Hi Jammington (love the nn btw!)
Here's some 
for you as I think your honesty is really impressive.
I don't think you are lazy - and I don't think it is at all helpful for you (or others on here!) to label yourself like that either.
First, I don't really think it is possible for anyone with three children under 9 years who are loved , clothed, fed, and live in a relatively clean house to be truly lazy.
Secondly, if you were truly lazy, you wouldn't be bothered about getting them to school on time or brushing their hair before they go and you wouldn't be posting on here asking for advice about how to change.
And as you say, if it was as simply as saying to yourself "right, well I am going to stop being "lazy" tomorrow", then huge numbers of people like me and you wouldn't have so many problems with procrastination - just ask the tax office!
I really feel for you because I struggle with some of the same issues which (only in part!) I have managed to overcome to some degree.
If you are anything like me, then there could be a number of factors at work here:
- you mentioned that your mother has depression and has always procrastinated
this must be key
even though you say that you are not depressed yourself, I think you might be (I obviously don't know for sure!) ie there are clues in your posts such as "Everything seems so complicated to me, and strewn with obstacles." (this in relation to finding tupperware to store food). And when you say about not wanting to get up and dressed on Saturdays for the grocery delivery.
And even if you are not clinically depressed, you are bound to have learnt depressive thought patterns and behaviours from your mother, even if you are not consciously aware of them. For example, she may not have modelled "how to live life, get the boring stuff done but stil enjoy yourself at the same time" (my mother certainly didn't!). You might find therapy helpful to overcome and change these "default" ways of thinking.
You also mention anxiety in your first post, and depression and anxiety often go together.
So it could be worth having a chat with your gp to establish (a) if you have any physical problems that are making you feel tired/overwhelmed and (b) if you are depressed or not.
- do you have perfectionist tendencies?
I ask this because I do and it means I get "stuck" on a particular task because I get very tense about doing it "properly" which means I avoid doing it. Also, I don't think the grocery delivery man would drop down dead if he saw you in your pjs
I am sure he sees many interesting sights on his rounds!
And the dc won't starve if you switch to school dinners for a while!
My advice would be to lower your standards and hold your chin up high (easier said than done I know) but if you are not anxious and apologetic about things "not being perfect" ie you are comfortable being in your pjs or tracksuit bottoms when the shopping gets delivered, then others will react in that same way too (obviously this applies to much more than grocery deliveries!)
- you might be struggling with motivation simply because you don't have enough things in your life that aremotivating and fulfilling right now!! A lot of emotional energy is used up when you raise dc. And, a lot of household chores and chores related to bringing up three dc, are frankly endless, boring, repetitive and particularly soul-destroying because they all need doing again a week later. This results in us delaying them, which results in us not having time to do the things we enjoy ie it becomes a vicious circle.
The answer to this is to ring-fence (and stick to it whatever!!) one or two hours for yourself per week to do something you really, really enjoy. You will, I promise, feel better for it!! And it will allow you to "bank" a bit of energy for yourself/restore yourself.
Do you mind me asking how it came about that you are working three days a week and at home for two? Was it your choice? Do you find your job interesting? Are you expected to do most of the chores at home in your two days off?
How supportive is your oh?
I remember the days when I did a job I loved and I came back home and happily cooked or cleaned or did laundry - because there was sufficient fulfilment in other areas of my life - that I didn't feel resentful or depressed about doing some chores! It was a good contrast!
However, now I can't work properly (expat/tax reasons) and I am stuck only working a few hrs a week, doing volunteering, and being a sahm for the rest - a decision I was never consulted about - I feel really quite resentful and demotivated.
Just wittering on about all of this because it might be helpful to ask yourself some honest questions about all of this!! Such as, are you delaying things to create a last minute "crisis" to give yourself a buzz because you are fundamentally bored?
Or are you not doing things because you are resentful (consciously or unconsciously) that you have found yourself in a position where you are working 3 days a week and choring for 2 and basically not finding either much fun?
Also, I know quite a few mothers whose employers have allowed them to go down to three days a week but still expect them to take on a full work-load. Are you sure this isn't the case with you?
- I've found developing almost subconscious "habits" helpful when it comes to facing the endless household chores. You say you tried a system in which the house is divided in to zones - which sounds like Flylady - although it fell by the wayside.
I just wanted to say that I have found Flylady really helpful. The language on the site is barftastic in the extreme and I don't follow the system slavishly at all but quite a few of her cleaning "rules" are really helpful such as just doing one thing for 15 mins, having a morning and evening routine that becomes automatic, not being perfectionist about things!
I post on a long-standing thread on here where we follow the Flylady system imperfectly and support one another along the way - it may seem a bit cliquey because many posters have been on it for 5 years plus - but we are really v. friendly and non-judgemental and you would be most welcome to join! Also some posters find the accountability of posting "to do" lists in the morning and "ta da" lists in the evening quite helpful.
Link here: here
Other housekeeping tips that have helped (gleaned from Mumsnet) are "the power of three" principle ie just do three things and then reward yourself with something nice like Mnsetting or reading and "the floors/clothes/dishes" principle ie if you spend 5 or 10 mins on one or two or three of those things every day then the basics are getting done! Even five minutes of chores done intensively makes a difference!
Then spend the rest of the time doing something interesting for yourself! And that in turn will give you energy to go back to some of the boring stuff!
Finally - never, ever compare yourselves to others - we all have strengths and weakness in different areas. Those who have their Christmas cards already written may be extremely efficient and organised or they may have fed their dc ready meals for the last two weeks or their washing may be piling up or they may just really love Christmas and getting in touch with others! Whose to know? Best to focus on yourself and your own choices and priorities!
[Now I just have to follow my own advice ]
HTH anyway!! Good luck!