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ive done it now

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suebrush · 16/11/2013 19:23

Had a really bad morning last week felt suisidal so hubby called ambulance when got there completley freaked because they sent safeguarding forms off to social services how could i do this to my perfect children feel so ashamed i wish id never gone

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HoopHopes · 16/11/2013 19:36

Hope you are ok now. It is standard practice for health visitor or social care to be informed just to check whether you and the family need more support than you currently have. Try not to panic but use the opportunity to access more help.

HoopHopes · 16/11/2013 19:38

All mental health workers risk assess, if under a mental health team. So do counsellors, it may not be said but safeguarding is part of everyone's job if children are involved. It is just to check everyone is ok; if someone is suicidal then sadly some people do take their own lives and it is taken seriously; if someone dies then children are affected so they need to ensure they will be ok.

Pancakeflipper · 16/11/2013 19:40

As Hoop says, don't worry.

I hope they can help and support you and your family. Don't worry, they are being informed to be of help.

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suebrush · 16/11/2013 19:49

Feel sick cant believe my children have been tainted in this way this is the one thing i didnt want to matters worse i freaked out about it so much i went home and took six tablets and ended up back in a n e because of the form i am now safe in hospital which was arranged the following day only been in one day and feel better alteady

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suebrush · 16/11/2013 20:20

Is it standard practice in a and e

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Pancakeflipper · 16/11/2013 21:28

Glad you are feeling better.
SS are not going to ruin your family life. They will try to make things better for all of you.
Your children will not be tainted. They will be proud you are taking the help you need to make your family life better.

I hope you improve and the hospital are looking after you.

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suebrush · 16/11/2013 21:32

Yes and its much nicer and calmer than i inagined

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Pancakeflipper · 16/11/2013 21:41

That's good. That will help you to rest. And it's good for yourself that you are being positive and not battling against the hospital stay.

HoopHopes · 16/11/2013 23:15

Glad they are taking you seriously. Yes all A and E departments have to adhere to safeguarding policies, just the same as psychiatric units on hospitals, they need to just check whether enough support is in place for the whole family and the way it is funded is through social care. No more stigma attached to using social care to assess and fund extra support for a family as it is being in hospital due to mental health reasons, so hope you do not stress so much. Just tell them at the assessment the truth, about how many overdoses and how long in hospital etc as they will have access to that information anyway.

Hope you recover and are more reassured.

HoopHopes · 16/11/2013 23:17

Oh to answer your question, yes if a patient at a and e self harms ( overdose part of that) then they risk assess automatically and contact a HV to check up or SS are informed. Just standard practice at all A and E's; whether SS act on it is up to individual areas however.

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 09:47

Do you think ive made it worse by going back for a second time im horrified in my behaviour but obviously not very well so its not my fault but you cant help feeling guilty

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Juneywoony · 17/11/2013 09:59

This happened to me back in July, as you I was absolutely distraught!

A social worker came to visit, she went to their school to speak to the teachers( the shame of it). She was very understanding she has a mother and sister herself who both have bipolar like me. Anyway the case was closed very quickly. When I got the report back it actually reassured me as it was all good and said how well I look after the kids and how nice and tidy the house was etc..

She said if I need any help in the future to ring them, she said there was no risk of the children being taken away as my husband is a very good well grounded man and his parents are nearby and can help out.

I know at the moment how you are feeling, it is just awful. I hope you have as good as experience as I did. I do still feel shame at putting my family through this through my illness and stupid actions but as time passes I have learnt to come to terms with it more.

Please don't be hard on yourself, xxxx

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 10:04

The woman in the hospital said not concerned so wont do anything with it

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HoopHopes · 17/11/2013 11:08

By going back to A and E you were asking for help and they can see that. It is people who do not seek help they are more concerned about. They will see how they can support you.

HoopHopes · 17/11/2013 11:09

Are you home from hospital now? Have they offered any support to prevent you from getting so distressed you end up at A and E like this again?

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 11:16

Waiting to see doc tom but freaking out about the form being sent now ive had a rest im deepley ashamed

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 12:29

Does anyone know what will happen to the form

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3asAbird · 17/11/2013 13:15

glad you feeling better and you had good advice on here.

Hope you get support you need

mental illness no different to other illnesses if someone ill and has dependents than extra help can be good.

its better than being all alone and not admitting you have a problem.

you admitted you have problem and trying to get better so your kids are very lucky to have you.

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 14:11

It was the last thing i wanted to have them on that list it makes me sick

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 14:37

Does anyone work in a and e is it standard procedure for people coming in feeling suicidal

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 14:37

Does anyone work in a and e is it standard procedure for people coming in feeling suicidal

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suebrush · 17/11/2013 17:21

Any advice please

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HoopHopes · 17/11/2013 19:52

I do not work in a and e but it is standard practice in the area I live for anyone self harming or suicidal presenting at A and E to be referred to Social Care for assessment and to the HV if they have a child under 5. Also it is standard practice for anyone admitted to a mental health hospital as you have to be referred for assessment. An assessment is just what it says it is. They will not necessarily tell you when they are coming, but just turn up. And after each admittance to hospital they will reassess and the same with each time you turn up at A and E for help with suicidal acts. Whether they act in them depends on lots of things, but it may give you the support you need through them.

You say you feel better now you have a rest. Do you think you were exhausted? Can you put things in place to stop you getting so exhausted in future? Being a parent is exhausting.

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suebrush · 18/11/2013 19:23

So what will happen now when i get home

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suebrush · 18/11/2013 19:26

It was going to a and e that got me stressed in the first place

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