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new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

Hi TotallyAddicted

Well.

School has been applied for.

Decision has gone down like a lead weight. Doors slaming. Refusal to eat. Locked in bedroom. Never going to speak to me again.

I've reasoned with one of DTDs, who has accepted the decision. DTD2 is apparently going to need to be dragged out of bed.

I feel shite. I want to vomit. They hate me. I hate me. .

Sorry to hear that Edwina. Hope they calm down soon. My eldest would often lose the plot, but think it through and calm down the next day or a few days later. Hope this is the case for you too. Sorry, I'm not familiar with the back story.

(Does DTD stand for darling teenage daughter?)

Thanks.

DTD is Darling Twin Daughter

Backstory...currently yr8. Whole year group have to reapply for yr9 because of age range changes. I want yhem to move schools (and expect that 30-50% of cohort will). DTDs want to stay.

My reasons are based on what I believe to be quality of education. There reasons are based on peer pressure and resistance to change.

Ive been trying to convince them for 6 weeks. I made the application anyway. They've hit the roof.

Now my head says stick to my guns. Stick to what I believe is the right choice. My heart is just so upset that they are upset. I have 45mins...I could change my mind.

Edwina stuck to your guns. You've made this choice for a reason. They are still young and possibly don't see your reasons. If the quality of education is poor they will thank you when they are older and they have got good grades.

I am so tired this morning, I hardly slept due to worrying too much.

I am going to try and get an email address for my psych and write to him about getting a meds review. It's impossible to get hold of him so I'm hoping email will be better. I find it much easier to get across what I want by email too.

I am going to enjoy the fact that it's Friday. I am not going to let work stress ruin another weekend. Come 5pm I will be out of that door and can try and forget about it for two days.

I hope everyone else is looking forward to the weekend.

Hope it's all calmed down, Ed, you have to make the best decisions for them at the time, you are the grown up, they are the DTDs. All power to you.

Hope you get through to the psych, Totally, get through today, then relax.

Thanks Lem, I feel better today, just off for a walk. Glad last night went well It's really hard to be kind to ourselves isn't it? I don't know what I'd do without this thread

Hope everyone has a good day today...

Stick to your guns Edwinia. You had a reason for your decision, that hasn't changed. They will come round and they will make new friends. I took my dd out of school when she was 8 and put her in a different one soon after. She wasn't too keen, but made friends straight away and loved it. They may complain until they actually start there, but they will be fine. I believe it is our decision as parents, as we have more experience etc

Hello everyone - feeling so very sad today :( Can't say why, i am ok and so is my family - i am so so lucky

I know you are all right.

I was happier when I went to bed.

DTD1 was content (but not happy) with the decision.
DTD2 was not talking to me, but was considering new school a couple of weeks ago so I was content that she would come around. She is very very loyal to her best friend and it turns out they had made a pact to stick together but because I pulled rank in the closing hours she is angry at not being able to keep the pact (I was in communication with friends mum so she knew the score). I was happy that she would come round as all her other friends are moving (unlike DTD1).

They've both got up this morning barely talking to me. Not eating. On plus side they have a year to get used to the idea. On the negative side thats a whole year of angst for them and mean mummy for me before they get a chance to alay their anxieties through being there.

'Friend' (to which some will know back story) will not be happy at my decision as it won't suit her so will lay the guilt trip on me for making my DCs respond like this.

Meanwhile. I am hyper stressed. Could have done without this now. Meeting at uni today. House is a piga stye. I am not prepared for teaching cos shit keeps getting in the way.

I need to find a positive mental attitude in next 2 days or I will have failed before I start.

Group hug all round.

(((Hugs))) to all that need them, esp lem and ed.

ed can you identify yr three most impt tasks and make a start on one today?

lem I find school hols good but knackering - and no time to myself - could that be having an impact on you?

I booked 3 hrs off from being mum this morn and am on a train . first time I've ever done this journey and only second time on train alone this year. But its good.

Hang in there x

The school issue sounds awful :( big hugs.

hey all

so been really really and & down mainly about my weight plus seem to be having a lot of anxiety issues so getting pretty angry on small things :( feel awful about it as I know about being terrible to all my family!

ED ur making the right decision stick to it. children think they know what's best for them but then again we all did at their age

CIQ thats wonderful that ur making time for yourself.

snowy hw u doing?

LEM

hope everyone doing ok & hugs to all x

CiQ, something happened to a really dear friend of mine, its very sad and I can't do anything to help :( not my place, as it were. On the up side, i did have a lovely lovely catch up with my university friends, it also looks like I am gong to have more spider work to do so i am excited about that. Its funny, i am such an anxious person when it comes to transport and being in london but i love the train, my dad worked on the railway and i always associate train journeys with him. Every other thursday he would take me down to margate to get his pay packet and I was allowed on one ride in dreamland - always the up and down horses :) Such lovely memories - my DD1 lives just around the corner from where dreamland used to be, maybe one day it will be rebuilt :(

Ed, you are doing good - prioritise prioritise prioritise - you have sorted the schools, ok so it wasn't the most popular decision, but it was the right one - you have shown you are a good, strong parent and your girls will thank you for this one day. Take uni one step at a time and well, stuff the housework, that can wait :)

Snowy, are you home now?

Hugs to all, am tired not had too much chance to read through all the post x

I am home now, struggling with the mountain of post. I've got family visiting tomorrow, hope it goes ok.

Thinking of you all, I'm too tired.

lem sorry to hear that . Hope you're surviving. Love the image of you and your dad on the train - a lovely memory. I'm more of a cars girl - my dad owned a car dealership/garage so I love the smell of a workshop and fresh petrol! Hope you've got your feet up now.

snowy don't worry about all the post today, get some rest and hope your visit is helpful.

dumdum sorry to hear you're having a tough time weight/anxiety wise. Anything particular exacerbated this?

ed hope you're OK.

Hugs to everyone.

Work was rubbish today, everyone is so negative and also potentially dangerous situation with drunk client looming and I'm in alone tomorrow morning Not feeling too happy about that. Have been advised to call 999 if I see him over the road! Scary ...

Rescued the day a little by suggesting cinema visit after work, as it's the end of half term. Film was rubbish (Cloudy with chance of meatballs 2), but dd was happy. More junk food afterwards, as had trip to KFC - hating cooking at the mo and what I can eat is so restricted by IBS. That's three days in a row we've eaten out as I just can't be bothered - and we really can't afford to. Need to start watching the pennies again. Think I need to shop at aldi tomorrow.

Sorry to moan

You are not moaning Solid! I feel your pain re the cinema - i got told off by the usher for mnetting my way through a film once - apparently my phone light was disruptive - there is an easy solution to this though, just stick your head under your jumper

LEM, I was tempted to MN! Instead I kept nodding off

I've been lurking for weeks on end and reading the thread and I see "old friends" Lem Vicar CIQ hoochy Unfortunately Ed Silvery but most of all SO pleased to see you Snowymouse and it's you that's brought me back to the thread. I knew you were in hospital and I came on the thread tonight to see if I could see you, and so was mightily pleased to see you towards the end of the thread. DO hope things will go well for you now.

Glad to see you unfortunately after the trauma of the loss of your dear daughter. I don't know how it feels to lose a child, but I can't think of anything any worse to be honest. Really hope you are getting some RL support to get you through the coming months and even years.

Hello to all newcomers and there's no way I can remember you all. Also sorry if I've missed out any "old friends" - LOVE the new puppy Vicar is it a german shepherd. I continue to suffer from intermittent depression and anxiety, but mostly depression - that "deep dark well of pointless nothingness, where all motivation to do anything has completely evaporated." Someone posted this on MN and it "spoke" to me as it just about sums up how I feel when the dreaded D word descends.

So sorry for all of you who are struggling with young children, jobs and money worries, awkward parents, DHs etc. I am fortunate to be retired so can hide under the duvet when necessary.

OK Snowymouse here's the deal - I'll stay on the thread so long as you post often to let us know how you are. I know I've said it before but you are such a lovely person struggling with a complex mental illness and yet you always reach out to others - you have such a generous spirit.

Incidentally Ed you won't need me to tell you a PGCE is a very heavy number when you are not feeling on top of things. It isn't even an academic year and so it all has to be crammed in to about 9 months if I remember rightly. My son and dil both did one and they were mega stressed a lot of the time. Do you have to do it?

Sorry Lem that your mother is still causing you problems, but I guess that's how it is always going to be unless you make a stand somehow, though I know that's easier said than done. I think dynamics in families get set in concrete, for good or bad.

CiQ sorry to hear you are having marital problems. I don't recall you mentioning this before, but maybe you did, I don't know. It is hard to know as you say whether it is the depression driving your feelings about DH or the other way around. I guess time will tell.

All for now.........NN

Am new to the thread but peeking round the door to say squeak hi

Have anxiety/depression. Had been well for 5 years but had a bad/fast relapse recently and am 2 weeks fresh out of hospital.

hugs to all that are struggling themselves.

I find the expectations of others makes me feel worse - this, with bells on. Am getting better, bit by bit and because i'm trying stupidly hard but getting frustrated with what feels like impatience and is hard not to take personally

CIQ I'm just tired of being a fat fuck I currently weigh 16 stones & I can't even bring myself to look in the mirror :( I just want to lose the weight desperate now. plus im tired of arguing with my voices about it also... at least if I become skinny they will shut the hell up! although I know then they'll find something else to upset me about.

Dumdum - you are not a fat fuck - you weigh only half a stone more than i do and im only 5'2" Now im probably deluded but i actually don't consider myself to be fat - i'm overweight and id like to loose a bit, but strangely enough, for all of my self esteem issues that i have (and trust me, i have plenty) I am ok with my body - im actually happier looking in the mirror when im naked than clothed as im a size 22 so finding clothes can be difficult. So tell your voices to fuck the fuck off - you are not fat, and neither am i :)