😭 I just feel awful. I feel so fed up x

Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 18:22

Hand hold for you mumof2sarah🤝 I’ve been like that had a few good days then it’s like a switch and I become anxious again☹️ So hard to be kind to yourself when this happens is there any thing you could do that might make you feel abit calmer like a nice bubble bath or something?Flowers.

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mumof2sarah · 19/01/2018 19:09

Thankyou @Fairydust26 mines been quite bad since New Years Eve and it's just got worse, out of 19 days I've probably had 3/4 days good. It's just really getting me down. I'm waiting for a new counselling referral and using the Pacifica app to try and keep me relaxed. I'm just about to put princess in bed and run a nice hot bubble bath x

Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 19:26

Good idea😊 mumof2sarah I’ve just had one and got my new pjs on hoping to have a chilled night. Dp is out tonight and I’m feeling totally mehConfused hope I feel better tomorrow & you aswell! x

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mumof2sarah · 19/01/2018 19:51

@Fairydust26 I always feel worse when DP is out, I just can't settle at all. I've been practicing meditation more at those points. I'm taking the positives of today as now, a hot bubble bath and a relax before an early night (insomniac wishing it worked but still resting) and hopefully be a better day tomorrow. Lots of positive energy sent you're way xxx

Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 20:13

Thank you mumof2sarah sending positive vibes right back to you! hope I can get an early night too xx

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Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 20:17

Thank you! mumof2sarah sending positive vibes back to you aswel, I’m hoping for an early night too xx

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Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 20:18

Ooops posted twiceBlush

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gttia · 19/01/2018 20:23

Hope your nice baths work ladies xx

Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 20:28

Thank you. How did you get on today gttia well I hope? x

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mumof2sarah · 19/01/2018 20:38

Thank you @gttia it has actually calmed me down. I'm going to get under my duvet now and do some meditation before bed. Hope you've had an ok day and evening xx

inthewoods4 · 19/01/2018 20:49

I'm the same, I had a few great days but the last two I've just felt really low, nothing interests me and because of this I start to panic that I'll be like this forever...
I've not had an anxiety episode for 4 years so I'm still in shock I think...

Fitzsimmons · 19/01/2018 21:01

Hi there. Mind if I pull up a pew? I just found this thread.

I'm a long term sufferer of health anxiety, especially since I had my first child five years ago. I have an overbite which never used to be a problem but since I had my son i have clenched my jaw so much i have tmjd. I also have ibs. These two conditions have so many symptoms that I often panic about them being something more sinister.

I've had CBT and in the past I've been on citalopram. I thought everything was ok but lately I have had bad acid reflux and this has caused me to panic about various ailments, mainly oesophagus cancer.

Thing is it's got to the point now where I can barely eat because the indigestion and tummy cramps are so bad. I'm actually scared to eat.

I know in my head that it's a vicious circle, that my anxiety will exacerbate my symptoms and that will in turn exacerbate my anxiety.

I feel like I'm in a fog of fear. I'm not really present when with my children , husband or friends because I'm too engrossed in my thoughts, analysing every swallow of food, every twinge in my stomach, every burp etc.

Thing is, I don't know what triggered it. I didn't think I was stressed, so does that mean there is a problem inside me causing the acid reflux etc? Or can you be stressed but unaware? I have a GP appointment but it's not till February as appointments are scarce. I'm worried I'm either going to go batty by then or if it's an illness it's going to get a lot worse.

I have a night out tomorrow night with some Mum friends. I'm dreading it because I'm so scared of eating.

If you made it through all my ramblings then you deserve a medal.

Fairydust26 · 19/01/2018 21:18

Welcome Fitzsimmons😊 I could of written your post myself my health anxiety is around my stomach too if I get a slight twinge or whatever it may be I feel the panic overcome me instantly and just want to burst into tears over the thought that it could be something serious!. I defiantly think you can be unaware of stress and the many symptoms it produces correct me if I’m wrong but a pretty sure acid reflux is related to anxiety and usually nothing sinister.

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mumof2sarah · 19/01/2018 21:21

I don't 'like' this thread because I hate the fact that so many people are going through this. But I do like to see that people 'get it' in the sense I can think about my anxiety symptoms and triggers and feel like it's only me that feels this or that and it's weird and embarrassing but then I see other have the same as myself and I realised actually it's nothing to be ashamed about, a lot of others go through the exact same as you and we're all here to help and hand hold for each other.

Thank you to the op for setting up this most - you don't realise how much good it Does for some people x

Fitzsimmons · 19/01/2018 21:22

Thanks Fairydust. I think I'm going to have to go back on the citalopram. I've been off it for over a year now but I think I need to be honest with myself and accept that i need it.

Thanks for the company. Simply writing it down helps a little Smile

gttia · 19/01/2018 21:26

Fitzsimmons I've just gone back on mine after five years off. But I do feel better x