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Banishing the winter blues, warming each other up in The Village

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LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA · 20/12/2013 21:52

Err, we need a new thread guys - I know this is Vicar's job so i hope you like the name.

This thread is a support group for those with mental health issues and generally feeling crap, some of us are on medication, some of us have help.

So come on in, grab a stool at the pub, the fires warm and the welcome is warmer - stay a while or move right on in!

All welcome

Ha! im not very good at this!

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ColouringInQueen · 10/02/2014 20:28

Yeah I hope so. It had improved but the thing a couple of weeks ago knocked me sideways and I'm struggling to pick myself up

SnowyMouse · 10/02/2014 20:42

I'm sorry to hear that Sad

ColouringInQueen · 10/02/2014 20:58

Back to Grey's Anatomy and biscuits... how about you?

NancysGarden · 11/02/2014 08:55

Hello ladies

It has been a while. I had been doing really well so I kept well away from here because I felt ...I don't know. But the truth is I am crashing again and don't know what to do. Have doubled my dose of anti ds but stopped the Valium quite a time ago (month? I forget) v low today. I drank a lot last night and this morning I just want to stay in bed

LEMmingaround · 11/02/2014 10:11

hello nancy - i remember you, i am sorry that you feeling crap just now. I have had a crap few days too and i am linking it to alcohol, have felt better for the past few weeks as i have not been drinking so much, had a couple of bottles of wine over the weekend and seem to have crashed - it could be co-incidence as i have a few other stressors but nothing major. What ADs are you taking? how long ago was it that you upped the dose.?

wfrances · 11/02/2014 11:17

morning all
the sun is shining so that's something at least.
ds 2 and ds 3 are ill now , and I think I might run away
I have no energy because im still ill myself ,having to crawl upstairs to check on the oldest one whos still fast asleep .(the youngest is on the sofa)

LEMmingaround · 11/02/2014 11:32

am Envy of the sun wfrances, bloody pissing down here :( Not envious of the house of sick people though :( that is hard work - Don't do anything other than looking after yourselves, the housework can do one until everyone is better.

I made the mistake of phoning my mother to see if she was ok as she seemed down yesterday - full volume rant on the phone for half an hour, i don't think she stopped for breath, put it on speaker so DP could hear and his face was Shock I don't think he realises how bad she can be when i tell him i thnk he thinks im exaggerating.

Me and my dogs are curled up in front of the log-burner which is roaring so i am going to use the excuse i don't want to disturb them to not taking them out in the pissing down rain.

Have at least achieved some things today for DP in terms of pricing some jobs and scheduling things, he really is a bit shite at those things. Might have a look at the website again - but that is for some reason stressing me out.

Feel better than i did this morning and last night - keep getting flashbacks from working at the college and they are leaving me verging on panic attacks Hmm It was a year ago FFS!

ColouringInQueen · 11/02/2014 13:02

morning all.

Hi nancy sorry to hear you're not so good. I have to say I do find a connection with alcohol - I think it uses up some extra happy chemicals in the brain as often the next day I am a bit down. But also its supposed to reduce your sleep quality and for me that makes a difference. Hope you can be kind to yourself today.

frances Smile sun! But everyone poorly is rubbish. Lots of tv and toast? Hope you feel better soon.

lem v gd idea putting you mother on speakerphone, but sorry to hear she went off on one. Log burner sounds amazing. I'm at home as counsellor is sick so have time on my hands... v tempted to curl up in front of tv though!

snowy how are you doing today?

SnowyMouse · 11/02/2014 13:05

I'm struggling CIQ, just want to go back to bed, but I shouldn't. CPN is coming later.

DumDum32 · 11/02/2014 13:58

Hi all,

Sorry to hear do many of us r still struggling :(

I'm still in bed no chance I'll b getting up anytime soon... Weather is shite raining away & cold out. DD at nursery till 6 so I can stay in bed till then.

NancysGarden · 11/02/2014 17:58

Hello everyone

I'm sure it's weather related. I am staying with a friend so I don't have my light box. Doesn't make a huge difference, but a bit. Lots of crying and feeling very very shitty today. I do hope to feel better tomorrow and I think I will avoid drink for a while. Nasty. Due on end of the week so that maks it worse. Did your visit help snowy
Have eaten ton of biscuits and Pringles can't seem to eat anything proper.

Hello all, lots of love xx

NancysGarden · 11/02/2014 18:00

Am on fluoxetine, Gp advised to up dose couple of weeks ago.

DumDum32 · 11/02/2014 19:17

((( nancy )))

LEMmingaround · 11/02/2014 20:31

fluoxetine is a bit like citalopram nancy, it is quite common to feel shitty when you up your dose for a few weeks. I hope you feel better soon nancy.

Well after saying how alcohol makes me worse, i went out and bought myself a bottle of pink wine Hmm tonight, the PFA meeting was crap and i really think that there will be no PFA to manage this time next year - the chair is definately stepping down and wants someone to co-chair with her next year with a view to taking over, kept looking at me but i don't want to do it, mainly for the reasons she has had enough - the school don't support us, its almost like we are a pain in the arse - its really sad, we raised over 20K last year which is phenomenal but when we ask for bit of teacher involement and enthusiasm its pretty thin on the ground - I do understand, they are there to work and they probably just want to go home at the end of the day but very quick to ask for the money! grrrrr

DumDum32 · 11/02/2014 20:47

((( lem )))

SnowyMouse · 11/02/2014 21:06

(((( All ))))

I'm nervous about going to art therapy tomorrow Sad Hmm

SnowyMouse · 11/02/2014 22:13

My flat is too warm for a duvet, must be neighbours' heating as mine's off Sad
Sleeping under a sheet feels odd. Hope everyone has a good night

ColouringInQueen · 11/02/2014 22:40

snowy would it help if you slept in less pj (making big assumptions?) or just open a couple of windows for 5 mins to cool things down a bit?

lem sounds like you're making the right decision - tho know how diff those situations can be.

nancy lem is right re: fluoxetine - that's what I'm on and upping the dose had a big negative impact on my mood for the first 2 weeks. Hang in there.

dd hope you had a good cosy day in bed.

I was bored today. Even considering employment of some sort! But am v fussy Wink and having co-run a business for over 10 yrs, not sure I could cope with a boss! Self-employed? (but lonely) something using my art? Who knows! Though I guess its a good sign that I'm contemplating it!

SnowyMouse · 11/02/2014 22:56

I'm in summer pjs. I can't open windows by myself, good idea though Smile

Sounds good CIQ

ColouringInQueen · 11/02/2014 23:09

snowy oh rats. something with a bit more weight that a sheet possible? Hope you get some sleep.

Must go to bed here.... night night.

SnowyMouse · 12/02/2014 09:13

Gosh I'm tired, didn't sleep well. I hope everyone else did better.

Just waiting for transport for art therapy now.

ColouringInQueen · 12/02/2014 10:33

Oh that's a shame snowy glad to hear you're going to art therapy, hope it goes ok.

Anxiety proving challenging today. Drove back from the shops managing storm disaster anxiety Hmm all the thinking about work stuff yest has left my brain in a spin today. Trying to write stuff down to calm my head down! Trying to calm down with a coffee and biscuit before attempting some yoga...

SnowyMouse · 12/02/2014 13:35

Sorry you're struggling with anxiety, CIQ I hope writing and yoga help.

I'm snuggling in my sleeping bag, it's horrible weather out there.

ColouringInQueen · 12/02/2014 14:05

thanks snowy yes they helped a bit. Head is racing with thoughts. I think I need to be brave and do some voluntary work to try and at least test out some of the ideas...but pretty terrified! Have you been to art? I am on sofa with all doors shut and open fire blocked as house seems ridiculously drafty...

NancysGarden · 12/02/2014 14:29

Afternoon all, I nearly wrote morning. All over the place. So sick of feeling shitty. Only took one tablet this morning I know that's probably silly but I can't bear it.

Been out in the floods and snow today. Bloody horrible. Had to drive really slowly. So dangerous.

How was art snowy ? How are you feeling CIQ ? I wish anxiety would take a hike, for everyone. Still no appetite. Getting through a lot of chocolate though.

I have done a bit of voluntary at my daughter's school over the last couple of weeks, although not this week as am away. Gave me a real boost actually, to be doing something useful and working with hcildren again.

I am really missing DP and DD this week, but don't think I can brave the motor way for another day or two. My friend is being wonderful. I hate imposing on people but that is something I am having to deal with. Not being very independent at the moment. When thing fell apart before Christmas I thought it would be a temporary blip but here I am 2 months later and I sometimes feel like I've made very little progress.