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if you feel those winter blues, move to our Village, spread the news!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/10/2013 23:22

new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

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LollipopViolet · 12/12/2013 11:14

I couldn't do it - no idea why but just couldn't find the words to tell my gran how I'm feeling.

But that's OK, it'll happen when I'm ready, I'm sure.

Still got this stupid cold - hoping to go back to work tomorrow though. I am getting a bit restless being at home. I might not enjoy work, but it gives me something productive to do.

Friendship group next week, hopefully someone there will have a chat with me - might even use the collagen bed for a bit.

JugglingUnwiselyWithBaubles · 12/12/2013 11:21

Friendship group sounds good Lollipop - I've got something nice to go to tomorrow - a Quiet morning at our Meeting House. Will be several friends there and a lovely shared lunch afterwards.

God, I sound a bit like an old person going to the pop-in parlour don't I ?!
We really had somewhere called that back home that my Gramps used to go to!
Never mind! I don't care! I'm looking forward to it Xmas Grin

SnowyMouse · 12/12/2013 17:15

My CPN didn't have time to get my meds, she will try tomorrow instead Xmas Sad Xmas Hmm Gosh I'm feeling low today

ColouringInQueen · 12/12/2013 19:46

Hi all,

snowy oh that's frustrating. Really hope she manages to tomorrow. Really sorry to hear you're feeling so low today. Are you aware of any triggers or is it just one of those days? Hope you get a good sleep.

(((lem))) sorry to hear about your day with your mum. I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but in the nicest way, I want to say that you might start finding it easier if you lower your expectations of her. From what I've read it doesn't sound like she is going to change. She isn't the mum you crave, it doesn't sound like she's particularly concerned about you or your family - in fact given what she said to your dd - rather mean.

I know its so hard, but for me I've found some peace accepting that my mum is not the one I would wish for. She is needy, she isn't supportive, its a slog being around her. But since I've stopped looking for her support or praise, I've found some peace. I have consciously detached myself from her a bit and although I still love her and care for her cos she's my mum, I don't soak up her emotional angst . Yesterday she came round with my dad, it was her birthday. She was in tears when she arrived (tiredness, travel sickness) so I made her comfy on the sofa, got her a drink and a blanket and left her to rest.

You have a wonderful dh, two lovely dds, focus on them and focus on looking after you (nancy is spot on). Take care and more (((hugs)))

ColouringInQueen · 12/12/2013 19:52

juggling that sounds nice - who cares if it sounds a bit old Xmas Wink

ondasher those blogs are v gd aren't they?

lollipop hope you're feeling better in the morning.

I had a bad head yesterday which has turned into a v bad head today. Had to resort to the codeine today and slept til 1. Still sore. Have been reading about pre-menstrual migraines and wondering if that's what's going on. Mood is fine. Have had plenty of sleep but crushing headache and body like a zombie!

LollipopViolet · 12/12/2013 19:58

And it's back. The "I don't want to go" feeling I get before work each day. Yay. Still, it's only a day, then the weekend :)

I also got an email from the gentleman I used to go and see as part of the Work Programme, asking how work was - I told him everything, he wants to phone for a chat.

I've told him that's fine, but it HAS to be on my mobile - I'm not having that conversation over a phone line I know gets recorded and can also be listened in to by anyone in the office.

Feels better having told him, but also feel a bit of a failure that it's not even 6 months and I'm going to be unemployed again, after a year of searching for the job :(

SnowyMouse · 12/12/2013 21:08

I think part of it is people use Christmas as a time to update how they are doing, and I haven't even managed to stay out of hospital this year, I can't find a personal achievement this year.

I hope everyone has a good day tomorrow, it's nearly the weekend.

ColouringInQueen · 12/12/2013 21:19

Yes snowy christmas and new year can be tough when you're looking back on a hard year. But you have made through a difficult year and keep a little hope for next year x

EdwiniasRevenge · 12/12/2013 22:03

Just a quickie.

6 days to go.

11 lessons to go.

5 lessons to plan. (The others are tests or assessments or escorting the kids to the church).

LEMisafucker · 12/12/2013 22:06

Go Ed!!! you can do it :) so happy for you x

NancysGarden · 12/12/2013 22:12

Who said getting through a difficult year isn't an achievement? That's fighting talk!

Some years are great, some less so. I seem to have amazing years every 12 to coincide with my Chinese New Year sign (which I have no particular faith in) but it just so happened that way. Twice. All the years in between were nothing to write home about. And sometimes god dammed awful.

By that reckoning, I have another 10 to go before i get a goodie!

Let's hope not Xmas Wink

That call sounds positive Lollipop!

Are you coming down with something CIQ?

(((((Snowy )))))

Did very little of my to-do list. And worried lots about what am I going to do next in my life. Worrying not helping.

Did some Christmas cards and took DD to her swimming lesson. And a little yoga. Found some yin yoga tutorials in YouTube by yogi Nora. Made me feel good.

NancysGarden · 12/12/2013 22:16

And good luck Ed, it was your post that found me here in the first place. So I am grateful.

You can do it! Woo woo!

We all can!

I heard from two dear friends today, neither of whom live nearby. One had her baby this morning and the other has been diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma. Blew me away. Emotional day.

Sorry, rambling. X

ColouringInQueen · 12/12/2013 22:22

Nancy I am beginning to think it is a type of pre-menstrual migraine (which you can also get mid month apparently) as I've now had it two days plus some nausea and sensitivity to light. No other symptoms. Don't feel stressed and wouldn't think you'd have a tension headache for 2 days..

I do some yoga off YouTube too - maybe tomorrow if head is better. ..

ColouringInQueen · 12/12/2013 22:23

Oh and go ed!

ColouringInQueen · 13/12/2013 10:36

lem I really hope I didn't go too far in my post yesterday. Hope you're ok x.

SnowyMouse · 13/12/2013 10:47

You can do it LEM Thanks for all the good thoughts and words all. I think I'm less sleepy in the morning than I was, still want to reduce meds a little more as then I might be able to get up and stay up in the morning.
How's your head CIQ? You can do it Ed! I'm sorry you had a bad day Nancy, hope today is better. I hope you get your call privately Lollipop

Hoping everyone has a good day!

OnDasherrorOnDancerror · 13/12/2013 11:37

Made it to the GP today after yesterday was a total non-starter. Been prescribed 20mg of Fluoxetine so started taking them straight away and hoping any side effects will be dwarfed by the wellness I will eventually feel. Was a massive battle of wills to take the first one after resisting medication for months, if not years. But I am feeling cautiously optimistic, which is a huge effort for a depressed person! Sending positive thinking to all.

LEM, it sounds like the relationship with your Mum is very difficult and I empathise, I wonder if it would do your health some good if it was an option to spend less time with her at the moment. Similar to what Colouring said, you are possibly coming to the realisation that she's never going to change. {hugs}

SnowyMouse · 13/12/2013 12:05

Well done OnDasherrorOnDancerror Xmas Smile Good luck with the meds.

ColouringInQueen · 13/12/2013 14:30

well done ondasher that's a great step you've taken. I'm also on fluoxetine if you have any qns. I take mine in the morning after breakfast....

Did you manage to stay awake this morning snowy? any sign of the cpn and your new meds yet?

Head still bad (thanks for asking), but did manage to meet up with 2 good friends from ex-work which was a good distraction.

Need to write a shopping list as dh has said he will do the supermarket thing for me Smile

LEMisafucker · 13/12/2013 14:36

Ciq im fine xxx

SnowyMouse · 13/12/2013 14:37

I only slept 1.5 hours this morning, which is an improvement. CPN is too busy so I will pick them up next week instead, on Wednesday.

That's nice that DH is doing the supermarket, CIQ Xmas Smile

ColouringInQueen · 13/12/2013 14:42

oh good lem x

snowy improvement - great. Yes it is nice isn't it. According to him I don't look "right" Xmas Wink

Off to get Christmas tree after school pick up which will be lovely. And tomorrow plan to make cake and decorate tree while cake is cooking in oven (aromatherapy). Nice to start getting into the Christmas thing.

Short posts I'm afraid cos have laptop at stupid angle so screen is dull and doesn't hurt eyes!

take care all x

SnowyMouse · 13/12/2013 14:43

That all sounds good CIQ Xmas Smile Glad you're ok LEM

NancysGarden · 13/12/2013 15:01

Goodness, v low today. Got to take DD to end of year karate presentation evening. Have invited all the family. Not in the mood.

Slept all morning. Bad idea.

How is everyone doing today?

ColouringInQueen · 13/12/2013 15:06

Oh that's rubbish nancy. Can you treat yourself to a nice hot choc/similar with some crap tv beforehand/anything that's nice and easy. I find imagining forward to after everyone's left can be helpful sometimes! take care.

right must get dcs