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feeling really rubbish

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Nemo2007 · 01/04/2007 21:36

just fed up trying to muddle on but nothing is working. was peeling potatos and all could think of was other stuff to do with knife..sorry am being blunt and am not hiding my identity as otherwise I will keep pretending things are 'ok'

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CadburyCremeSquonk · 01/04/2007 21:37

{{{nemo}}} I'm afraid I don't have any advice but wanted to let you know straight away that someone's listening

kks · 01/04/2007 21:38

Is there anything particuler you are down about or is it life in general

Bambiraptor · 01/04/2007 21:38

Why are you feeling so bad? Has something particular happened?

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Nemo2007 · 01/04/2007 21:39

thanks squonk I probably know all the advice as have been here before but just trying to be open this time instead of hiding away and making things worse if that makes sense

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Nemo2007 · 01/04/2007 21:39

there has been loads happen since before christmas and I already suffer depression and anxiety so think its just reaching a draining point

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CadburyCremeSquonk · 01/04/2007 21:39

I do know it is always better to let it out and not bottle things up.

Bambiraptor · 01/04/2007 21:41

Are you by yourself? Do you have any one with you or near by?

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Nemo2007 · 01/04/2007 21:43

DH is here but he doesnt know how low have been feeling as he gets scared when I get like this which I dont blame him.

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lulumama · 01/04/2007 21:43

nemo

i know you have had a horrible time, and have had a recent bereavement....can you contact someone like CRUSE, who specialise in grief counselling...or call the samaritans, they will talk to you, or simply listen....

pretending things are ok..is not a good idea...good to let it out, and be honest, then you can deal with things and move forward

kks · 01/04/2007 21:44

I know this might sound silly but when i have my 'dark' moments i put on my Christina Aguilera cd 'Stripped' and i instantly feel better.

lulumama · 01/04/2007 21:44

have oyu been put in touch with your local crisis team and community psychiatric nurses

DH might find it hard to handle, but this is how it is,and you both need help to deal with this

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Nemo2007 · 01/04/2007 21:46

lulu am no good on the phone to be honest cant talk at the best of times as am totally self concious. Will phone CPN tommorow not caling crisis team as they are crap.

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lulumama · 01/04/2007 21:46

ok, that is good, can you call her tonight, or is it daytime only?

monika11 · 01/04/2007 21:47

once a friend of mine told me something very true i believe.
i remember this from time to time.
she said 'it is the way we look at life, things, etc' that effects the way we think.
try to look at things from a different angle.
we have 2 choices:we will either enjoy the life given to us or we will waste it.
hugs and XXXX

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Nemo2007 · 01/04/2007 21:48

daytime only and shes a bit crap think they find it hard to work with me as I used to work in mental health doing the job they do so supporting people in crisis etc..

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Debbsyandson · 01/04/2007 21:49

Nemo just see this sorry you feel so low,i think its the culmination of everything,esp losing your nan phaps some grief counselling as lulu suggests.I have big ears and will always listen ((((((hugs)))))))))

kks · 01/04/2007 21:50

I like your advice monika11

lulumama · 01/04/2007 21:52

monika..i agree

but the hardest thing in the world, when you are depressed, is to be positive, and look at things positively

nemo-- try and let the barriers down and let the nurses help

at the end of the day , you have had the most stressful time lately, and it is no surprise you are low

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Nemo2007 · 02/04/2007 15:16

haventphoned CPN as have been trying to keep busy instead......Hv is coming out on wednesday to do DD2 second lot of imms so will speak to her.
Having weird day as my mum has phoned to say she is paying for us to go to eurodisney which is fab but just makes me feel stressed and anxious so want to cry as its stupid because she is trying to do something nice for us!!

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rachfran · 02/04/2007 15:32

Only just seen this nemo, no advice to give but I am not far away if you need anything

penmack · 02/04/2007 16:04

nemo i have been through something very similar and just wanted to say that i know it is hard but try to open up to your cpn if you can (if not perhaps someone else close to you) they might really be able to help. i went to a fantastic pnd support group ,is there anything like this in your area.remember it wont be like this forever you will feel better i promise

lovelylou · 02/04/2007 17:50

Hi nemo, do you have a good friend you can talk to about how you feel. Whenever i feel low i have a wine night with my frien an get things off my chest it always makes me feel better. Friends are sometimes better than people who are close to the situation, whatever that may be. look after yourself chick xx

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Nemo2007 · 02/04/2007 18:37

thanks all

lovely lou I am not very good about talking over things face to face which is probably why 99% of my friendships are online. I just cant 'talk' dont know why but I feel overly self concious and probably a bit ashamed that I am like this.

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Dior · 02/04/2007 18:44

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Nemo2007 · 02/04/2007 20:27

thanks Dior you talk a lot of sense as I do know I have friends who would listen[including other mners] but I just cant get myself to use them that way. I hate that knife in hands moment as you do sort of get stuck in a loop with it where it is all you think about.

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