Easiest way to run away from home.

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Hi. Im 20 and with autisum which means i cant quite dress and wash myself . But i cant stay at home any longer. My parrents will always claim they not abuseive so i cant just get housing anymore. What do i do.

OK, so you don't know your tutor and didn't like him much. It's still part of his job to help you. I can see that going to him would be hard for you though.

There are other people at Uni who are meant to help students too. Find out about pastoral care there; go to Student Support and tell them that you need to talk to someone in complete confidence.

OP have you come accross an author, professor Elyn R Saks, she specialises in mental health law. Just wondering if her books would be useful to you?

I'm so fed up of my Mum saying my dad calling me a cunt is not abuseful.

1. Are you studying law at undergraduate degree level?

2. How do you attend lectures? How do you get there?

3. What is stopping you reporting this abuse to your lecturers? Or skipping a class to go and seek help from someone?

4. Why don't you answer questions that people ask you on this thread?

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I'm not there so I can't know. I have a group of friends who refer to each other as bitches, and swear casually and constantly. It's not what I do. But in that situation it isn't abusive. I suppose your mum thinks it isn't because she thinks it is normal.

If you don't like it, they shouldn't say it. Do you sometimes do things they don't like, as well? Relationships are complicated.

I don't think you are going to solve this one without getting real life help. At Uni, seems like the easiest place to start. They are professionals, you don't have to like them, or be liked by them to get help and support.

Op you always get good advice on all of your threads but you don't take it, then wonder why it's continuing.

How are you doing a law degree when you can't get yourself washed and dressed, and yet you say you have no additional needs?

It would be helpful if you could answer people's questions - people are taking time to help you

Do your parents manage your money OP?

Sort of. Most of my money (about 6 Grand as i dont spend much of student grant's) is in my bank acount in which they have the card for. They just wont teach me how to wash myself properly. I go to UNI on my own but they have already told everyone there that I am a fantastist and therefore no one beleives me.

I can't understand how you're at uni but aren't able to teach yourself how to wash.

What do you need to know? If you ask us we can tell you,

Could you watch some you tube clips relating to self care?

I am a fantastist

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Say it ain't so, Joe.

I volunteer at student services for a university and there's no way we would be ignoring this kind of thing.

Troll says they would help you, OP. You Just need to ask.

Your parents may say you are a fantasist because the situation looks so different from their point of view. They see that they protect you. You see that they keep you prisoner. They see that you can't manage on your own. You see that they haven't taught you how.

Which ever is the truth, you need some support to help you feel happier with the situation.

Please go to student support services. Do you know where the desk is? You can walk up to it when you next go in to uni and ask to talk to someone. You don't have to tell them everything straight away. You can decide how much you want to tell them.

To be fair op you have told us quite a lot on here over the past few months.

I remember why your parents don't give you any freedom- I don't agree with them but I think you are vulnerable to specific 3Rd parties whom we have mentioned before so can understand it on that level.

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sammy get a grip... you haven't read the previous threads, as you say.

Several of us have tried to help the OP before - he's doing a law degree but can't wash or dress himself, despite no physical disabilities and yet he has no complex needs or support requirements

I'm baffled. Ds has asd and I don't ever remember consciously teaching him or his sibling to ever wash or dress. I feel like I'm missing something complicated.

How after 20 years can you not know this (or consider yourself able to find out) but be capable of embarking on a law degree and the level of research that presumably entails? I'm genuinely curious.

I can afford the time and thought for this poster, and have lost nothing should all not be as it seems (I'm sure it isn't entirely as presented). Whatever the reality, it is possible OP needs support which I can afford to offer. I've met some unusual people in my time, and can imagine versions of this scenario in various forms.
Also, journalism uni students house sharing with my son couldn't put together a decent letter to their landlord, and a friend's daughter was doing Law in sixth form despite very poor academic skills.

I always tell my kids they need to go for a shower and brush their teeth and I make sure they do but if these habits don't start when they are children then it makes it difficult as an adult.

Obviously it's better if these habits start as children but the op is an intelligent person and should be able to figure out how to keel themselves clean, or ask for specific advice on what they're finding hard. Many people (including myself) have offered to help them find what they need.