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Foggy here...
We have work to do... but want to walk to the pub in the next village..

I don't know if this is the right place but I need help. DP is saying that I ask too much of him and he can't support me anymore, he thinks I'm depressed. I'm feeling abandoned and it's all my own fault for picking fights

Morning! Woke up at a leisurely 7.30 today which is basically 8.30 with old time! Hope everyone is enjoying the fresh air today and yesterday.

Salted DD9 as in 9 years or number 9?

I'm hoping to drag my other half to the playground with me and Tornado boy today, and then we will relax at home the rest of the day. Cooking pasta carbonara for dinner later too, so that will be interesting.

salted sounds like a busy day P.E. hunting, if they don't have their kit do they still have to do it in their underwear? That might motivate her to remember where it is!

bear a walk sounds good, hope your work goes ok too.

b4nana welcolme, this is a safe place for anyone who needs a chat and a bit of support.

purple hope Tornado boy manages to tire himself out at the playground ready for your relaxing afternoon. Pasta carbonara sounds good, getting hungry now...

DH still asleep his meds make him sleep a lot, I'm board enough to be considering housework as a viable passtime

Hello b4nana I'm sorry you are feeling bad, but YES you are in a good place here, we are all living with a bunch of MH issues, typically of the anxiety & depression sort. We haven't been on here for very long but I think we all get some strength from it. So please feel free to unload on us, you are very welcome & I think we are good listeners. Have some and to officially welcome you here.

(Quick burst of anxiety- not really 'official', I'm not management or anything, I just want to make you feel safe & welcome here!)

Mmmm.... pasta... thanks purple

Nine years old!!!

b4nana, yes of course it's possible that you are depressed, and if you are then please know that there is nothing to be ashamed of in getting a diagnosis & some help. It often comes along with its friend anxiety, making us worry about being so low in mood & panic about stuff.
(Maybe we should start a thread on 'my panic attacks in public places', I could name a few!)
So please don't think that you are the only one feeling this way, there are a lot of us out here, and the NHS has some great tools to help us cope with he situation & what life throws at us.
Would you be in a position to see your GP this week? Sometimes it helps as soon as the appt is booked & you realise that you are starting to get the situation under control.
I'm sure your DH will be proud of you for starting to talk about it.

salted you've made me smile

salted pannic attacks in public places = supermarket and work not as bad as the complete melt down in the living room though.

b4nana from supporying DH with his MH needs I know how much easier I found it when he got help from outside sources and it wasn't all just on me. Also your DP has to set some boundries to safeguard his mental health, I'm sure he still cares but maybe needs to take some time out for himself too. I love DH, I also need to get some space for me regularly to look after myself.

Glad to be of service carer

b4nana she's a wise old bird, that carer lass.

Less of the old cheeky

Welcome B4nana :) You can offload here, it can be difficult to rely on your other half for all the support you need. Definitely ask for help with you GP.

My other half don't want to go to the playground today, so we're staying in :( I don't want to go alone, as we go alone enough in the weekdays!

Guess we'll do some more painting later...

Ummm, Purple, don't mean to interfere but, ahem, could Tornado's Daddy perhaps take t-boy out for a while, maybe?
(I think you probably deserve it!)

Didn't manage to get DH out on bike ride either purple and it was his idea! He did accompany me to the supermarket though which went very well, slight anxiety on the way but fine when we got there, so thats an achievement think I should be able to go by myself next week.

Watching the Corpse Bride at the mo.

Grandparents to visit this evening, which will be nice

Thank you all, salted, anxious and purple. I'm wondering whether I'm low enough ask the GP to prescribe me something. But DP is insisten that medication is not the answer and I should simply wake up, realise I have a good life and get on with enjoying it

I don't know how when I've broken him and hurt him so badly by leaning on him

I don't deserve to be happy

He cares so much about me even now but has told me to move out, that he can't trust me a third time not to hurt him because I'm hurting myself

May I join? I want a little place to offload sometimes. I have a good RL support network I seem to be incapable of using for fear of burdening anyone.

I have pretty bad anxiety. Since I was about 7 I think although I didn't recognise how I felt was unusual until my mid twenties.

Now in my thirties and a chronic doer, over achiever who secretly has the worst self esteem.

I love cats and people and walking and being outdoors.

Hi

Ooh cats, you'll get in well here must
How strange that some of us don't want to 'burden' people who would probably leap at the chance to support us. We are a bunch of oddbods! (Disclaimer: I use that as a non-diagnostic word, it doesn't mean we are in any way weak, just as when a pp described some (all?!) of us as 'barking' a few days ago.)
You could go out for a nice autumn walk with some of us on here, we'd love to kick some leaves with you. B4nana will you come too? I reckon we could all find stuff to giggle about together - we'll build a big pile of leaves & hide purples son tornado-boy & he can jump out & shout BOO to latex when she finally comes back

b4nana the situation sounds more complicated than first meets the eye.

Firstly yes you do deserve to be happy.

Secondly when you are very low its almost impossible to "just pull yourself together" I speak from experience. The first time I had depression I tried for ages with councelling alone and when I eventually gave in and started anti depressants I regretted not starting them earlier. And the next time I felt myself heading that way I started them earlier and didn't get nearly as low. And to be honest if your DP is asking you to seek help then he needs to be willing to accept the views of the proffesionals you go to for help. The thing with depression is it doesn't matter if you have lots of good stuff in your life, it won't let you enjoy them. It would also be worth lookingbinto councelling through your GP or privately if you can afford it.

It sounds to me that you need to get a better relationship with yourself in order to have a better relationship with DP.

b4nana, with the greatest respect to DP, it's not him who feels like this, indeed it's not all about him at all! So if I were you, I would talk to someone asap & get the support that you deserve. Can you imagine how good it will be when you are actually not feeling either low or anxious? It'll be fab!!
And if it is actually all about DP & I was wrong (as if!) then think how good he will feel, with you not being such a rotter to him all of the time

Salted, I've just been out to my sports club and done a workout with the group. I'm new there so trying to keep a brave face onband not scare them away with the heavy stuff.

I would love to kick some leaves around!! None round here down by the harbour unfort.

Hey, we'll done on going to the supermarket, carer, that's a real achievement!
Fab advice, too - & on that note, I'd like you to read the following revised statement, if you don't mind:

b4nana she's a wise young bird, that carer lass.

Happy now?

Thank you for all your kind words, it really means so much to me right now

We parted today, after a fight where he said "move out I can't handle anymore", and he can't trust me - I don't know if that means he doesn't want me back or not - are we done? Are we over?

Hi must welcome, my cats are arround here somewhere, I think they may be asleep in a corner somewhere.

salted I'd love to join your walk, especially if I can kick up the leaves with Tornado boy I'm just a big kid really