I am really struggling with my relationship at the moment and I am not communicating as I should be with dp as I am always worried about 'whats round the corner'
Since being together we have had problems with his ex, when I met him she had just moved out. He let her stay after they split up as she said she had no where else to go. But every time he had a date she would show up.
Luckily she had moved out when he met me , but he told her about me and she turned up crying and saying she was jealous etc ( she was getting married 2 weeks after doing this)
As a few months went on she would call him during the night frequently and say she had crashed her car/ was upset/ couldn't sleep etc and he would act on it. She seemed to play up more than ever. Thankfully he saw it more and more as she put requests and demands on him. And eventually he asked her for the sake of his life and wanting to move on and not feel responsible for her all the time ( and she has a husband now ) please can she leave him alone.
She got angry, went quiet for a couple of weeks and then started again. We went through the process of changing mobile numbers, land lines, and now we have even moved house and got married recently. Neither of us are now on facebook . So now she emails the last one a week after we were married saying congratulations he didnt open it to know what else it said- no idea how she even knows we got married! . He sends them straight to delete without reading them, but seriously I just want to relax. She has taken to turning up to a sports club he used to go to - but has had to stop going because reading about it we just need to keep away and ignore any requests.
I know he is doing all he can to protect us but I am struggling with the on edge feel, and it seems worse now we are married - it seems like there is so much more to loose by someone playing games with us and I am scared . I have read about borderline personality disorder ( she was diagnosed whilst with him) and this is all normal behavior. Dp says for us just to be strong and nothing will come between us , but I don't no how many more years this will go on for .