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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/10/2013 23:22

new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

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TheSontaranPussycat · 25/11/2013 23:52

I hope DS is still paying bills (or at least some rent - if t'were me I'd be asking for proper %age of household bills), doing his own washing, and getting himself out of bed.

I think looking for flats on his behalf is just about OK...

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood · 26/11/2013 08:16

thanks for all your kind words.
I had some time meditating before I went to sleep last night and spent some time working through a visualisation I did with my therapist.
It really helped. I am going to do it again today.

I have to remember that I am of value, I am allowed to be happy but most of all "I am safe, protected and loved" I guess I have just let alot of things slide. I need to be more actively involved in my life.

Big Hugs to everyone who needs one this morning.

LEMisafucker · 26/11/2013 09:53

Feck - is there something in the air? what a crappy week we are all having :(

Neverknowingly That will be me in two years time when DD leaves primary school. I will be totally lost - right now she is the only thing that keeps me away from the edge. I am the secretary of the PFA and of course that will go when she goes to secondary, it will be too far away and dont want go there again. One of the reasons i am dong the secretary thing is so i can have something on my CV, you have this - you are the chair, so buck stops with you. You have a lot to offer, i couldnt be chair! Maybe you could take those skills elsewhere - part time job? or some volunteer work -they would be clambouring over themselves to get someone like you im sure. With regards the citalopram, thats a really high dose actually, i was on 40mg and i couldn't function, much better on 20mg. When i reduced I was given buspirone or diazepam to take if i felt really anxious, neither can be long term but good for acute anxiety, I can't help but wonder if the 40mg is too much? Maybe discuss this with your GP. Difficult i know because when i am not coping i dont function, but equally too much meds has the same effect on me.

snowy total long shot, but you didn't by any chance have cushings disease did you?

3 People who put their xmas deccies up now are muppets mine never goes up until the weekend before xmas and if thats xmas eve, so be it - otherwise you are sick of the sight of fecking tinsel by xmas - don't get me wrong, i love xmas i really do. Its funny, peoples homes look so cosy from the outside - i am really nosey and always gawp in peoples windows but you can't tell by appearances you really can't. I have a couple of uber positive friends, i can't be around them if i'm depressed but when im not i can see it for what it is, they are trying too hard - yes their houses are wonderful but they have the same insecurities and problems as everyone else. Its hard not to compare though - i do it all the time.

Ed hang on, you're doing fine - i can empathise with the teaching and my brief experience at college was enough for me (and what i read in the staff room on here backs that up) to give it a wide berth, but you know what, you've come so far - you have put yourself through too much, you are going to have to hunker down and get on with it, and you will - then it will become easier. The only bit of practical advice i can give you is give up the girl guides, that is an additional drain on your time and energies that you don't actually need to have right now - you can get back to it later if you like. I am willing to bet many of your fellow students feel the same - you'll get there, i know you will.

I am still having trouble with my mother, had a scare this morning, her neighbour at our door first thing saying that she was worried becaues there was lots of banging going on at 3am Hmm I was torn between, she was having a tantrum or genuinely unwell - walked round there, by the time i got there i was almost in tears thinking 'what if she is actually dead and my last words to her were fuck off' Hmm Of course, she wasn't and totally denied any incident - refusing to see the doctor this morning, so i am going to have her appointment instead and try and discuss with the dr i am getting to the point where i wont be able to help her anymore - i was punching myself in the head this morning, thank god DD didn't see - DP was cross.

LEMisafucker · 26/11/2013 09:54

Love to all x

SnowyMouse · 26/11/2013 11:24

No not cushings disease. I don't want to go into it here as it is rare.

Good morning all.

OrlandoWoolf · 26/11/2013 11:25

Didn't get the job. It's my 13th rejection in 2 years. It just feels like no one wants me and can't see the skills I have to offer.

LEMisafucker · 26/11/2013 11:52

No worries snowy - it was just a thought as you said it was rare. Hope you are having a good day xx

Orlando - thats pants, i know how you feel, its frustrating. I have been in that position many times, my confidence is at rock bottom. but i'll get there some day - so will you x

SnowyMouse · 26/11/2013 12:25

Hugs Orlando It must be very difficult. I'm sure something will turn up, you're strong for keeping going.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 26/11/2013 13:35

I'm sorry Orlando x
I've been for a few interviews this year and not got the job, but I'm thinking try not to take it too personally? I mean the last one I went for I'm sure I was picking up some vibes that they liked me and that I'd be good at the job, just that unfortunately the jobs I'm going for are so competitive (and the job market in general is ATM) and sadly for me they must have just seen someone later in the day who they liked even more or who they felt fitted the role even better.
Though it's tough and makes you feel rejected at the time it's not really a personal rejection IYSWIM ?
I'm sure we both have a lot to offer in the right role.

3asAbird · 26/11/2013 14:14

well today feel better for nights sleep too no chances and took 20mg temazapam.

I have attempted to do housework and spent 2hours on girls room of doom.

The little ones have been usual hard work making mess,arguing not eating their lunch.

Nearly time for pm school run and dreading that its dry but cold.
have flipping rainbows run tonight.
Aim is get little ones bed early again..

hubbys not home until 7.30 picking eldest up from brownies.

im sure want a medal as he was up last night and did breckfast club school run this morning.

I havent done any admin tasks feel overwhelmed.
still dont know what to do about hospital appointment and preshcool clash.Mil has dental appointment that week!

I know i sound mean for resenting mil but shes so bloody difficult even more so now hubby only has 1 day offa week so cramming in too much stuff.

Yesterday was so down about weight and the shitty afternoon that i binge ate all day--wasent sick just ate loads.

Today im back to eating little feeling guilty. got so stressed lunchtime had choc mouse then was sick but fel calmer afterwards,
Sometimes i think about confiding my disordered eating with hubby but know he be angry and at moment its my comfort and way of coping when overwhelmed.

I wish my moods were more consistant some days im fine and normal then some days cant see wood for trees feel tearful, stressed, overwhelmed. Its like all positivity just drains away.

Its been months now and keep hoping it will lift I know im maybe bot depressed. im bit of a perfectionist and as i have no support from family or freinds im used to doing loads but latly feel like its all too much.

Wasent really envious over freinds wealth its more the support structure she has she has options where as i feel stuck in house i hate, doing driving lessons but almost scared of passing.
This is first time had 2 toddlers at home and finding them a challenge and dont want to admit im struggling and everyone assumes i cope as i always do.

Im scared of confronting my issues as at moment not sure they can be resolved I cant magic up helpful freinds and family to babysit or occasional school pickup if im stuck.

Looks like hubbys fabby new job is maybe same salary as before or aybe even less for more hours and less flexible shifts so he helps out less than he used to.

The house -until landlord sells I guess we be here then stressfully trying find somewhere will start seriously looking after xmas.

I feel like want new area fresh start.

I know lucky live in nice area but feels more pressure as everyone around me seems to look better, have more active lives as they have money maybe im just bein insecure.

I think thats why focussed on looking thin for xmas as dont need money to achieve that. I lost no weight at all last week and need to lose 9lb by xmas.If i dont will feel i failed and feel even more crap.

SnowyMouse · 26/11/2013 15:54

Psych appointment is running late by at least 20 minutes (my appointment is 4pm but won't be). I'm going to have to walk back home as the buses get very busy at this time of day Hmm

SnowyMouse · 26/11/2013 17:31

Do you normally take 20mg of temazapam 3? Sounds like a lot. Well done for getting things done on the housework side of things. Some people find ticking tasks off an achievable list helps their mood.
Could you set an achievable weight loss (1-2lb per week)? Meds can make it hard to lose weight...

I'm finally back home.

OrlandoWoolf · 26/11/2013 17:55

I have yet another interview tomorrow!!

Similar job to yesterday - except more responsibility. I got no sleep last night as my mind was going over and over. I spent 2 hours undercovers today hating myself and my life. It is so so hard to keep at it and get constant rejection.

So let's see what tomorrow brings.

SnowyMouse · 26/11/2013 18:43

Good luck with the interview Orlando

JugglingFromHereToThere · 26/11/2013 19:33

I have an interview tomorrow Orlando, and a visit to another place too.
You think of me, and I'll think of you ? Deal ?
Thanks Thanks
And sleep well tonight x

SnowyMouse · 26/11/2013 19:44

Good luck juggling too!

OrlandoWoolf · 26/11/2013 19:47

Good luck to you juggling

I'll be thinking of you. Will feed back tomorrow.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 26/11/2013 19:57

Thank you both! Thanks

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JugglingFromHereToThere · 26/11/2013 20:37

Hi angst, am sorry to hear about all those tiring appts.
Good to see you here
Never say never about getting to a MN meet-up hey?

  • I dropped in on the London one last year just before XMas Smile
Thanks for your good wishes too.
SnowyMouse · 26/11/2013 21:01

I'm sorry you're having a rough time, UA Hugs to you.

ThatVikRinA22 · 26/11/2013 21:05

hey all

orlando - keep going - good luck for tomorrow.

sontarinpussycat - not sure if you remember but DS has Aspergers and a couple of other special needs thrown in for good measure....he struggles on his own, i know i should take some board off him but i would rather he get straight financially and move out.....Leeds is close enough to get to easily but far enough away for me not to feel the strain!

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LollipopViolet · 26/11/2013 21:09

Slimming World tomorrow morning - followed by poking my head round the door of this new friendship group for the fist time eek!

Then skating rehearsals - can't believe we've only got a week and a bit to go!

TheSontaranPussycat · 26/11/2013 21:51

Yes vicar I do remember, and I'm taking it into account - but you know DS best. Sorry if I sounded too harsh.

Milkhell · 26/11/2013 22:00

Goodness me!! There's been a lot going on in the village!

I have good news kind of...first day back at work after nine months off on mat leave (and second bout of major PND/postnatal anixety in under three years).

So...a few months ago I had the crisis team out with anxiety to the point of hallucinating the kids weren't breathing in bed (lowest point in my life) I didn't know which way was up, was merely surviving each minute and asked the crisis team if I'd ever, ever be able to operate normally again as I truly didn't believe I could. They said it depended on me...

Yes I felt mega anxious and weird at being back at work, in a new office no less with new colleagues and a new computer system, but I did it! I'm not sure how I'm going to manage with stressful situations if which they'll be many. But I wasn't terrified 100% of the time! which is good progress for me.

Hugs to all!

Xxx