Spending addiction

[OverSpender]

I have tried posting in Style & Beauty but no joy, so trying here.

I am at my wits’ end as I seem to be totally unable to stop spending on things I don’t need.

I try to stop and have spending bans but will then see something which is ‘just right’.

I’ve tried to be logical with my spending and make lists of items I know I use regularly and would like to re-purchase, or items that I have wanted for a long time – e.g. classic style of shoes ( I don't currently have a plain black pair of court shoes for instance!)

But I will then go shopping and sabotage said list with an impulse purchase. And guess what, I never seem to have those ‘key’ items that I really could use.

Has anyone else successfully overcome this hoarding / spending mentality? It’s taking over my storage, putting my relationships in jeopardy and causing me grief.

I just want to live a non cluttered, organised life. I’ve battled this for about 20 years now and am despairing of every getting myself sorted out.

I think I was probably in the same boat as you a good few years ago. I realised that having all the stuff didn't make me happy, and managed to successfully Marie Kondo to the point where I have a reasonable amount of stuff. It has made me happier.

No advice on how to get to that point, I just realised I didn't want it all and started to get rid. The amount I had shocked me when I realised, and I think that's helped me stop spending, but it's very much a work in progress as I probably still haven't cracked only buying what I need.

Not so helpful I'm afraid, but you aren't alone