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Not Driving Away!

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Pumble · 13/07/2013 14:21

P1 splashing in the paddling pool and P2 having a nap. So pleased to be back and they are so pleased to be with each other again.

Can't believe we got to 1000 posts! You need to change your nn now too don't you wylye ?!

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Pumble · 18/10/2015 13:48

Gin would certainly be good medicine for the toe.

Staying put at home and midwife here. Contracting well and dilating just so much longer than the other two

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magimedi · 18/10/2015 13:53

So, home birth? Or are you domino - ing (is that still a thing, where you pop into hospital with midwife & then out again?)

My money is still on a boy!

Am not going to resort to gin (at least not for a few hours!). DH being a big hero & cleaning the oven while I sit with foot up! Not a bad reward for poorly toe Grin

magimedi · 18/10/2015 13:55

PS You can occupy yourself with thinking up a title for your next thread - not long to go before we fill this one - about 85 posts & sincerely hope that P3 arrives before then!

magimedi · 18/10/2015 17:20

Hoping that P3 is in your arms now.

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Pumble · 18/10/2015 18:28

You were right magi....one little boy born whilst watching the rugby at 4:02 weighing a huge 8lb6oz!

Pumblettes seem v excited so far!

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rowrowrowtheboat · 18/10/2015 21:41

Congratulations Pumble! I really hope you are recovering well and you are enjoying those wonderful newborn moments.

Sorry I've not been around, I haven't logged on since the last hack, I thought I'd give it a rest for a little while, but I have become a 'lurker' in recent days.

Look after yourself over the next few days, and go team Pumble!!

Ps, seems quite apt that such a heavyweight boy was born during the rugby match ..... Foretelling the future game of choice for him? Only time will tell.

magimedi · 18/10/2015 22:15

Many, many congratulations to you, Mr. P & P1 & P2.

I am so excited!!

Much, much love from your very own internet granny!!

Please give him a special kiss from his aunty magi & am just feeling so jealous of that newborn loveliness & baby smell. Would love to be there!!

XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX (((XXX)))

magimedi · 19/10/2015 17:33

How is Master P?

And, even more important, how are you?

Thinking of you, lovely Pumble.

rowrowrowtheboat · 19/10/2015 20:09

Hey pumble, one day old DS and the other Pumbles. How are you?

Congratulations Magi on becoming an Internet granny!

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Pumble · 20/10/2015 00:15

Very tired and trying to keep all the pumblettes happy but we are doing ok. And trying to sit down and rest s bit which does not come easily...

But I am doing ok, promise!

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LittleBearPad · 20/10/2015 00:30

Congratulations! It's been ages since I posted on one of your threads but I'm so pleased to hear about Master Pumble. Take lots of care of yourself.

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Pumble · 20/10/2015 07:11

Thank you!

That was a very long night and very very tired now! Hoping to get some sleep today but not sure p2 will be happy about it!

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Pumble · 21/10/2015 06:04

P1 and 2 are doing so well but bless them they are so emotionally on edge. They are really wonderful with p3 but v highly strung about everything else. It is totally understandable but yesterday when p1 told mr P she didn't want to come home when he picked her up from achool (having not wanted to go to school originally) I felt so crappy and as if despite all my efforts to keep all pumblettes happy none were when j know it is more that Chang is bothering her and also she is trying so hard to be good all day at school she has nowhere to release all her tension except at us. They will be ok but it is hard trying to keep everyone happy

Enjoying my early morning snuggles with p3 now Smile

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magimedi · 21/10/2015 07:47

Bound to be difficult, but it will pass soon & P3 will become part of their lives & family quicker than you think!

Give him a kiss from me.

Have you chosen a name for him yet? Did you have aboy's name ready?

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Pumble · 21/10/2015 16:55

P1 had an awful school pick up. Mum and dad went on her request and she screamed and kicked saying she didn't ever want to come home, never wanted to go to their house, hates them etx. It's so out of character and I feel so helpless and like I'm failing her. I'm supposed to be picking her up tomo and dreading it as I will have to face all the other mums and teachers who have witnessed her bring like this. They must be thinking what a crap mother I am. Don't know how to face them all.... Wish I could help p1 more.

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magimedi · 21/10/2015 17:40

You are NOT A CRAP MUM!

Stop thinking that, right now!!

P1 sounds over tired and overexcited . She was probably vastly excited about the idea of P3 & now he's here he just isn't measuring up to her idea of what a baby would be like & she's disappointed. He's not like a doll/teddy bear & for her, he's pretty boring & taking up far too much of your time.

Couple of ideas - can you pick her up without P3 & maybe have time for a ten minute treat for 'Mummy's special big girl'??

If not, can a friend of yours pick her up? She almost certainly won't act up with a friend - most children reserve their horror times for Mum Grin

And you must try (& I know it's easier said than done) to stop being anxious about P1 & P2. They'll pick up on it, you know they will.

It's very early days indeed - 4/5 days post birth in many cultures you'd still be in bed & not doing school pick ups etc.

I know it's all so easy for me to say & so much harder for you but things will work out and right now you are the most important person in the family. You must get as much rest (I can hear you humphing!) as you can & try not to worry too much about P1 & 2 - they'll be fine.

Always around when you want to grumble or cheer or scream.

Sending you much love & (((xxx)))

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Pumble · 21/10/2015 18:56

That's just what I needed magi thank you! Am feeling calmer and more rational about it now. We break up for half term tomorrow and think that will help her too as she is beyond exhausted from her first half term at school.

Today tiredness has kicked in too which won't have helped how I was feeling about it all! But they are all currently asleep in their own beds which I am taking as such a victory. Of course it won't last but it means it can happen! Smile

Deep breaths and tomorrow is a new day...just all those night feeds to get through first....why oh why to babies come out with their days back to front?!!!

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magimedi · 21/10/2015 22:33

Hooray for feeling calmer + rational.

Half term will be a godsend - time for the newness of P3 to sink in & become part of life for P1 & P2.

All asleep is indeed a major victory.

Babies come out like that so you can enjoy that fleeting time of them being precious newborns all to yourself.

I envy you in one way, little baby snuggles & sniffs but to be honest I would not like to give up my sleep!!

DS & DIL & PFGD are in the UK - staying with DIL's parents for a few days as they are going to DIl's best friend's wedding. We go to see them for the day next week - can't wait to see my beloved treasure trove girl!

magimedi · 22/10/2015 16:48

Thinking of you & wondering how pick up went?

Hope you are not too exhausted.

(((xxx)))

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Pumble · 22/10/2015 19:58

Pick up so much better. And she and I then took p3 for a little walk and Mr P and P2 picked us up.

Terrible night though so asleep standing up at the moment. P3 so good at eating and sleeping during the day but less so in the early hours! 12 until 5 a bad time in particular. Grrr

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magimedi · 22/10/2015 21:53

So pleased to hear that pick up was better.

P3 + early hours is just par for the course with a newborn - just enjoy those lovely new born snuggles - it won't last for very long.

But having said that I do remember how bloody knackering it all was......

(((xxx)))

rowrowrowtheboat · 22/10/2015 23:00

Pumble, it looks like there is an hour til the start of your night shift. It is par for the course, but tonight, I am thinking of you! You are not alone in the long hours when, as much as you enjoy the snuggles, the thing you really want to do is go back to sleep. Roll with it and steal those moments with P3 while it's just the two of you.

The walk with P1 sounds lovely. During the day, if you happen to be in a room when it's just you and one of the pumblettes, when they least expect it, whisper to them that you're going to steal a cuddle and just scoop them up for a bear hug. Then catch the other pumblette so they both feel like they've had undivided attention for a moment. Hopefully it will bring a smile to their faces and reassure them that they are really important to you. It sometimes feels more effective than words when they are so small. I remember really missing my firstborn and worrying about how the second would affect our relationship. In reality everyone adapts and soon enough no one will be able to imagine your family unit being any different to how it is now. Mr P, Mrs P and P1 P2 and P3.

magimedi · 23/10/2015 22:28

Waving!!

Hope that radio silence means all is well.

Thinking of you!

(((xxx)))

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Pumble · 24/10/2015 02:05

I just had three and a half hours sleep which makes the world seem so much better at 1:40am! Had some good moments with p1 today too so hoping we are on the right track. Did do too much though abd need to slow down a bit but at least i can see that.

You must be so excited to see PFBDGD again soon magi. Can't believe she's already on solids-where does time go?!!!

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magimedi · 24/10/2015 08:43

So pleased to hear you had some decent sleep.

And good that you realise you are overdoing things - 'all fed, no one dead' needs to be your motto for a few weeks!!

Grey & looking like rain here, so am going to do some jobs & go for a swim later. Pool filled with Adonisis (sp??) as term has just started! Wink