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roll up for the village fete! move to our village if your 'fete' is to be happy!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/07/2013 22:17

6th thread folks....

keep talking/posting.

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filee777 · 08/08/2013 22:33

Hello well I've had a good and productive day, been a bit forgetful, forgot a very important call but managed to pull it back at the last minute.

I jumped in and helped at work this evening when two of the girls went sick and so they think I am brilliant, I told them to prove it by sorting out my dodgy hours!

It's half ten now and I am not at all tired, which to be honest has been the only nasty side effect. So I am going to have a zopiclone and crash out.

I think 100mgs is better for me, it means I am not thinking about which part of the day I want to not have the black pit of death in my chest...

wfrances · 09/08/2013 09:58

morning all.
so as i cant clean and tidy ,i decided to sort (doesnt look so bad in front of kids)
started in the 2 outbuildings - i dont usually go in them,as thats where i send everything from the house.
anyway i found a box of half made christmas decos from last year.(school xmas fetes)so ive set my self a goal of finishing 20 a day
so far its been a nice distraction/
hope your all feeling well, and have nice things planned for the weekend.

would anyone happen to know when the next ebay free listing day is?

filee777 · 09/08/2013 14:47

Gah! I cocked up at work AGAIN! Needs to be the last time I am such a moron!

I didn't go to two of my calls this afternoon and the third one I was 2 hours late for! Just dreadful behaviour

Anyway work are being quite cool with me but I must stop it :(

LEMisdisappointed · 09/08/2013 16:55

what do you do fillee?

I am not doing so well here - really really struggling, my counsellor says she is worried about me - told me to chill out Hmm

filee777 · 09/08/2013 17:44

Lost my rota and didn't turn up to 2 of my calls :( dreadful

SnowyMouse · 09/08/2013 17:51

Hugs LEM

filee777 · 09/08/2013 17:55

Oh I am a home carer for the elderly (mostly)

lEM I hope you feel better soon!

hoochymama1 · 09/08/2013 18:07

Sorry to hear that, Lem hope you have a better evening, my lovely.

Be careful about the self-meds filee, work with the gp. Hope it all sorts itself soon.

Keep on posting wfrances, it sounds like today has gone well.

Oo ((( Snowy ))) and ((( silvery ))) Flowers Flowers

I love your woodpecker Ed

London was great with dh, and none of my worries came true.

Really worried about DS, he is 23, mh problems, binge eater, has failed 2nd year 3 times, is living with us now and about to do y2 again while living at home.But we came home just now and the other children said he was really isolating, overeating huge amounts and they were really worried. I can't stand any more. I feel I have to give him another chance at uni, but am very sceptical about his ability to engage with uni. Help!! I feel such a crap mum, but I feel, if he doesn't cope with uni this time, I am all out of patience, and just want him gone.We had a frank exchange of views, which was mainly me going on...and now he's gone for a walk.

Gosh..

SnowyMouse · 09/08/2013 20:33

I'm going through a rough patch, my mood is a 2 or 3. I'm switching antidepressants when my gp gets the letter. Can't seem to stop eating, keep going to the corner shop and buying junk.

I'm sorry things are so rough for your DS hoochy, does he have MH support for doing his uni work? (I'm not sure what they do, but I was offered MH support on top of other things).

ColouringInQueen · 09/08/2013 20:34

Hi everyone

Hugs to lem, hoochy, filee and anyone else who needs them. Well done wfrances for finding an activity you can work through.

hoochy that sounds really tough with your ds - wish I had some gem of advice, but really hoping you and he can find a positive way forward.

lem has anything triggered your feeling worse - concerned to hear your counsellors worried about you. Take care of yourself and try and be kind to yourself x.

Hello snowy, silvery and anyone lurking. Hope you're doing ok this fri night x

ColouringInQueen · 09/08/2013 20:37

Hugs snowy is the eating thing a recent change? I had that for a week with the fluox - or it may have been a hormonal blip. Fortunately stopped. What are planning on switching to?

SnowyMouse · 09/08/2013 20:49

It is a recent change, bit odd as I'm taking less of the lofepramine in preparation for switching to mirtazepine. I hope it does stop, I can't afford to put on weight.

How is everyone doing?

filee777 · 09/08/2013 20:56

I've been eating a bit too much the last couple of days too, plus had a bit of a bleed?? Vaginal

ColouringInQueen · 09/08/2013 22:45

Hope so too snowy.

filee I think lots of people comfort eat when they're down (I know I do). Are you worried about the bleed (feel free not to reply if you'd rather not! )

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood · 09/08/2013 23:22

Evening all,
I have a giant turnip to show, can I come into the veggie tent?

ThatVikRinA22 · 10/08/2013 00:00

giant veges welcome....step this way! never

i had a lovely day yesterday, but am spent up. have no money left until the end of the month. We shouldnt really have gone to Alton Towers but we havent had a holiday in 2 years now so we irresponsibly said sod it and went anyway....
it was meant to go on credit card but i took the old one instead of the new on so it wouldnt work...
then on the way home DH hit the bloody kerb on a dual carriageway at 70, car was due a service but was going to wait until end of the month....didnt dare risk it after kerbing it so badly.
so.
upshot is no money till pay day.
going to aldi tomorrow to try and do a cheap shop.

had a lovely day today though - dsis came came through unexpectedly and we went to the coastal resort we used to go to as kids and stay in a chalet at....we havent been for 35 years so we got a bit lost in nostalgia. we even went to the chalet park for a mooch round.
We had a real laugh....we do get a bit silly in each others company sometimes but its lovely and she is someone i properly belly laugh with....at one point i had to sit down for fear of wetting myself....
we collected pebbles on the beach. We bought cheap chips and takeaway coffee and had a lovely lovely afternoon.
so much so we are now resolving to go and stay there for a few nights and do some serious beach combing....
im stuck on the bones of my arse till pay day but maybe after that it would be nice - its a dump of a place but has a lovely interesting beach, and we said we could just go for a few night to have a laugh and enjoy the company. so thinking about it and pricing it up - we could do it for about £70 quid for 3 nights next month....i was apprehensive about going back there - it held such special memories for me - but it was actually really nice.
and i havent laughed like that for ages. i think that alone did me good.

so. thats me. back to work next week and then these bloody tests which im dreading....

but then the spa - (which thank god is paid for) to look forward to, and possibly a few nights with dsis at our childhood holiday resort. will see.

right. off to read for a bit. forget meds too today so best go and take them.

how is everyone else doing?

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NeverKnowinglyUnderstood · 10/08/2013 00:11

thanks for the welcome, when is the prize giving?
what does happen to the massive veggies, do people make soup and stuff out of them or do they get distributed elsewhere?

My anxiety is sky high at the moment, I know why and am using as many of the techniques I learned in therapy to deal with them but the main part was to recognise that anxiety was my bodies way of telling me i had taken on more than I could handle. Unfortunately am not in a position to remove things at the moment.

So, am going to go to GP next week for a few sleeping pills to try to reset my body clock. (it has worked before) I spend so much of the night awake worrying and stressing that I am exhausted the next day and each of the little things I need to achieve feel like mountains to climb. I am hoping that with some decent sleep I will be able to handle things a bit better.
Most of all I am frightened that if I don't get a handle on this anxiety that my ptsd with kick in and I will end up with full on flashbacks where as at the moment it is just feeling scared and fight or flighty all the time.

wow that was too long. sorry...

EdwiniasRevenge · 10/08/2013 00:51

Good evening all.

Been awol for a few days.

Dcs have been on holiday with xp, so I have been home alone. I did have a plan to blitz the whole house while they were gone...well I started at 2pm roday....so I blitzed my lounge floor....which was lovely until dcs came home. But I'm thinking c'est la vie. I've had a pretty chilled and relaxing few days. I have missed them, but within a couple of hours I have to say I was missing my 'me time'.

Been back to drs and she is going to start spacing out my reviews :).

Current plan is to go back to uni oct ish. I will do part time for a couple of weeks before full time. I have to do 6wks but clock will start ticking when full time starts.

Only thorn in the plan is that I am due to go back to the same school.
Now I don't feel my breakdown was a direct result of the school. But it was a tough placement. School is in a very deprived area and although it doesn't have huge behavioural problems it can only acheive that through strong classroom management which I haven't mastered. So I find it tough. There is a LOT of departmental politics (previous NQT resigned from the career with stress). Head of dept. Has a strong personality. I get on eith her but constantly on my guard with her. She has exceedingly high expectations which fuel my own high expectations and subsequent (non) failures.
From my own perspective I feel my first 6wks there was tainted by my dsfs cancer and subsequent bereavement. I feel that I wasn't focussed for those 6 weeks. In my head those 6wks 'don't count'. I then feel guilty that I left them suddenly when my dsf was transferred home on the liverpool care pathway.
I then returned and did a week before breaking down. So I left them again. I just percieve myself as being a troublemaker to them iyswim. Stop start. No commitment.

Anyway, all of the numerous friends I have told the plan to are shocked that I am returning to the same school. Some are personal friends that have seen me crack and heard my plight with unexperienced ears. Others are friends thst trained with me. My dr was also surprised.

Anyway...after all that waffle I am going to ask for a new placement, and if necessary my dr will write a letter supportimg me.

I hope that is the right thing to do and it isn't a case of better the devil you know.

In other news this weeks twin for me is snowy. I have put on sooo much weight recently. Ive been living on a diet of chocolate (especially minstrels which have free cinema tokens on). I NEED TO STOP. I have been drinking a lot less alcohol this week and even better a lot more clear fluid (I drink less than a pint of non alcohol a day. Always have.)..

But I am happy to still be vicars twin too....struggling with money here. I have cash stowed away but need to move it to current account to access it...before I accidently hit my overdraft for the first time since student days.

I really should open some mail...have started doing some non scary looking bits as they arrive but need to deal with backlog

Talking of increased meds doses...when I increased I didn't notice any recurrance of side effects. I was on fluoxetine though.

Hugs to all welcome to the newcomers.

I see you have made a fantastic display there with those 2 turnips and that strange shaped carrot, and what a strange effect you rubbing it vigerously with oil...I've never seen veggies do that before

ThatVikRinA22 · 10/08/2013 02:16

well talking of childish giggles.....

when dsis and i were queuing for coffee we noticed a whole myriad of exotic ice cream flavours.
i asked Dsis what they were and she replied "oh they have manilla"
so i in my innocence asked what the chuff "manilla" was
and she said "could be man flavoured ice cream....ah.no its just Vanilla"
and i whispered "oh theres a business idea in there somewhere - we could do cock cones"
which caused us both to absolutely lose it while stood in the queue and im sure people thought we were barking mad because we were in hysterics....

then in our fascination with the pebbles on the beach we walked right past the car park and couldnt find it....

and as we were putting the haul of pebbles in the boot she commented that the 'stones would be full of boot'
instead of the 'boot would be full of stones'....we must have been on the laughing gas because i had to sit down in the car park at this point.....

so polish those veggies girls! judging will commence!

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filee777 · 10/08/2013 06:51

ed I really think that a fresh start, even ifs a just as tough one, will be better for you. It amazing the power that a place or group of uniforms can hold, I could never go back to the town I grew up in, I used to pave the streets in that town thinking everybody knew I was the worst person in the world, my brother would speak to my friend groups and tell them to be wary of me too, so before people even met me they would have a preconceived idea and of course that didn't help. All part of his web of abuse.

When we lost our house the council (after I had expressedly told them I couldn't) told me they had a house for me in the town to live. I was so upset it made me Ill, I hyperventilated and ended up on the floor screaming and shaking

3 weeks later I found out that my little baby girl had died in my belly at about that time.

Don't let a place possibly take you back there because people remember and so will you, through smells and sounds and sights and it may impede your brilliant recovery

TheSilverySoothsayer · 10/08/2013 09:43

filee Sad [hugs]

Ed well done at your plan to change placement. You need a new go at it, with no crap memories to undermine you. filee's last sentence says why in a nutshell.

vicar I love a good giggle-fest Grin

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood · 10/08/2013 09:45

Thanks for the welcome.
I think a fresh start does sound like a better option for now. Although if you were feeling super strong I can see the kick you could get from going back and being the most amazing member of staff they had ever seen.
Fili you sound like you have been through so much. Please be kind to yourself.
Vicar. The man cream made me laugh!! Thanks. Although to be honest it is never something I have liked the taste of.

Today there are 10+ things on my list but I MUST bake a 10" fruit cake for a customer. All else can go to pot. Sleep arrived after 2.45 this morning so am pooped.

Hope you all have a positive day x

TheSilverySoothsayer · 10/08/2013 09:50

never you bake! Do you find it soothing, as I do, or is it different because it is work? (Have we 'met'? Do you do the Bake Off thread?)

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood · 10/08/2013 10:04

Baking and cake decoration are so good for my mental health. I can't do the decoration if I am stressed it just doesn't work out properly.
I am very lucky in that it is extra money rather than the weekly shop and I think that takes the pressure off.
I haven't really been on many threads recently as I tend to end up putting a downer on them :-(

filee777 · 10/08/2013 15:02

Just got a letter summoning us to court for unpaid council tax :( :( bad bad news. Need to phone them on Monday