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[ThatVikRinA22]

new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

I used to self harm my way out of it but that's not an option. I'm just keeping busy and using ice cubes and very hot drinks to try and 'feel' my way out of it. Cup of tea sounds nice

Well done on the ice cubes and hot drinks, it can't be easy. 1 hour and 10 minutes to go for me...

im ok trying not to stress.

rang hubby hes short staffed and stressed does not have time to talk.

small boys speech therapy came through today.
need to book his hearing test
hes at dental hospital next week so hes walking disaster area.

eldest has outstanding homework we need to get on with you know when you put things off and weighs on mind.

now last min more booking school tors to try and get 3 choices for middle childs school place deadline looming.

not ready for xmas and today agents reckon landlords looking sell in new year.

Im trying to stay calm but really my worries overwhelm me at times and they genuine worries as dd2 needs a school, we need a place to live and small boy needs additional support my worries about him consume me the washing repair man asked if hes autistic last week.

The house is disorganised mess.

im trying to push myself to do things.

need to ring tax credits cant put that off any longer.

its like im pressure cooker waiting to explode some days.

hope everyone else having good day just hoovered up a huge mess how one small boy can be so messy

(((( 3 )))). It sounds like you're doing well with so many things you have to do. Does it help to have a physical list and cross things off as you do things? Just wondering.

Just found out that psychiatrists and care coordinators will be assigned according to diagnosis Mustn't stress as it can't be helped.

Snowy - thats a shame there is to be a changed but maybe it will mean more appropriate care? looking on the positive side of things? Hopefully will settle down soon.

3as - you do as much as you want to to, if you achieve one thing ina day, thats brilliant. You have already mentioned that you have hoovered a load of mess - that'l be the housework sorted then! Ive loaded the dishwasher today, thats all im doing.

Ed - i hope today wasn't as daunting as you feared.

Vicar? hows things?

Love to all

It may not happen until April, another reason not to stress about it.

Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things i can
And the Wisdom to know the difference.

That is a simple little prayer that i try and keep in mind when my anxiety is really playing me up. It does help, even from a non-religious view. Its really hard to just accept things but if we have no control over them worry is pointless and harmful - of course, if i could take that bit of advice, i doubt i'd be in the state im in anyway, but it does help :)

oh and cake and tea is good too :)

I do like the serenity prayer.

Me too! (especially the line about the Wisdom to know the difference)

Me too - thanks for reminding me of it lem. I've had an interesting day being a bit more aware of how my emotions and anxiety rise and fall with different activities and social interactions, but kept my head above the water so that's good. Pretty tired now tho.

Hello everyone

Ed are you OK?

sontaren
3 what meds are you on atm? Could you talk to your GP?

Would hubby support you anyway, how can anyone make a promise about something like this? It's an indication you aren't well, not a lifestyle choice.

sorry dident see this.

i dont feel an talk to gp

atm jut ocasional temezapam and have small amount diazapam for dentsists.

i said no anti ds as had nightmare in venlafaxine just over 10years ago.

As sweet as hubby is he just does not understand bulimia.
hece why he thinks john prescott was lying attention seeker as he was fat and only reason i would do it is to be super slim when its far more complex than that.

But in all fairness in time we been together nearly 10years married I hve been well and not doing it.

whih is why im bit shocked im back in this place after so much time.

2013 been stressful year and next few months my worries are real not imaginary worries in my head we need move house, dd2 needs a school and we need enough money to get by.

Thanks lem dont feel like done much.

but took kids to see xmas lights after school.went corner shop got few reductions, bathed all 3kids, got downstairs tidy, had hubbys tea ready on table, made tommorows packed lunches bit tired now .

not been sick today. there was a point at lunch i could of but dident have much fancied to binge on.

3 there are loads of different ADs out there. The fact that venlafaxine did not suit you should be a pointer to help your GP choose a better one for your physiology.

When I was depressed in my 20's and 30's SSRI's such as paroxatine were a twinkle in some chemist's eye. I tried various ads, which just made me zombified, preferred to struggle on without them. When I was first prescribed paroxatine in 1998 I was reluctant to take them - but for me it was a miracle drug. Although there were environmental factors feeding my depression as well, the ads helped me to deal with them.

You won't know if you don't try. Meanwhile, a [hug] and a

I'm here.

I'm ok.

Exceedingly tired but clawing my confidence back.

I only have 12 days practice left and then I will be qualufied.

Scarey prospect.

Another med may be worth a try 3, as TheSontaranPussycat says. Hugs Ed You can do it!

Thanks.

Love the Serenity prayer.

Feeling really frustrated with myself at the moment. Feel like I should be getting much better by now and it's almost like I'm making myself ill or something. I have a wonderful partner & toddler and yet i'm still not happy with life. It makes me feel so ungrateful

And the crisis team are being shit as usual. Haven't rung since Monday and I don't feel able to call them at the moment. Ah well.

Oh dear TheOrchardKeeper What change would mean you could call the crisis team?

Knowing they would say something other than 'have a bath' or 'go for a walk'. They're a nice enough team but they usually don't give you much advice. They can be pretty dismissive.

I'm really worried atm because i've been bleeding a tiny bit almost everyday and the GP said it's nothing to worry about

They won't give me a smear as i'm only 23 and I'll probably have to fight to see a specialist. It's making me feel shit daily on top of everything else.

Hope your art therapy went well.

They do push distraction techniques, don't they? I'm quite 'stuck' with art therapy at the moment, doing similar drawing each time.

I'm sorry you're worrying, have they said to come back if it continues?

The bloke I saw said not to worry about it and wait for my smear (in 2 effing years) so I've made an appnt to see a nicer female doctor and hopefully she can help me out. I'm thinking of coming off the pill and just using condoms for a bit as I swear I feel so much better in the 7 day window that i'm not on anything...

I'm looking into having a copper coil for that reason but I can't do anything like that until the bleeding is sorted really.

I certainly didn't think i'd be dealing with this sort of issue in my early twenties but nevermind! Oh to be a man

Maybe discuss the options, there's the Mirena and the implant too. Coincidentally I have my smear tomorrow.

In a bit of a sticky spot too as I thought I'd never get ill again after the last time, before I had DS and now i've gone through all this again with a toddler in tow I don't want to risk having any more. I think mums are expected to do the brunt of the childcare and I did it alone the first time round, I don't think I coul do it again...but DP wants to have kids at some point. DS is already 3 and DP needs to find a new job & we need to move in together & settle in before we could even consider a baby. So if we do have one it'll also be a big age gap, which is another thing putting me off. I'm just getting some freedom back and feel pretty reluctant to give it up and make myself that vulnerable again IYSWIM?

DP has said in the past it'd be a dealbreaker and I'd been ok with that until I got ill again this summer. It's made me wonder if I could really go through all that again I guess.

Scuse the rambling. Just having a funny week!

Good luck for your smear! And I don't get on with heavy duty hormones (the implant made me bleed for months then I ended up with anemia). I'm considering the copper coil though

The mirena is localised, I know some people find it good, the copper coil can increase bleeding. My mirena fell out. That sounds like a lot of heavy duty decisions, Orchard, one thing at a time?

Thanks for the good luck, I'll need it (it's my 3rd or 4th, I can't remember).