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"putting the SPRING back in our step - village support for depression and anxiety"

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LEMmingaround · 03/03/2014 21:29

Heres the new thread guys. What is this, thread 9?

This is a thread that is situated in a virtual village of support for those suffering from mental health issues, or just those struggling with what life throws at them.

Please feel free to join in.

OP posts:
SnowyMouse · 14/03/2014 20:15

Sounds like a good week on balance, CIQ Smile I hope the anxiety gets more manageable for you.

I had a nice day too, some family came over Smile

DumDum32 · 14/03/2014 22:48

Evening ciq and snowy & all

Day has been ok spent mostly with DD in bed... She is thankfully asleep now... I've got a really bad headache thanks to the stupid voices. I swear diazepam has stopped working on calming me down! I've taken a zopiclone to help me sleep tonight even though I have been trying not to rely on it too much!

I wanted to ask if anyone suffers from flashback of past events in their life & how u cope with them. I feel as if I'm loosing my marbles with it all lately :( I'm due to start one to one counselling soon but need to have some sort of strategy of coping till then. Or I could speak about in my group therapy but don't really want to talk to people in RL about my past as I'll be Blush

TheShimmeringPussycat · 15/03/2014 00:18

Hello all. Well I have had a productive week overall, although began it being completely exhausted. I am working hard on some writing, and sometimes having 2 dozes a day, or one sleep and one doze, and realising that's just how I am. No wonder I found ordinary employment difficult.

We all have patterns of feeling more active and then needing to rest, it seems to me. For some reason the world out there seems to think we shouldn't be like this Sad and a bit Angry

hoochymama1 · 15/03/2014 10:01

Oh no, it's all going pear shaped. I had a review in work yesterday and was criticised for poor time management and not being able to prioritise cases. Obviously now it's the four horsemen of the apocalypse, and I couldn't sleep well last night Sad

I thought it was hard but I was doing ok Confused

So..I want to run away, but I am going to try to address stuff, and see if things improve.
The A/D's make me feel so fuzzy, or is it the depression. I'm going to bed at 8:30 each night just to cope.

Maybe I can't work, is that something I just have to accept? So relevant to what you've just said SP But I hate the thought of dh being the only one earning.

I have just self referrred to time2change, but I know it takes ages.

(((All)))

DumDum32 · 15/03/2014 11:43

((( SP & hoochy ))) ((( all )))

I'm really not in a good place today as still in bed... I cannot stop my thoughts today and voices r strong :(

hoochymama1 · 15/03/2014 12:03

((( DumDum )))

Go away, DD's voices!

Can you distract yourself, DD? Spider solitaire switches my head off.

DumDum32 · 15/03/2014 12:14

Thanks hoochy I'll try that... I need to get out of bed to see to DD but feel so exhausted and drained :(

NanaNina · 15/03/2014 14:30

Hello all - feeling very crap here - forced myself out of bed at 12.30 and had a long cry - shut the door so DP wouldn't hear me cus I feel so bad for worrying him, but he heard me anyway and came and held me. I just don't know what is going on - have only had 3 really good days this month and we are half way through. Suicidal thoughts very much in my mind.

DD I'm sorry I can't help with what you ask - are the flashbacks related to trauma in your childhood. I ask because a lot of people suffer from PTSD when this is the case, and there is a very good therapy for it apparently (EMDR) I think - you'd need to google it. Sorry if I'm on the wrong track - have you recently been an IP - I can't keep up with everyone's backstory. Are you getting good enough support.

Hoochy I have your PM and will answer later on when I begin to feel semi-human (usually in the evening)

How are you snowy glad to see you had a good day with family on Friday. You seem to be picking up CIQ and sound very busy. Sorry can only answer posts on the last page as if I try to scroll back I lose my post.

I have an apt with the psych on 28th March so I just hope he can offer some alternative treatment. I am willing to try anything, even ECT if he was in agreement. Sorry to be so self-absorbed, but it's the only place I can write this stuff down.

DumDum32 · 15/03/2014 16:47

NN I do have PTSD but haven't heard of EDMR (I'll look into it) maybe I can ask my psycho therapist when I have my first one to one with them. Thanks. Wish u luck with ur psychologist appt also Thanks

I'm just waiting to take my night meds & sleep not in a good mood today at all :( taken a diazepam but no real effect. I feel really stupid to be like this. I should be able to deal with this shit by now...I've suffered for so long!

Sorry so much self absorbed posts today.... Hope all are doing ok Thanks

NanaNina · 15/03/2014 19:47

Hi DD - the therapy is EMDR (Eye movement desensitisation) but google it as there is a good explanation. It is seen as one of the best therapies for the treatment of PTSD related to trauma suffered in early life. People on here have spoken very highly of it. Apparently you don't have to go all through the details of the trauma which can cause more distress. My depression is not related to early trauma so haven't really looked into it but I'm sure it would be worth your while having a look.

Sorry you have felt shit today - same here. Mind a neighbour came round and I was just about to dart upstairs so she wouldn't see me but I ended up opening the door and I burst into tears and she hugged me and we sat outside for about an hour and I did feel distracted and a fair bit better.

How's everyone else?

SnowyMouse · 15/03/2014 20:31

I hope you all have better tomorrows, hugs.

ColouringInQueen · 15/03/2014 21:38

(((hugs))) to all that have had a tough day today eg dd, hoochy, nana (remember those suicidal thoughts are not You, they're a bit of you're brain that's not working properly. Thinking of you.

Hi shimmering, snowy

I had a massage this morning and it has made a big difference to my anxiety - much more than a diazepam I suspect. Had a nice walk this pm with friends. Shattered now... off to bed shortly.

I think I need to accept that I need to do something like yoga every day to relax me, at least 3 bits of aerobic exercise a week and get at least 8 hours sleep a night. But it sometimes feels like a lot of "maintenance" iykwim.

take care all

NanaNina · 16/03/2014 00:56

Sounds like a good plan CIQ and I need to do something similar. One day this week I was feeling crap and was laptopping and DP suggested we went for a walk. I wasn't keen but went anyway (just a short walk in a nearby wood) and I felt considerably better and today I forced myself to sit outside and do a bit of gardening which distracted me a bit. MY lovely neighbour came round and I cried and she hugged me. She was telling me all about her Mindfulness course and the importance of getting out in the fresh air. She told me off for using the laptop too much (cus she can see me on it when she gets out of her car to go into her house.......!)

I've found a mindfulness/meditation course and e mailed them for more details and it's quite near where I live. And definitely more exercise, getting out in the fresh air really did me good today.

Late going to bed though but I don't mind as if it's a crap day tomorrow I won't wake till late and then it will shorten the day. Oh and thanks for reminding me the suicidal thoughts are just my brain not working properly and I know they are a symptom of depression.

DumDum32 · 16/03/2014 12:28

Was up most of night thanks to catching the bug from DD :(

It's a sunny day here but I'm still in bed... Brother is home so can keep an eye on DD for me thankfully.

ciq massage sounds good. I've also been finding that walking in particular is helping my anxiety more than the pills Hmm

NN well done for trying to get onto the meditation course. I'm sure it will definitely help.

Hw is everyone else doing today? Waves to snowy ciq hoochy shimmery NN lem & anyone I've missed

SnowyMouse · 16/03/2014 17:34

I hope you feel better soon, DD!

ColouringInQueen · 16/03/2014 20:41

Hi dd sympathies - nasty bug!

Busy day here but OK. Family get together this pm was OK. Tho one of my dbro's has been suffering from depression for a couple of years now and is not improving at all Sad he was very quiet and distant.

hello all. Sofa now and bed soon I think Hmm

SnowyMouse · 16/03/2014 20:49

Sleep well, CIQ and all.

ColouringInQueen · 16/03/2014 20:51

You too snowy x

NanaNina · 17/03/2014 13:56

Hello all - slightly better day for me but have big family problem that is causing me a lot of upset. CIQ my friend's DH has had chronic depression for many years and is as you describe your brother "quiet and distant" - I can't imagine how it must be to live with depression all of the time. At least I get some respite on good days.

Hope everyone is ok (or as ok as we can be............)

SnowyMouse · 17/03/2014 18:41

Oh dear NN Sad I hope it resolves positively. I've had a couple of bad days with my diet, back to 1200 kcal today though.

NanaNina · 17/03/2014 18:55

Thanks snowy but I think I think there will be a long bumpy ride before there is a positive resolution and that can't be guaranteed of course. Can you give me some idea of what a 1200 kcal diet is. I really need to lose weight and have done Slimming World in the past but I'm just trying the "eat less move more" at the moment.

TrueWorrier · 17/03/2014 20:23

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ColouringInQueen · 17/03/2014 20:30

tw yes that would really help wouldn't it? Glad you had a good night out though.

Hi nana and snowy

Pre-menstrual migraine brewing here so off to bed shortly. OK day, got some painting of ds mural done. But need to get him a doc/optician appt tomorrow as his eyes still gritty a week after getting it full of sand. Feel stressed as appts not easy to get...

SnowyMouse · 17/03/2014 20:36

I'm using myfitnesspal (a phone app) to track how many calories I eat each day. I'm also trying to eat loads of veg to fill up. I know what you mean, TW Sad

Sleep well CIQ and all.

nethunsreject · 17/03/2014 21:13

Hi all, just joining in here. Feeling bloody awful right now and struggling. I've had a few MAJOR episoddes of depression in the past, but been feeling good for years now; in fact the last 6 mths have bben really fantastic - family happy and all very healthy and job going well, though pretty stressful; survived all the redundancies ad managed a promotion. Then a few weeks back I totally hit the wall. Had a very mild runny nose which seemed to be the straw that broke the camels back. Now oscillating btween health anxieties ( 'I've got hypothyroidism/MS/ME/whatever' )and feeling that maybe I've had a burnout or breakdown or something. I mainly feel utterly drained and exhausted and can't be arsed with anyone, want to sleep a lot, eating way too much (usually v healthy eater), don't want to see anyone : (