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Mental health

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26 weeks -survival

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RachaelLaurenDaisyStone · 18/04/2016 20:30

Hi. Trying to find answers but can only find studies. If I killed myself at 26 weeks pregnant would the baby be able to survive?

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Peppaismyhomegirl · 18/04/2016 20:34

Very very doubtful it would. Are you ok? I'm listening. Why would you want to know this? I'm 25 weeks pregnant btw. We have something in common anyway x

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RachaelLaurenDaisyStone · 18/04/2016 20:36

I can't go on. I just I can't. I don't want to take the baby away from my husband as well as killing myself. I want to know away I can die and leave him the baby

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Mumandmummer · 18/04/2016 20:39

You need to call someone IRL and tell them how you are feeling. Is anyone there with you? You need to talk to someone urgently.

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RachaelLaurenDaisyStone · 18/04/2016 20:41

It won't help

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Peppaismyhomegirl · 18/04/2016 20:41

Could you talk to your husband? Where in the country are you?
What's the matter? You can talk here. X

Peppaismyhomegirl · 18/04/2016 20:42

Do you have any other children and so you know your having with this baby?

RNBrie · 18/04/2016 20:42

It's unlikely the baby would service unless he or she received medical attention straight away.

Can you tell us more about how you are feeling?

Quodlibet · 18/04/2016 20:43

Oh OP. You must be having such a tough time to be feeling like this. Your baby can't do without you though.

Please reach out to someone and tell them how you are feeling. You can call the Samaritans: 116 123 or email [email protected].

We are here too if it helps you to talk to us.

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RachaelLaurenDaisyStone · 18/04/2016 20:44

I just can't.

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LifeIsChaos · 18/04/2016 20:44

I will answer your question. As soon as your heart stops your baby will die. No one will deliver a 26 weeker so you can kill yourself. A baby born at 26 weeks may survive with lots of medical intervention but that is not guaranteed. The baby may survive and develop normally or may have special needs.

Killing yourself is not the answer, you need to seek medical help. Please for your sake, your child and your dh. Get help now x

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 18/04/2016 20:50

You obviously care about your husband and your baby or you would not be asking this question.

If you have no one with you to talk to please contact the Samaritans, they won't judge they will just listen.

Rpj16 · 18/04/2016 20:51

You're not alone, whatever happens there is always someone somewhere who cares about you and every moment passes. Whatever the matter is, just try and look past it. We don't know the details, but please don't think that this is the answer. Can you talk to your folks? Or call Samaritans like the PP said. They will help x

Whenwillwe3meetagain · 18/04/2016 20:52

Did you feel like this prior to pregnancy?
Having my son was the best thing I ever did - think about the magical day you will meet your child.

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YetAnotherHelenMumsnet · 18/04/2016 20:52

Hello Rachel, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources - here. You can also go to the Samaritans' website here, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

We are going to move this thread to the Mental Health section shortly.

zaza86 · 18/04/2016 20:52

As above, you clearly care otherwise you wouldn't have come on here to talk. Take the above advice and talk to someone. Or talk to us - can you explain why you feel this way? That baby has so much to look forward to - as do you.

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 18/04/2016 21:54

Anti natal depression is a very real thing and you need help. I know that when you reach the stage of wanting to kill yourself it's hard to see another way, but you still have that bit of you that cares if your baby lives and cares about your DH.

I know it feels logical, but what you're thinking and how you're thinking is being skewed by depression.

I know when you reach this stage it can be hard to reach out, so if you can't talk to your DH, try calling or emailing the Samaritans, or call 111 for medical advice. If you think you can hang on, make one promise to yourself to go and see your GP first thing tomorrow.

Things can get better, honestly they can. Your baby needs you. It won't survive if you kill yourself. Please talk to someone in RL.

SurroMummy13 · 19/04/2016 04:02

It's unlikely the baby would survive.

I went through the same thought process throughout my pregnancy. But so glad I didn't. My daughter is 3 and although drives me mad. She's
Happy and healthy.

Try to be practical, write down in a few words what each negative issue is that's getting to you.

Then write a positive way you could try and resolve each particular issue

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