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roll up for the village fete! move to our village if your 'fete' is to be happy!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/07/2013 22:17

6th thread folks....

keep talking/posting.

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LEMisdisappointed · 27/09/2013 12:13

Puppèeeeeeeeeee :)

SnowyMouse · 27/09/2013 17:45

How was the low-lighting, Ed ?

That's so exciting vicar ! How are the rats?

I hope the blood test was ok, DD32 ?

Just for a change(!?!) Hmm I'm struggling. The crisis team person wanted me to see the duty doctor, I declined as I don't want to go up to the hospital. They've said they'll review it each day Hmm Sad Nothing will get me to go up there.

DumDum32 · 27/09/2013 19:58

awww snowy is there any1 that can go with u. I always take my brother with me to these meetings. I couldn't do it on my own.

they butchered me at the blood test couldn't find a vein. after numerous attempts they finally got some blood. on the way home I was really light headed & have spent the afternoon napping! just about had some dinner but it has made me feel sick. I'm sweating as well so think I'm coming down with something Hmm really hope not :(

SnowyMouse · 27/09/2013 20:11

I'm glad they finally got some blood, I always have the same problem. I hope you're not going down with a bug DD32 There isn't anyone I could go with. I just have to take it step by step.

DumDum32 · 28/09/2013 12:37

thanks snowy how u feeling today? step by step sounds good I always say baby steps!

I'm doing okish today. at least I've made it out of bed well was forced out of bed. one of my uncles is coming over for a day stay from overseas & well my mum has been cleaning the flat inside out. she even made me help out :( I'm a bit scarred tbh but thankfully my brother has said he'll take me n DD out for a bit & later every1 is going to my aunt's so the flat will be empty again. I'm planning to be in bed before they come back but that all depends on DD!

how is every1 else does doing?

SnowyMouse · 28/09/2013 18:50

I'm still low, continuing with crisis team involvement Hmm

I'm glad you got out of bed, I hope you and DD had a good time with your brother?

(((( everyone ))))

SnowyMouse · 28/09/2013 21:10

Good night all.

ColouringInQueen · 28/09/2013 23:16

Night snowy and everyone x

SnowyMouse · 29/09/2013 12:51

Good morning all (ok, afternoon even)

LEMisdisappointed · 29/09/2013 13:00

Struggling had terrible week with my mother row with dp who is rolling out the wanting to split up card that he does every time things are difficult. I actually just want to be left alone

SnowyMouse · 29/09/2013 13:24

Oh (((( LEM )))) What an awful week Sad Can you get out for a walk or something?

mamakoukla · 29/09/2013 13:39

(((LEM))) that is rough. As Snowy suggests, go for a walk or similar - or down to the beach and get some fresh air and quiet. Find some quiet inside before you answer or think about any of this.

DumDum32 · 29/09/2013 16:36

awwwww ((((((LEM))))) hope u ave been for a walk like the other's suggested. that sounds really crappyyyyy :(

I'm doing rubbish today. woken up with really sore eyes (both my bottom lids are really red sore & hurt like hell) plus my lovely voices in the head r having a field day & not stooping for a break at all. of course night time has arrives & hallucinations have started also. on a plus point a friend has popped round to keep n eye on DD so I can finally have a clip of tea & a cig or maybe 3 or 4 Grin the voice in my head is saying have a whole pack of 10's Hmm

hope everyone is doing ok

SnowyMouse · 29/09/2013 17:25

Sorry you're doing rubbish DD32 big hugs

ColouringInQueen · 29/09/2013 20:49

Hi everyone,

How're you doing this eve lem? Sorry to hear you've had such a tough week. Has anything in particular prompted these comments from your dp? Hope you have a better week.

dumdum glad you had someone round to help with dc. How are your eyes now? My anxiety gives me dry eyes which can be v uncomfy esp in the morning.

Hi mama, snowy hope your Sundays been ok.

Mine ok. My df birthday so went over there. Mum not too depressing and made dads fav pudding.

SnowyMouse · 29/09/2013 20:51

LEM, how are things? I hope you got some space. DD32, how was the rest of your day, did DD have fun with your friend?

I'm glad your Sunday was ok, CIQ Smile

I'm apprehensive about my review meeting tomorrow, just have to wait and see.

Good night and good luck to all.

LEMisdisappointed · 29/09/2013 21:17

CiQ - whenever there is friction (which in my view happens to everyone?) He says about splitting up, its like an underlying threat. I hate it because he is so lovely most of the time. My mother has been really difficult this week, i have started another thread about it so wont clog up this one with it, but i am at breaking point with it all really and it has made me snappy at home. DD2 is talking to me like a bit of dirt so i am getting cross with her, its so upsetting. DD1 would never have spoken to me like that - well, not until she was 15 :) DD2 is only 8 :( I honestly don't know if DP just says these things out of frustration and anger of if he genuinely isn't happy with me. I just wish he would make a decision one way or another and let me have some security, even if its without him.

Sending a big FUCK OFF to DD32s voices - leave her alone you feckers! And of course a huge hug to DD32!

Snowy i hope you are getting some peace too.

Hugs to all (including Vicar's new puppy - am Envy) We will want pics!!

Feeling a little better despite DP still only barely managing to be nice to me, i can feel his resentment bubbling under the surface, he'll have to suck it up, i have Wine and a new download for my kindle!

ColouringInQueen · 29/09/2013 22:33

Thats tough lem and must impact on your ability to be open with him when that threats in the background Hmm dont know what to say other than sending hugs.

Fwiw I think the attitude from dd is not unusual at this age- my and a friends dds, both 8, have def been pushing the boundaries and been mouthy and attitude-y which we're both trying to be firm and consistent with - dont answer back, don't speak to your mum like that etc, which is no fun but gradually starting to have an effect!

Enjoy your read.

I'm not speaking to my dp this eve Hmm were chatting in the morning about how id been etc and he said "dont you realise what an impact you (ie depressed sometimes) have on me?" But cos kids were there I couldn't say the " of course I f*ing do I was in your shoes last year and know only full well what it s like!" Couldn't face bringing it up this eve so its lurking... I know I'm not being very mature - will have accept/raise tomorrow.. how much are you supposed to suck up tho? As im starting to express my thoughts and emotions more I'm not sure where that line is sometimes!

Night all x

TheSilverySoothsayer · 29/09/2013 22:43

CiQ sorry to hear that. Do you remember anything that helped you cope last year? What would help DP cope, do you think?

LEM I will look for your thread. Do you mean your DP is OK unless under stress? Are his threats to leave really just putting blame on you for stuff?

Have had a lovely weekend, DB, DSIL and DN stayed a night :)

TheSilverySoothsayer · 30/09/2013 00:06

LEM I read the thread, and I think you have had some great advice there. I realise it is advice that goes against the grain to put into practice, but I respectfully suggest that you try it for a little while. Because you have to put your own mh first.

LEMisdisappointed · 30/09/2013 09:52

Thanks Silvery - at the moment, she is being ok - despite trying to bash me with the hoover post yesterday (fuck it was like being 8 again!). Any more shite though and i am walking away

LEMisdisappointed · 30/09/2013 10:03

CiQ - I am sorry you are having difficulties at the moment - i think people think we choose to be like this sometimes Hmm Id give anything to be able to deal with lifes problems rationally and without spiralling every time something goes wrong, do they REALLY think we like being depressed???? Having a bit of the rage on your behalf there!

I know what you are saying about it being an age thing with DD, her school friends are very similar in the way they talk to their parents, i am Shock as I would never have spoken to my parents and my DD1 who is 23 now wouldn't have spoken to me like that, not at that age anyway. I think we are too soft with our kids. But What are we supposed to do, i don't want to smack my DD. I know one of my frends smacks but her DD is ever ruder than mine!

Hope everyone has a decent day today I am going to go and face the Kracken that is my mother and then take my frustrations out on the housework!

TheSilverySoothsayer · 30/09/2013 10:05

Apart from anything else, LEM, it might be worth stepping back (but keeping an eye) to see how she manages without you to call on. This will give you an idea of how ill she might be functionally (obv she has some odd ideas which show she isn't all that well)

I wonder whether your DP just mentions leaving as a kind of safety valve for himself? It sounds awful for you both.

LEMisdisappointed · 30/09/2013 10:24

Silvery - i dont know why he says it but i think you are right - he wont leave (im glad about that!) but i am not sure that it is only because of DD. Its enough for now and we have nice times together, its just hard at the moment with my mum - I have to get to grips with how i deal with it and stop taking everything to heart.

SnowyMouse · 30/09/2013 13:23

(((( CiQ LEM DD32 silvery vicar anyone I've forgotten ))))