Would you LTB?

[WibblyWobblyJellyHead]

If your spouse:

Doesn't work, but also does minimal childcare as all DC at school.

Does very little housework, and in fact has the MIL round once a week to clean.

Can't be trusted with any access to money or cards due to a history of running up horrendous debts or buying bottles of wine everyday.

Because of the debts you have to work overtime every day and wfh several evenings a week.

Rarely cooks for the family.

Has lost their driving license so you have to take the DC to their evening activities.

Frequently ends up hospitalised due to self inflicted injuries.

Goes days without a shower and has days when they don't get out of bed at all.

Has put on nearly five stone since you met and no longer makes any effort with their appearance.

Makes huge purchases like a new car and a dog without consulting you.

With all of that going on, would you LTB?

well at least DH has been offered support, even if he chooses not to take it up. Glad to hear you have family support.

Keep on trying. I can relate to some days being easier than others. Like you I used to have job etc but now find it difficult to do the basic household things that need to be done. Although getting stuck in a rut is a possibility, as the previous poster said, with things like depression etc getting 'things done' can be slower and require a lot more effort than they might have at other points in your life, which doesn't mean that you're not trying.

It sounds like you have a lot to deal with at once. I hope things start to get better for you soon, and that you are able to get the help you need rather than cause damage to yourself.

It almost does not sound real but if this is the case i would be booking myself into the local travelodge sound like he has big issues of a grown up but does not have grown up balls!

Sounds like my DH at times when he's not so well and Im not leaving. Supporting someone with mental health problems can be hard work, make sure they have enough support too and look after yourself.

Sounds like me when I had depression! I recovered though it took years.

I'm with beefthief.

Firstly my thoughts are with the OP and she has had some good advice and support...

...once it was established that she was female and struggling rather than referring to a male who was behaving like a bastard.

I challenge any of the posters on the first page who weighed in with "leave" to come back and explain whether they feel the same now. No-one? Funny that.

Send him back to his mother's ASAP.

Great example.

Beardeddragon. Read the thread then explain if you think the same

Really interesting use of a reverse - OP I hope you don't take the LTB comments to heart before you admitted it was a reverse and also fascinating how many people don't RTFT - you said it was you on the first page and they clearly haven't bothered to have a look at the thread, just jumped in blind.

I am saddened by how many people who presumed it was a DH and showed shocking double standards (or didn't RTFT responded like that), but heartened that your DH is sticking around, he sounds like a good one and I hope you can find something positive from that. Good luck with the change in meds and

Oh blimey this is old (although not as old as some of the zombie threads being resurrected today, what is going on!?!) and there's me saying RTFT , lol! If you are seeing this OP I hope it all worked out and things are looking up..