help i dont know what to do

[samandkat]

My brother who is twenty-one next month has got asperges ADHD and autism aswell as a few other mental problems that I can remember the names of

He lives with our dad and claims DLA he has never worked and does not understand the reality of the outside world or how hard it can be for someone like him to cope with been independent

He has broken our dad he does not seem to care for anyone but himself he wants to move out which no one is stopping him he says that its so easy to get a job etc etc etc

I just don't know what to do I've tryed talking to him but he won't listen as I am apparently wrong I've tryed showing him reality but he just looks the other way me and our dad are stuck at what to do

Autism is a developmental disorder of the brain and as such is pretty much permanent; there is no medication you can take for it and unfortunately it tends to have a fairly detrimental impact on the sufferer's quality of life, in varying ways. Not many people with autism hold down a job, or even live independently, even if they are classed as being "high functioning" as their condition usually prevents it, so your brother is not alone in having these issues.

Unfortunately services for adults with autism in the UK are pretty poor and so older people with "milder" ASD often fall through the gaps.

You could start with the National Autistic Society and go from there. There may be ways to get your brother into supported housing if your father can no longer cope with him.

(Also just so you know; Aspergers IS autism, they are not separate conditions.)