to consider putting my children into care

[toomuchshit]

Just on a temporary basis so i can get some help. I am not in a good way. I fantasise about suicide. I have researched lots of options but none are guaranteed. I don't want to die I just want everything to stop. I have no support, no friends, no family. My children don't deserve a mum who can barely cope. I don't know how much I can deal with. I don't want to deal with it anymore

What support are you getting now? Both with your health and to look after the children? Do you have family who can help?

How old? Do school/nursery know?

Where are you? Please call the Samaritans. Please x

I didn't want to leave you hear on your own. I've been to some dark places, but it sounds like you need to see your GP or get some very specialist help. Is there no one in your extended family who can help? Hugs

I have no support, no friends no family. I see a psychologist fortnightly but she's away for a month so I'm on my own. Ive called NHS 24 and was made to feel even worse. They are at school

I was at my gp and he referred me to get a CPN (still waiting 3 weeks later)

I would take yourself to A&E ( I work in a hospital and don't suggest this often , before I'm flamed) tell them how you feel , hopefully they should get the Crisis Team to see you.

I've been there too Op , it's truly awful but there is help out there . Xx

Im scared about what will happen to my kids. I don't want to lose them, i just need help

YANBU. I saw an inspirational speaker at a conference a few weeks ago who had voluntarily put her children into care and come out at the other side. If you feel it is the right route for you do it with your eyes open - you will need to be assessed before your children are returned to you and there is a chance they may not come back - it's not a babysitting service - but if you feel like you need to make that step to help move yourself forward it's absolutely worth considering. This is her website - survivingsafeguarding.co.uk/ - might be worth contacting her to see if she could give you some advice or support.

Contact your duty SW team they will be able to advise you on how they can help you best.

I don't know much about the situation but I would imagine it is better for you to say "I need help"'than for things to deteriorate and the decision to be taken away from you.

I can't imagine how hard it is to have to do that though.

I echo a PP take yourself to A and E and get the crisis team involved.

Good luck

In the short term, do your kids have friends whose families can give bits of respite?

I need to feed the children but I will be back in a bit. Thank you for the advice so far

I can't give you any advice but I'm sending you lots of positive vibes that you get the help you need.

This sounds like a genuine emergency, take yourself to A&E. You deserve to be heard, supported and helped. I hope you get the support you and your family need

I second going to A&E and tell them you feel suicide is a real option for you right now - or even a minor injuries unit, anywhere where professions are as they will not be able to leave you like that. In this situation it really doesn't matter if you're in the "wrong place", you just need contact with a health professional. Crisis team will be called and from there, the issue of your children will be taken care of too.
Where in the country are you? I'm a health professional.

Keep posting on here too so we know you're ok x

I have been suicidal in the past and had the crisis team etc, they do support you and the main thing is they want to help, also they said i was at risk to myself not the children. It is good if you can get help and support.

Absolutely agree with previous posters that the best course of action is to take yourself to A&E right away and tell them you are feeling suicidal. They will contact the crisis team and from there your duty social work team will become involved.

I think based on the information you have given in your OP, your children going into care temporarily is what is best for everyone. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how far away it seems now.

Take care

Perhaps don't contact safeguardingsurvivor for advice right now. She's had a very close bereavement and is taking time away...

So please however speak to children's services. We offer some great support links.

I think you should contact your local Social Services and explain to them what you have said here. Explain that you are requesting a Child in Need assessment. This should mean that they will provide additional support for you and your children. If they feel that your children are at risk of significant harm then they may make then subject to a Child Protection Plan or may consider accommodating them for a short period and in a planned way until your mental health has recovered.

Good Luck

Please just know that Samaritans have changed their policy - if you contact them and they feel that your children are in danger they may want to contact social services on your behalf. They wont trace your call, but if you give them enough information to work out who / where you are they will use it.

You are so brave to consider doing this, so your children are kept safe and well. It's really good of you to consider their wellbeing when you are feeling so awful. I applaud you for that.

I'm sorry, I don't have any help to offer. I just wanted to let you know I think you're doing well.

Call 111 and press option 2. You can speak to somebody in the mental health team straight away. Much quicker than visiting a and e. The crisis team aren't based in there and will come over when they are ready. (Long wait where I am,)