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if you feel those winter blues, move to our Village, spread the news!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/10/2013 23:22

new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

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JugglingFromHereToThere · 13/11/2013 18:43

About whether there's something in the air - maybe it's the time of year? I was feeling it's a bit chilly today and feeling a bit daunted by the prospect of the winter ahead. Have been OK about autumn up to now and recently had a nice half-term hol up in London (mostly) So, I suppose it's good I've not noticed autumn creeping on into winter until now. Sorry if sharing these thoughts doesn't help! Love to all x

LEMisafucker · 13/11/2013 18:51

It does help - i don't like being cold, waiting for DP to sweep chimney so we can have log burner on, can only afford an hour a day of heating :( brrrrrrr

JugglingFromHereToThere · 13/11/2013 19:24

Oh, will be nice to get a log burner on LEM - I'd love to get one of those (should be possible as we have two chimneys/ fireplaces)
Sorry you're cold ATM

ColouringInQueen · 13/11/2013 19:29

Brrrrr!

Lovely to hear from you orchard glad you have better plans in place.

Thanks lem yes it is lovely to be able to draw.

Ended up ringing Samaritans as big panic attack that I couldn't get under control, dh came home had to go straight out to parents who locked themselves out, so I have to get kids to bed. But agitation was overwhelming and struggling to breathe. Bit calmer now tho chest still tight. Knackered. Have to do bedtime and stories then I can stop. Haven't had a panic attack in months si bit gutted. But there we go.

Love to all

LEMisafucker · 13/11/2013 19:36

DP and I sometimes fit log burners for people, i think they are the best thing since sliced bread, but you knwo how it is, cobblers children........i could be waiting a while Hmm

LollipopViolet · 13/11/2013 21:56

Hmm, not sure how I feel about today. Skating show rehearsal was great. Work was OK, stressful, but OK.

Just feeling a bit dissociated from everything at the minute - like it's not really happening to me, IYSWIM? Like I'm just "existing" not living.

I think it's because I'm taking a huge step in getting my business going, showcasing at my first wedding fair on Sunday (I'm a photographer who now wants to make a go of it as a supplement to my FT job). I've shot weddings as a guest before, and the pictures, I've been told, are great. So we'll see.

Just can't quite believe I'm setting the dream in motion.

I actually took a big step today though, was chatting to one of the skating coaches at my rink and said, "This is one of few places outside my family and my house where I feel safe, where I can just be me." I've not admitted that before - not to them. I have to my ice hockey friends, who are another part of that.

ColouringInQueen · 13/11/2013 22:05

Wow lollipop that's great re the photography - good for you. And lovely to hear about your skating. Hope you have your feet up now!

LEMisafucker · 14/11/2013 14:49

I've just walked ten fecking miles - i am shattered Grin and cold, feel better for it though. I think im starting to feel better, this past few days has been fucking awful - scared myself.

TheSilveryPussycat · 14/11/2013 15:54

CiQ has he got a proper business plan? It should forecast when he will make a profit. What assumptions is he making which you think are too optimistic?

Not meaning to increase worry, far from it, just hoping clarity might help iyswim.

ColouringInQueen · 14/11/2013 17:38

Wow lem that's amazing! Glad to hear you feel better for it. Should sleep well tonight!

spc no, he doesn't yet. Supposed to be doing that in dec once his pro bono work finishes. I find it very stressful talking to him about it as he has a v diff mindset - I guess I'm more old school. Tho his networking and pro bono stuff is paying off. Just don't think he's that realistic. But then I feel I cant be too critical seeing as I'm not working, and I don't want to be constantly negative and make him depressed again.

ColouringInQueen · 14/11/2013 17:42

In terms of assumptions, he got v excited as about a month ago his three pro bono clients said they would contract him next year so was v excited about prospect of reasonable amount of income (tho not break even for us). But the reality is he has to tender for one, another has significantly scaled down the contract scope and the third are talking - but nothing on paper.

TheSilveryPussycat · 14/11/2013 18:00

One reason to have a business plan (I love Excel , btw). You can feed in your most optimitic forecast and print it out.

Then you can come down to earth, feed in the current forecast, and print that out as well...

So he's going to have to learn (even more) about tendering, and selling himself? The focus has to be on getting the work, rather than providing the service, however good he is at that. Sounds quite exciting, and networking and persistance can go a long way.

I may sound as if I know what I am talking about, it's more that I have watched a lot of Dragon's Den, plus small businesses I have known about in my life... But I'm usually not a bad theoretician Confused

ColouringInQueen · 14/11/2013 19:46

yes I think it will help seeing a written business plan - and your two forecasting approaches make complete sense!

ColouringInQueen · 15/11/2013 19:19

Hi everyone, how's things going today?

Had an OK day here. Got some cake decorating stuff first thing, then a supermarket run (rising panic attack) and then making fairies out of sugar paste for 2.75 hours!!! Do look good though Wink Don't understand why going round a supermarket was driving the anxiety sky-high, whereas trying to repeatedly pry thin, fragile, sugar paste from fairy cutter/embosser was ok Confused

Trying to psych up the courage to go and join a choir I sang in last Christmas.. but the friend I went with last year can't make it this year.... Daunting. Lots of lovely rather well-to-do ladies in twinsets, and me, an east end/Essex girl at heart Wink

We shall see...

LEMisafucker · 15/11/2013 19:23

CiQ, i have most of my anxiety attacks in the supermarket :( Major trigger for me.

Ive had a good day - Been to the tower of london, was bloody brilliant (although accompanying 60 kids so shattered is an understatement)

ColouringInQueen · 15/11/2013 19:24

Wow those school trips are knackering aren't they!

What is it about supermarkets Hmm

Glad you've had a good day x

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ThatVikRinA22 · 16/11/2013 02:07

hi all
im lost. cant keep up with posts what with work and puppy...feeling a bit blue lately but its work related (quelle surpise!)

will do my utmost to catch up with everyone tomorrow....

love to all x

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EdwiniasRevenge · 16/11/2013 11:20

Sinking here....from lack of time, lack of sleep and a chest full of fluid.

DumDum32 · 16/11/2013 13:54

hi all,

home today from hospital but feeling strange still :(

oh ed u taking anything for the chest? hope u feel better soon.

sorry not caught up on the rest of thread.

DumDum32 · 16/11/2013 14:04

I'm off to get a new phone thanks to my brother. were taking DD out for a much needed play time. might even bump into Santa :) I'm hoping that will cheer me up! if not the cigartete definitely will.

LEMisafucker · 16/11/2013 14:05

Ed, you'll be fine - need to get that chest infection sorted, have you been to the doctor?

LollipopViolet · 16/11/2013 15:34

Oh my, nerves are kicking in big time for tomorrow now. On the other hand, got my pictures back from the photo shoot I did, and I'm in shock! I don't look like me! I look GOOD! I never look good in photos, ever!

Unbelievably happy.

Now, if these nerves would kindly go away so I can enjoy a night at the ice hockey, it'd be greatly appreciated.

TheSilveryPussycat · 17/11/2013 08:45

All the best for today Lollipop, and remember to smile at your potential clients :) :) :) :)

DumDum32 · 17/11/2013 10:47

gud luck lollipop u'll b fine. like silvery said just smile :)

so I didn't get my phone (none in stock) :( gotta wait till weds. disappointment aside DD had a great tym so well worth the effort to go. haven woken up feeling a bit weird but dare I say it could be a good day :)

LEMisafucker · 17/11/2013 12:16

REally not doing well :( My mother is kicking off again, i actually walked out on her yesterday and i feel guilty now but i couldn't cope, she was shoving bits of the cooker in my face telling me how her sister had damaged it, I told her she needed to see a doctor whereas usually i'm just non-commital, i told her i couldnt cope with this and had lots to do "oh i thought so" i tried to point out that i have a DD to look after, and you know, my own life. Was really upset, DP and i had already fallen out and its been strained (to say the least) over the weekend. I know this is trivial but we bought DD a new school coat, only he didn't buy a school coat, he bought her a lovely coat £35 Shock but its not school colours and he was all "they can't tell her what coat to wear" i take the school uniform policy seriously, and yes, i think that a certain colour coat (one that is difficult to find) is a bit shite but the other children follow the rules so should DD. I felt like they were both ganging up on me and DP made me look like an idiot in the shop. He hasn't really spoken much to me since. We did go and see DD1 and that was nice, we watched a film. Today i don't know what to do about my mum, she wants to buy a new microwave (she has dismantled her cooker, chucked out her old microwave) but because i wouldnt agree with her yesterday she said not to bother - so now she can make it my fault that she has nothing to cook on. I am sitting here with butterflies in my stomach becase i know i have to go there, i am praying that the door will be locked otherwise i just have to face more shite of her showing me stuff her sister has put "stuff" on. I was upset about it yesterday but DP was angry and said "oh well LEM that your life isn't it" wth a horrible smirk on my face - the thing that hurt is that its true. My DD2 has no respect for me and woldnt listen when i said that she wasn't allowed the coat. Then i bought her a keyring from the cake shop but told her she couldnt have the cae with her new coat on, so instead of coming out of the shop with a big smile she goes out to DP saying i was mean Hmm I was told not to "start" WTF???? He has been so good this week, but has gone sour this weekend. I feel like i am falling apart - i just want to be wth my DD but she only wants him. I am scared about how my mum will be today. I spend most evenings going to sleep fretting about how she will be. I know i am making the situation but im still scared.