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[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

Undercover bannana, I do have children, we both do but not together.

I think if I was to be away from home that would be worse. I feel I'll need to be here. Plus I have work too and want my annual leave as family/us time. I have good friends but when I know I will want to wallow. He says two weeks, no more, he's going to insist on a week, I'm working on two that's worse case.
Thank you for your suggestions. I hope you are ok tonight xx

gttia - while he's away, could you make a scrapbook of photos and things you've done together so that you relive good times while being productive? I keep silly things like stones we find on the top of mountains that we've climbed and shells from the beach. Could you write your memoirs of your favourite times together? Maybe all that sounds very twee and stupid, but it might distract you from the now?

That's in my list - every time we have a day or night out we take a photo, right from day one and I have decided I'll sort them all out, and make a photo book. That'll take at least two if not three evenings. How did it go with your dp? How are others

gttia - DP got home about 1 this morning. He could tell straight away that I was jittery and anxious and told me to tell him what was wrong straight away. I told him. He went into the hall, ripped the phone out of the wall and chucked it up the garden. Then he gave me lovely hug and told me to tell him if there was anything else around the house that triggered me. There isn't but I know I can tell him if there is in future.

Yesterday 19:52 inthewoods4
While I've been going through a really hard period of anxiety. It's been so difficult that my husband has pretty much taken over parenting. My 2 year old is oblivious, but my 7 year old dd seems different around me. I guess this is to be expected, perhaps she's lost a bit of trust in me? I'm not fully recovered yet, and I struggle with low mood so I also find it more difficult to relate to her.
Has anyone ever experienced anything similar? Xx

well I’m feeling pretty crap today anxiety’s sky rocketed, feeling sick and AF is due to make an appearance soon which im sure has a lot to do with it. I’m so annoyed with myself I’ve been feeling great these past few days now I feel like I’ve gone 10 steps backwards!😩 but anyway I’ve climbed into bed hope I feel better tomorrow hope everyone else is doing okay?.

Fairydust, it's just a bump in the road. The fact that you've had a few great days is so positive. Over the last few days I'm finding myself feeling really low ( without the anxiety) in the morning, then at some point, usually around 2ish I find that it just lifts!
My CBT counsellor says that after a high period of anxiety the low feelings are the body recovering. Anyone else get this?

Thanks inthewoods4 😊 your right it’s just a blip I have to keep telling myself that just sucks when I was actually feeling normal for once!. Yes I get that We have to remember that when our bodies go through these periods of high anxiety ect and we have to give ourselves time to heal again just like any other illness.

inwoods friend who suffered severe depressive episode used to say that constructing playmobil and doing jigsaws with her child was some of the best way she could cope with interaction, without too many demands on both them. She had someone helping in the house whilst she was depressed btw. She got better! Other things were taking her child swimming. (although I have to say swimming would be the last thing I would choose when frazzled)

Fairy hope it gets better soon.

Good day so far, but not much energy here. I had to go to sleep for a few hours too in the afternoon. I need to borrow a dog, but I don't think that would solve the mess problem which is makign me feel very despondent.. Made supper anyway, the thought of clearing it up is very meh.

Friend said she would wake feeling wretched and then as day went on feel a lot better, but could hardly face the day when she woke.

Exactly-it's easier said than done though. This morning I went for a walk and sat on a bench in the depths of despair, this afternoon I feel myself. It's the not knowing that's the hardest x

Fairydust I find more difficult having had a bad day after a few goods rather than having a few bad days in a row. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

inthewoods I find that getting out into the fresh air and having going for a walk always makes me feel better.

Nettle Its positive having had a good day even if you are lacking in energy.

Feeling like I am coming down with the coldy type virus that is going around. So instead of being out this evening with friends I am home and about to head to the bath and an early night. I woke up at 5am not anxious as such but more feeling restless.

Thank you Vistaverde😊 I keep feeling like I’m coming down with this cold too but thankfully it hasn’t formed into a full blown one yet fingers crossed it doesn’t!. Hope tomorrow’s better for you too.

Of course dealing with a shit day after a few days is difficult. The good days allow you to forget somewhat and then a bad day comes along as if to say “Hi!! Remember me?!?!” and you’re just like “ugh not again”. Remembering that it’s a blip is good, and just do the things that make you feel better/take a rest/whatever.

Yes exactly that KenForPM it’s like you forget what it feels like to be an anxious mess when you’ve been feeling good, then suddenly it comes out of nowhere and knocks you sideways🙄.

I hate myself today. I've caused a huge row by being paranoid that he has been asked to go and isn't telling me. All because of one small thing he did yesterday, I've convinced myself and now an argument has happened. Why can't I be like normal people I feel awful now

Gttia it can be a vicious circle; if your dh knows that something makes you anxious he may NOT tell you about it..I often conceal things from dh that would make him anxious, on the grounds that discussing something before it happens will just make it worse, if it might not happen, or I need more time to figure out the details. No-one can be absolutely honest and truthful every single moment, it would be exhausting. [Has anyone read The Circle btw - ]

So don't feel awful, trying to second guest someone else's responses is so tricky, in your case trying to second guess your dh's responses to your responses ifysim..

Today is going alright, although I still feel distinctly lacklustre. The only thing that has help any sparkle was having a chat to a friend on the phone..everything in house just is so...well...same old same old..chores galore...can I face getting out...more chores..why bother ...etc etc..

Still I need dw powder now, so will have to get out, one advantage to being disorganised..

I've been doing a lot of research into diet, I realised that before I started getting anxious I was skipping breakfast then living on coffee for most of the day before having a proper dinner. This is terrible for blood sugar. I fainted last week so I think this is definitely a contributing factor to my anxiety.
This morning I ate a couple of oat cakes as soon as I woke up and the usual morning anxiety lessened. Thought I'd share xx

Your right inthewoods4 I always find when I’m eating properly and healthly I feel so much better. I find it really hard to do so in the winter though who wants to eat a salad when your freezing cold I’d rather a hot chocolate ha ha!

I know what you mean, luckily my husband is making me eat healthily, and I have a bottle of water and a box of nuts beside me at all times!

Today has been a good day. But I always start feeling nervous in the evenings, apprehensive about the next day...

Today has been a bad day anxiety wise. I'm really looming fwd to being in work tmrw and being busy

Sorry today’s been bad gttia really hope tomorrow’s better for you!.

inthewoods4 - interesting about diet. Alcohol is bad for me and so is stodgy food. The problem is, of course, we often turn to these things for comfort or as a treat.

gttia - hope you've slept well and have a busy day to boost your mood. Strange, isn't it - work (as in my paid job) is a definite trigger for me and yet it helps you along. I'd rather be out running/cycling/swimming all day!

Morning!
Sorry if I don’t shout out to everyone by name, I really struggle keeping track (my brain is easily muddled at the moment) but I’m hoping you all get a bit of peace today in some way, shape or form.
It’s eluding me completely at the moment, let’s just blame blue monday!
I appear to have hit some sort of wall, my health anxiety is at a peak. I had a phobia of my insides falling out after I had my 3rd dc (can’t even say the p word without wanting to vomit) and every time I get a bit of heavy feeling down there the anxiety goes through the roof and becomes completely disabling. I don’t even feel that uncomfortable at the moment but the fear of it is awful.
I’ve started avoiding doing things as well and seem to be spending all my time on the sofa when the kids are at school. I need to get a grip!

inthewoods so true, I had to quite caffeine, alcohol. Struggle with junk food but pretty sure a number of things make me a lot worse - processed foods, sugar. Possibly even meat. Also being dehydrated.

I'm working on cutting out one thing at a time, switching to water and herbal tea.