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if you feel those winter blues, move to our Village, spread the news!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/10/2013 23:22

new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

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TheSilveryPussycat · 02/11/2013 10:17

dumdum be brave - look at yourself in the mirror - but as well as looking at your body, look into your own eyes. Reconnect :)

Your body is beautiful, btw, but too big atm for health and would look even better at a lower weight (like mine). I keep telling myself to exercise - walking or swimming for me, as have had problems with feet, and with knees.

TheSilveryPussycat · 02/11/2013 10:18

I mean mine would look better at a lower weight too Blush currently 13 st 4'5"

TheSilveryPussycat · 02/11/2013 10:20

5' 5"

DumDum32 · 02/11/2013 11:02

LEM I'm 5' 3" so not that much taller than u. I.just can't stand the weight anymore. I was 16 1/2 a month ago so have lost a bit but wanna get down to at least 12 stones (I didn't fat at this weight).

silvery thanks for the kind words.... I just can't seem to bring myself to look in the mirror at the moment. maybe after I've lost a bit more weight then I will get my confidence back again.

TheSilveryPussycat · 02/11/2013 11:08

Then look in the mirror, not at your body, just into your own eyes. Reconnect :)

DumDum32 · 02/11/2013 11:11

I will try :)

TheOrchardKeeper · 02/11/2013 12:29

32 - I get the same. I think a lot of people do but agree with tsp Smile

Am having a bad day today. Just so tired. Neighbours were loud dicks last night & DS woke lots for some reason. Plus my medication was increased and it means a week or two of being exhausted for no reason. Fun Hmm Grin

NanaNina · 02/11/2013 14:04

I find the expectations of others a problem too. My depression just pops up from nowhere and I can go to bed feeling fine and wake up feeling shite, sometimes extremely shite and am too scared to get out of bed.

My closest friend is an art therapist working with people who are mentally ill, and she has been an enormous support to me but she doesn't seem able to believe that there are no triggers for my depression and anxiety, and is trying to make something irrational rational. Other friends also make comments like "Oh it's because it's the end of the summer....... or worst of all "you need to try to think positively........"aaaaaaaaargh. My CPN is lovely and understands that my depression is just something that arises from nowhere and says that I am a very "common presentation" I've been called some things but never that! It helps me to know that I am not that unusual to have this intermittent depression that can last anything from a day to 7 or 8 consecutive days, and varies in intensity.

Hmm the weight thing - I too am overweight and my DP is the same bloody weight as he was when I first met him over 40 years ago! All of my family are slim as are my friends......I tell myself it's because of the ADs 200 mg imipramine and 45mg mirtazapine. I've just brought a treadmill to get some exercise.

Snowymouse wherefore art though snowy??

SnowyMouse · 02/11/2013 16:07

I'm still feeling fairly rough, sorry I can't respond to everyone individually quite yet. I really wanted to be at home rather than in hospital, perhaps I came out a little early. It was nice to see family earlier, but I'm very tired still, and struggling with symptoms (here you have to go through out of hours to speak to the crisis team, or be suicidal). I'd find that hard to say.

Thinking of all of you xxx

SnowyMouse · 02/11/2013 16:47

PS Great to see you, NN (and everyone else too)

NanaNina · 02/11/2013 19:49

Hello snowy I know you hate being in hospital, but hope you haven't come out too soon. I'm sure you could be re-admitted if you felt the need. It's unusual for you to want to see the crisis team, so am a bit worried for you. Is it the depression that is troubling you most? You must get through to them Snowy if you are feeling really low or have other symptoms.

Thinking of you.........NNx

TheOrchardKeeper · 02/11/2013 20:53

Sorry to hear that snowy

Experiencing similar Thanks

ColouringInQueen · 02/11/2013 22:53

Hi everybody,

snowy and orchard keeper sending virtual hugs - sorry you're feeling bad tonight.

Snowy I really hope you're taking it easy - having visitors is tiring.

nana hi good to hear from you. Glad you're doing better these days.

dumdum hope you were able to take spcs advice. And remember its now, not always.

Am on phone and nervous I will loose post so wil post this and be back. ..

ColouringInQueen · 02/11/2013 23:05

Forgive me, need a rant tonight. Dh admitted last night that he, since visiting his ill brother, is going to try and stop behaving as tho its all about him and try and consider that he's part of a family and that his actions impact on me And the kids. NO S**T. I am struggling to have respect for him when he seems to be living in a bubble. I had been beating myself up that I keep slipping back/not making as good progress as him, but actually it is exhausting living with him, adjusting to him, less energy for Me. It's proving v hard.

I wish he'd put some of his energies into being a father and husband instead of all the self help reading, philosophising, business planning etc. Teach your kids to cross the road, brush their teeth, pick up their clothes off the floor after they've got undressed - he does bedtime (which I am grateful for) and everything is left on the floor. He took ds for a haircut today and the one thing I specifically said was for the Barber just to use scissors (ds only 5) and when I walked in he was sitting at the opposite end of the place while ds hair being cut with electric shaver. Why do I bother. Grrrrr. Need to calm down befire I try and raise all this.

Rant over.

TheOrchardKeeper · 03/11/2013 07:06

Thank you CIQ

And that sounds exhausting for you! Thanks

I keep finding things to obsess about since anxiety hit me this summer. It's usually money or DS but this whole week it's been 'is my relationship ok or will P leave me because he can't handle this'? We had a heated conversation last weekend about the illness & he blurted out that it's just so hard for him & he got really angry. It's been fine since (and we made up at the time) but now it's been haunting me & I'm paranoid that he's hiding all sorts of resentment & i'm about to be dumped. It's frustrating because I feel ok when we're together (he's very loving most of the time) but the second he's not there, the thoughts all start & I find myelf worrying myself into quite a state sometimes.

I can't seem to stop it though...or tell if i'm being OTT or just catious. Bah humbug. Rant over, sorry.

TheOrchardKeeper · 03/11/2013 07:58

(I sort of know i'm probably looking at the relationship from a skewed angle, so am taking things too personally or presuming the worst but I'm still finding it hard to judge what's ok to worry about and what is OTT/imagined. Having psychotherapy which will help).

SolidGold · 03/11/2013 12:29

Orchard, sorry to hear that. I'm sure therapy will help put things in perspective. It's hard, isn't it, because you want them to be open, but then you worry about what they haven't said and how long they've been feeling like that.

I obsess about things too due to anxiety. For me it's money as dh is out of work and things are very tight at the moment. I spend all my time calculating in my head, working out how long we can manage, how much money we have for food, what I'll need to spend over Christmas, how I'm going to tell my (very materialistic) youngest dd that she probably won't get everything on her Christmas list.

My worst time is if I wake in the middle of the night, because everything is blown out of proportion. All my thoughts are really extreme then.

TheSilveryPussycat · 03/11/2013 12:41

Orchard the very fact that you had a heated conversation, he got angry and you made up is a good sign IMHO.

solid we were on the dole in the early 90's, eventually I gave myself a half-hour each day just to have a good thorough worry - which helped.

CiQ at least your DH is trying to address things. Sounds a bit castles in the air though I have to admit. Actually doing things with you all would help I should think - if he will do it.

And how lovely to see NN again :)

waves to all I haven't namechecked.

SolidGold · 03/11/2013 17:48

Thanks Silvery. I know we are ok for now, I just start worrying and can't stop Hmm

Met a friend today, who has changed her whole life, forced to give up her job and started a catering business. She and her husband had to claim benefits for a bit until they started their business and she was quite laid back about it, said they saw it as an adventure. I think the problem is I feel guilty that we're having to claim JSA. Everyone I know - family, colleagues - keep asking, has dh found a job yet? It's as if constantly answering that question brings it home Hmm

Hope everyone has had a restful weekend. Today we shopped at Aldi to see if we could cut our shopping bill. It was a bit full and chaotic, but I definitely spent less. The veg were very cheap compared to the supermarkets around here.

SnowyMouse · 03/11/2013 18:15

Hugs to all

NanaNina · 03/11/2013 23:50

Hello snowy and everyone else! It's midnight and time I went to bed was just checking in to see if you had posted. Keep in touch x

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ThatVikRinA22 · 04/11/2013 04:46

my new pup coupled with work is keeping me VERY busy....i need to catch up on the thread....
but nice to see some familiar faces!

so sorry everyone ive lapsed a bit - even though i feel i could use the thread im just so busy.....my own fault mainly

will try and catch up on my days off....

hope everyone is doing ok.... x

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LEMisafucker · 04/11/2013 11:09

Hi there UA, well done on the levels, that is fantastic - I am about a level 2 here, up and dressed but scruffy as hell and really needing to get off this computor! Sorry, can't help with the CPA but i am sure someone will know x

batterylow · 04/11/2013 12:09

Hi everyone. Can I join you? I get very very low mood every evening from when it gets dark, am slightly better if I am going out or have something to look forward to but generally the panic sets in as it gets dark. Anyone else have a bad time of day?

I can be quite over excitable in the day after caffeine but just posted about my sleep deprivation and whether it is causing depression. Am scared of taking anti depressants as when I was on the, years ago I gained a lot of weight and also felt pretty rough the first couple of weeks. Anyone know of one that doesn't cause weight gain? I am quite obsessive over my weight and it in fact is one of my issues so I a, almost phobic about gaining more.