Help.

[Bonosbiatch]

I keep being abusive towards my husband. I told him he wasn't my husband tonight and that I didn't want to be with him. He minimises things I've been through and it irritates me. So anxious.

Okay, first of all are you okay? Are you in any danger at all? Are you safe?

Secondly,

how are you abusive?

what has he been minimising?

Try to breath and relax. Just keep away from him for now and let both of you cool down.

I'm safe. I just feel like I'm going insane. Insanely paranoid about everything and he has reached his limit.

For instance, I keep checking his phone hoping to find something to prove my anxiety is justified.

Can you list the reasons why you feel paranoid? That way we can talk it out, maybe see if its justified, see if he's gaslighting you or if you are being overly paranoid.

He was on his phone for an hour and I accused him of doing it to avoid me. He offered to get me take away as a treat and I said it was because he hates my cooking. I'm cracking up.

When did this start, can you think of anything that triggered it? Or triggers it?

Definitely any sort of change - change scared me

Change is scary! But if it's affecting you to this extent maybe you need to seek some help - do you think that would be a good idea?

Why do you think you're scared of change, is it insecurity maybe, or fear of losing something, your partner?

I've got to be in work at 9.30. I've got our toddler up and ready for childcare and he's still in bed. He doesn't see anything wrong with that.

Hey

I fell asleep last night, I'm sorry

How are you today