MN not working for me

[Spoo]

Just wanted some advice on how to get friendly with mumsnetters. I do post but I don't seem to make any friends on here. It seems that lots of people chat away and seem to know each other quite well. Whereas I feel that I always seem to kill threads. I have lots of friends outside Mumsnet and am generally outgoing but I would just love to have some friends on line. Any advice would be appreciated.

Hi spoo, I always kill threads and my english is bad

Hi Spoo nice to meet you

hello spoo, your profile says you have been here a while?

i like the word thingy too but it has too many messages at themoment so my computer freezes, shame

Someone has finally said what I have felt.

Hello Spoo

I posted on here in March 2005 a few times, got scared, then had a prolonged holiday until December 06. It's been my saviour in many ways, I have obviously grown a thick skin and ignored the amount of threads I have killed

I felt pretty much like you about mumsnet until I started going to the bar -everyone there was very friendly (although you're right, it can be diffiicult to keep up sometimes!) & I started doing links to cocktails - I like to find people cocktails that fit their names - having a bit of trouble with yours though Spoo!
But if you like Archer's, I've brought you - this over from the bar - click on the link to get your virtual cocktail.

Now I know quite a few people from the bar, so I look out for their names on other threads, as well as threads I'm interested in.
I wouldn't say I'm well known yet, but e very so often someone says hi, which is nice.

I love my fuzzy naval!! I have had a quick look at the bar but I was struggling to undertsnad what everyone was talking about. Maybe I will post tomorrow as my DH is making 'i'm going to bed - aren't you?' noises.

Its really lovely to get lots of his from everyone. Hello back!

Always feel the same as you, have been posting for quite a while and recognise names but am not well known I don't think.
just keep posting, i've learnt loads of things from here,my motto is to avoid controversial threads, you could get into a heated debate(although you might enjoy that)
I find it quite overwhelming how so many people have so many different views, but i suppose that's what life is like.
It's like popping into the pub at lunchtime or a suppertime for a quick chat

hello spoo - I DO recognise your name ... and just wanted to say I've been osting on here probably for a year now and have never yet dared even CLICK on the bar thread (let along post on it!) more than once or twice because it always looks full of people who know each other - just assume I'd be the saddo in the corner with a coke not knowing anyone and going to the loo every 5 mins, lol!
Don't worry, I think mn is just like this - there are a (probably quite small) number of people who DO know each other really well, and lots of us who just wander in and out. It IS hard not to take it personally though {smile]

(and lots of us wil go 'hello spoo' next time you post

Hello spoo - not seen your name before. Keep posting -we're nice really.

ps I'm an expert threadkiller!

hi funnypeculiar - are you still unbereavable?

Well, in RL I am the quiet person in the corner of the bar, but lulumama is a great landlady - the Bet Lynch of mumsnet & she always says hello when she's there. She has a poorly leg atm so I think she's at her mum's tonight.
Come along & meet everybody tomorrow - it usually opens about sevenish - or if you're more a daytime person you could try the tea shop. That's usually opened by lissielou, but she's in hospital after an ectopic pregnancy, so shosha's opening it atm - just come along, have tea & cakes & chat about anything you want!

margo - I was sooooo proud of that (sad but true...)
(Spoo - would like to point out that this is the second ever time someone has recongnised me from another thread!!

Hello spoo

Just pile on in.

Also remember that sometimes threads move so fast that its difficult to reply to everyone, or, posts can be missed altogether. Just keep on hacking away at it..

Hi Spoo, I'm in exactly the same boat as you but then I probably don't post as often as I should/would like to. Sometimes I get in a bit of a huff about it all but can't stay away more than a couple of days.

Sorry I don't have any advice but it's a great thread and I'll definitely know you next time I see you.

Great to know that people are here when you need them. Just been to a mums group and feeling a bit 'out of it' there. I think it must be me having a paranoid few days. Thanks for all your support

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Hi Spoo keep posting and i'll talk to you anytime.
I felt like you when i first came on here, but now i just post and hope for the best!!

I thought I was the only one who felt like that! Maybe we could start a group for 'Thread killers'or something.

Oh I still kill loads of threads! Like MB says, don't worry. Paranoia is part of the bedding in process

"pretend we are drinking G&T!"

Pretend? I never knew it was pretend!

Hi Spoo - I havent been on MN for long and although i dont particularly know anyone well, i am getting to know the regulars.

It takes time and the more you post the more people will get to know you.... trust me i seem to post the most ridiculous things and get the p* taken out of me each time!

And there proves it - i'm a thread killer too! PMSL!

just posting so nip doesn't think she's a thread killer

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Good thread Spoo - I don't often venture from the safety of the postnatal thread but do find myself looking at 'threads I'm on' and feel a bit despondent if most of them seem to be ones that I have killed! Plough on regardless is good advice though I think

I'm glad you said that about the pretend G&T Monkeytrousers, I haven't been to the bar (yet , have been tempted on occasion but get hampered by DP going 'will you ever get your nose out of that bloody laptop') - but it's good to know I wouldn't be the only RL boozer in the bar if I did!