Easiest way to run away from home.

[11122aa]

Hi. Im 20 and with autisum which means i cant quite dress and wash myself . But i cant stay at home any longer. My parrents will always claim they not abuseive so i cant just get housing anymore. What do i do.

You need help. Social services is the first port of call. You deserve better than this life of abuse and once to get the help you need your life will improve dramatically.

I won't lie... Without meeting you and this just being words on a page- the whole thing does sound a bit crazy and inconsistent.

You have to have a certain level of self sufficiency if you're at uni. I think you make issues for yourself regarding showering etc.

As for your parents; you are studying law!!! You know your entitlements- you have free access daily to libraries, computers, counselling and support staff. Why have you not made use of them?

Please go and talk to your tutor. Your tutor's role is not just to guide and help you academically, but to help you personally too. At the very least, they can point you towards the help available to you which the University itself provides - considerable.

Try to help yourself, that's the path to real empowerment. Small steps, don't expect too much of yourself at first.

So, write down what your parents do;cou it be summed up as "they are abusive towards me and are disablers." ?

Then write down what you need "I need people who are enablers around me so I can learn to look after myself"

Then take all that to your tutor and either tell him/her or hand them the notes.

Answer questions as well as you can.

When you've done that, you're on a path towards leaving your parents, but it will take that amount of effort from you.

You can do it.

I dont have a tutor. Well i do but i havent seen him since my first year and i didnt really like him.

I hope i fail my exams and then prehaps ill somehow raise 10 grand plus in couple of years to go back to uni when I am stable. seems unlikely but maybe ill do it. Might crowdfund.

This is really very odd.

I hope i fail my exams and then prehaps ill somehow raise 10 grand plus in couple of years to go back to uni when I am stable. seems unlikely but maybe ill do it

This doesn't sound like a rational, sensible plan.

Have you got a gp? Could you go and talk to them about what's going on and how you've been feeling?

I cant get out to the GP. My mum just wont let me. And i cant leave the house without them letting me as the police will called immediate.

What do you mean, you can't leave the house without the police being called?

Call the GP practice while you are out at Uni, ask them if you have a local occupational therapy community team and ask for their number because it is something you can self refer to. Call them, give them only your mobile number and ask to meet them to discuss your needs at University explaining the background about not wanting to do it at home. They'll support you and give you techiques, advice or equipment to assist you.

Contact adult social services, again discuss your situation and see what they suggest. Alternatively your university will have a safeguarding team - or student services. They'll also be able to support you, and you might just be able to email them.

Im not sure you would get many people donating to crowdfund someone who willfully dropped out of Uni and isn't willing to help themselves.

The police will not come out to investigate an adult who has left the house

Can you covertly record your parents behaviour to back up your claims so you can seek advice? Seems obvious but.....

How do you get to university if you can't leave the house?

Can you miss a lecture or tutorial and get help during that time? I know it is not what you are supposed to do, but getting help is important.

There will be someone at the university, or at your GP surgery, who will listen to you. You don't have to have your parents looking after you.

In that case, perhaps risking sectioning is the answer? If your parents are lying and manipulating SS as you say, then being an inpatient would be your chance to get help without their input.

(I am aware, from personal experience, that being sectioned is deeply unpleasant - but OP has posted multiple threads with a common set of themes, and being sectioned would ensure an assessment without parental involvement)

Its exam time. And i would try for a loan but what bank would give one to someone not certain to be able to keep up repayments.

Do you have a mobile? (I'm assuming you do)

Why are the police called if you leave the house?

If you're over 18 surely you're an adult & capable of making your own choices/decisions.

Why can't you call someone whilst you are at Uni op? Lots of people have suggested this but you haven't responded.

You omly get sectioned if you pose serious harm to yourself or others. N8t being able to wash yourself woulnt count. When you are at uni you have a golden opportunity to ring social services/the police and say you are being abused. You are an adult and need to be treated as such.

This all just sounds like alot of self pity and excuses to me.

The police will be called if you leave, get you somehow manage to go to uni?

This poster has posted quite often, he is in a quite specific situation.

11122aa how about a telephone helpline? could you telephone someone and talk through your options? perhaps student services at UNi, or the GP, or an SW? or even Childline?

You are vulnerable, and unhappy, and your opinions should be taken into account.

We cannot know how much help you need, how easy it would be for you to learn self care, or whether your parents are actually doing a good job of caring for you, even though you don't like their decisions.

You really need help in real life.

Hi,

We've had a number of reports about this thread as many people are concerned that the OP seems very vulnerable. Because of this we're going to move this thread over to our Mental Health topic shortly.

11122aa, we're so sorry that you're feeling this way. We can see that you've been given some good advice and support here but we'd echo the advice that you seek help in real life too.