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if you feel those winter blues, move to our Village, spread the news!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/10/2013 23:22

new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

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SnowyMouse · 04/11/2013 13:37

Welcome batterylow anyone can join.

ColouringInQueen · 04/11/2013 16:45

Hi batterylow have just read your other thread actually. Welcome.
Just dashing out with dcs but will try and post later. Hope you have your feet up if you can x

hoochymama1 · 04/11/2013 17:02

((( Snowy ))) so lovely to hear you again, hope your having an easy day. It's tough when you first come back from hospital. Shouldn't the crisis team stay in touch with you, or is that just here. Don't hesitate to ask for help though that's what they're there for.

((( Nana ))) I feel so safe and warm when you post.

UA much love and hugs going in your direction. I think CPA is 'Care programme approach' where your care is co-ordinated, and you are considered high risk. It involves a named co-ordinator, a care plan, involving meds, support etc.
It could be that they no longer consider you high risk Hmm and that your GP is the first call if you need help.

Lots of love to all, I get so much strength from just reading the posts Thanks

hoochymama1 · 04/11/2013 17:16

Welcome,batterylow hope the evening is not too bad for you. Gosh weight gain and meds just seem to go together. Also feeling rough on A/Ds is pretty common. But.. I feel a heck of a lot better after I went to the GP. Fat, yeah, but less wanting to end it all Grin

SnowyMouse · 04/11/2013 18:56

((( all )))

I'm in the 'I've put on weight but the meds have helped' camp too. CPN is coming tomorrow.

notagiraffe · 04/11/2013 19:02

Hi please can I join? Here's a big basket of apples from the orchard for pies and crumbles and to be dipped in toffee.

Cut back to 10mg during the summer but feel so sad at the moment, and anxious too, which is not normally a problem for me. So worried about DS2. I need to go back onto 20mg,(citalopram) but can't bear the exhaustion (used to sleep every afternoon when I should have been working) and the weight gain. Also had a few mood swings. Hate them most of all.

But the village is lovely. Can I plant some dogwood down by the river here, as the bright colours look so lovely when there's a frost? I've got some raspberry, flame and lime green varieties.

LEMisafucker · 04/11/2013 19:21

The dogwood sounds lovely, as do the apples - you'll it right in!

I am on 20mg citalopram and i can feel shattered, particularly at this time of day so i know how you feel too batterylow its like i get hit by the tired stick. Today hasn't been too bad, managed to cook some chicken soup which we will now have tomorrow. Feel qutie agitated though - I had the most terrifyiing dream i have ever had last night and of course dreams are so much more vivid when on citalopram, i woke up scared for the first time i can remember (lots of waking up anxious but this was horror movie scared!)

LEMisafucker · 04/11/2013 19:22

posted too soon - the dream involved my parents and some consequences of my bad behaviour, really really horrible and my poor dad was trying to put things right - put it this way, it involed a madman with a chainsaw - I am actually fretting about going to bed tonight :(

gooblediguk · 04/11/2013 19:27

I was going to NC but no point. I would love to see any positive in my life but fail to do so.

ColouringInQueen · 04/11/2013 19:32

Hi notagiraffe course you can. Love the apples and dogwoods - sound beautiful. It's hard with these drugs isn't it. How long have you been on the citalopram?

batterylow like hoochy says its a v common problem - tho I believe some ADs are worse than others for weight gain. I know its paradoxical, but are you able to get out for a walk occasionally (when its not raining Wink) I am finding that even if I'm feeling tired it does give me a bit of a boost and helps me sleep sounder. Are you able to have a couple of nights off a week where you don't get up for your DC (do you have a spare room/somewhere else to sleep to avoid being disturbed) just so you at least get a chance to recharge your sleep batteries a bit for making a decision on ADs?

UA great work on level 3! Hope you've had some sun where you are.

hoochy nice to "see" you again. How's things?

snowy hope today's been manageable. Hope the CPN visit is helpful.

lem hope your Monday's been ok.

I am doing ok tonight. Working hard to manage my emotional reactions to a couple of things. Main thing is I was really brave a few weeks back and invited some mums to a quiz night at the local pub (inc 2 I used to be quite good friends with but my depression this year has turned a bit pear-shaped). One new friend who is great. Anyhow she replied straight away and keen. Others said hmm maybe. Well its supposed to be this week and one has now said she can't. Am waiting for other to bail out now. Do I go just me and new friend - she will know the others have stood me up tho and I feel weird about that. It is poss to have a team of 2 - I do with my sis - but impossible to get a decent score! Not sure if its too full on for a new friendship iyswim? Social anxiety kicking in Hmm... any thoughts most welcome...

ColouringInQueen · 04/11/2013 19:34

lem that sounds awful. And I know what you mean about the vivid dreams... Can you read yourself to sleep with a Barbara Cartland or something Grin

Hi gobbldiguk want to tell us more?

notagiraffe · 04/11/2013 19:38

Colouringin - could you join up with another small team? Or invite partners along too. Anyone else you can think of who might like to go - maybe new people in your area or at your DCs school?

You sound very sensitive (in a good way) to other people and what they might need - being concerned that a team of two is a bit intense.

ColouringInQueen · 04/11/2013 19:40

Thanks notagiraffe - I feel like its a bit late to ask anyone else as it'll be just 2 days away when I do... but there is someone possible... partners no good cos then babysitters required...

LEMisafucker · 04/11/2013 19:47

CiQ i think i'd rather risk the crazed chainsaw man than Ms Cartland!

batterylow · 04/11/2013 20:11

Thanks all. Dh has offered to do the youngest over night so that would help as usually we take turns which involves me waking him still. I will sleep downstairs. Although unusually the older one is now up and down too due to bloody fireworks!

Sounds like ads, as I suspected would cause a bit of weight gain. I really really do find exercise helps especially if I can get out in the sun for a bit so will maybe try upping that , good plan. Don't think I can handle more weight gain right now due to how low I feel but I know that is stupid as they would help me feel less low!

DumDum32 · 04/11/2013 21:30

Arghhh feel like a flippin potato today have eaten so much!!!

SolidGold · 04/11/2013 21:37

DumDum I'm having one of those days too. Just sent dh out for ice cream Shock

DumDum32 · 04/11/2013 21:47

Oh solid i had to stop myself before i ate the whole tub of ice cream Shock

SolidGold · 04/11/2013 22:17

I stopped at one bowl, but am now well into a bag of Kettle Chips Hmm

SolidGold · 04/11/2013 22:18

BUT I have managed to stay away from gluten - but not dairy Hmm

SolidGold · 05/11/2013 04:04

Sorry for rambling on about food. I'm paying for eating rubbish now, can't sleep. I've got heartburn and can't find any Rennies. My mind has gone into overload, as it is prone to do in the middle of the night. So I've brought my phone and book downstairs and am cuddling up with the dog!

hoochymama1 · 05/11/2013 08:49

That sounds nice, Solid I hope you got some sleep eventually Smile

TheSilveryPussycat · 05/11/2013 09:01

As the dark nights draw in, tis the season for comfort eating.

I began to put weight on through comfort eating due to being a)unhappy in marriage (thought it was 'just' depression), then b) unhappy in work. And then through being on olanzapine + a + b. I found it hard to exercise due to being miserable and unmotivated, though if I did do it, it helped.

Twas particularly galling to be told at GP check up - done because of long term mh condition - that I was borderline obese - partly because of the meds dealing with my mh.

I don't think my AD (paroxatine) causes weight gain, at least for me.

philnteds · 05/11/2013 11:11

Hello quick post
I don't like dark nights either...feels like the day is over by 4:30.
Do you look at people who are naturally bright and happy and think 'wow how do you do that?'
I work with a lady and she is brilliant she is so positive and upbeat why can't I have some of that?.....

ColouringInQueen · 05/11/2013 14:50

Hi philnteds yes I do... for me its often a constant battle to counter the negative thoughts with kinder more compassionate ones, but I am trying to keep doing it! I just read on another thread actually someone recommending Paul Gilbert's "Compassionate mind" or something similar... Dark evenings don't help do they. We're trying to enjoy the cosying up side - blankets, hot chocolates and fires.... its worth a try! take care.