Not Driving Away!

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P1 splashing in the paddling pool and P2 having a nap. So pleased to be back and they are so pleased to be with each other again.

Can't believe we got to 1000 posts! You need to change your nn now too don't you wylye ?!

Hi Magi. I'm sorry to hear the last few weeks of pregnancy are stressful for everyone. I think relatives and friends can feel powerless to help in any way, no wonder your DS feels worried. Hopefully, your DIL is being well looked after by friends and family over there and it sounds like she is being monitored closely. They will act if they are concerned.

I will send feelings of calm to you in the hope that you are not on tenterhooks quite so much.

Distraction is key, and swimming is an excellent one to be distracted with, even if Adonis is not there.

I'm tired tired tired and spread too thin.

Pumble, how's life?

Sorry to hear you are spread thin, row. If we lived nearer I'd be round to help like a shot!

DIL had hospital appt yesterday & BP is OK, but she is still on drugs to keep it low.

No family out there, but her Mum is going over in a few days time.

She is still v laid back but DS is deffo tense - I know, 'cos he's snappy with me on the phone! A mother's place is in the wrong!

Lovely day here, but cold & still no rain, none for a month now & garden (clay) is baked solid!

Off to supermarket shortly - the exciting life I lead!!

Waves to Pumble - How's it all going?

Sorry to hear everyone's news.

How is your DIL magi? Is her BP continuing to remain low. It's great news that it's only four weeks until her due date so not long to go (I say this as someone who never gets to her due date). I can imagine how powerless you feel, and your DS too - just being there on the phone will help him so much. And it shows what a great mother you are that he feels able to snap at you with no repercussions. Sending calming thoughts to you magi and to your DS and to your DIL in the hope it keeps everyone's blood pressure down.

How are you feeling row? It's so hard when spread too thin. Likewsie I would be round with help if nearer. Hope you are managing to try to give yourself a bit of a break and a pat on the back for everything you do.

Enjoy the swimming magi - perhaps a new adonis will appear before too long (or is that wishful thinking on my part for you?!)

Bp still staying down & her Mum arrives today so feel more relaxed.

Sadly no new Adonis has appeared, just an irritating splashy show off in my lane today.

Hope you are feeling less thibly spread, row & hope all is going well with you, *Pumble. How's P3 (to be) ?

In haste but really pleased your DIL has her mum with her now and bP staying down. Fingers crossed

Thank you for your offers of help!

Magi, how is your DIL? Aren't you due tomorrow o be other there soon!

How's the bump Pumble? How are you?

DIL is fine - for now.

3 weeks to go till due date.

Have had a dental day - lost a crown last night on a bit of apple - FFS apple is healthy, isn't it?

Got temp filling & v.v.v expensive work/appointment for next week.

Berluddy teeth - they give you probs from coming in & for the rest of life.

Pumble - I want to hear how P3 is & what is happening with your potential move - please?

Update - DIL is still OK - only 16 days to go.

Still being monitored for BP every other day & hospital twice a week (that's French health system for you!) .

She has her bag packed & takes it with her every time she goes to the hospital.

My phone lives with me - except when I swim - and I can't wait for PFGC to arrive.

PS Adonis has vanished but there is now vair handsome & fit French guy who swims in my lane with me & is tres, tres, charmant!!

Je suis dans quite a tizz quand je swim - il wears speedos!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As I say to mon DH the jour you stop regardezing is the jour you should allez dans votre box!

He (DH) has beacoup de eye candy to watch a la pool!

No swim tomorrow - dentist's chair for me for quite some time to fix this sheared off tooth.

I am just so grateful that I can afford the treatment - god knows what you'd do if you couldn't. It's not right.

So pleased DIL is doing well and that she is being well looked after. Fingers crossed PFGC will be here safely before you know it. Am so excited for you!

How do you manage to swim in a pool with such lovely men to look at?! Clearly I have been visiting the wrong pools all my life... Totally agree with your philosophy though! I would expect a French man to wear speedos-my DH was quite shocked the first time he went swimming in a public pool in France and was told it was compulsory to wear speedos...!

Good Luck in the dentist chair tomo-never my favourite way to spend time. I do agree with you about what happens when you can't afford it-the number of DIY dentist cases must be huge and/or the number of people walking around in pain, neither of which should be acceptable. When I was young you went to the dentist regularly because that's what you did but I can imagine now there are lots of children growing up never going to the dentist as there isn't an Nhs one nearby which means they don't get help with teeth when it's first needed. Anyways, shall stop rabbiting on about the dental crisis now

Hello, nice to hear from you both. pumble, how are you?

Magi, how are you after the dentist? Hopefully it wasn't too gruelling.

Loving the French Magi, sounds like swimming is perfectermont.

Not long now Magi.

Dentist was pretty awful - but my dentist is lovely I have to say.

Just very tired from it all now & gums very sore as she had to drill down through the gum line to fix post for new crown.

has helped hugely.

The pool I swim in is the pool of our local uni that is the Sports Science section of that uni - so it is filled with fit ( ) sporty types.

2 weeks tomorrow is due date - not that I am counting.

Look forward to hearing about Pumblette 3 - this thread is not about me, but about you Pumble.

Am nearly as anxious about you as I am about PFGC!

so, it is raining, it Is cold, it is miserable. It is meant to be MAY. Let's cheers ourselves up with our plans for May half term - only one more week of school til we get a rest.

magi, you will be having the time of your life with PFGC, any distraction plans while you wait?

Pumble, what are you planning to do with the Pumblettes?

I'm off to research 'warm indoor places to visit with children in ridiculously cold May'

Not going to see PFGC right at the start. I think DIL's ma should be the first to go, every woman wants her mum at a time like that. (Unless there are probs) & her mum has said she doesn't want to go immediately (unless there are probs) as she feels that is good for DS, DIL & GC to have a couple of weeks toether, learning to be a family. SO she'll go when DS's paternity leave is up & we are going a few weeks after that. Also means I'll be there for my birthday which is a BIG one this year.

Am truly not too fussed about seeing PFGC immediately, there's skype etc & lots of photos.

Cold & miserable here as well. I can't remember such a cold May for a long time. I am still wearing socks, which you know I hate, and normally am into sandals by now.

Maybe the summer will make up for a bad Spring.

At least you haven't got a camping holiday booked, row unlike some friends of mine. Honestly, I think I'd cancel but have never been a great fan of camping.

I am a granny!!!

All is well.

Whoop whoop whoop

Woohoo

Fabulous news!!!

Pumble - This is your thread.

Am aching to hear your news.

Do let us know how you are.

I'm swinging by to see how everyone is.

Any news?

A little bit of sunshine here, hope there is with The Pumbles and Magi.

I'm OK.

Major works started on the hovel today - drilling, upheavel & DUST!

Granddaughter is well, as is her Mum & Dad. They got 5 solid hours sleep last night!!

Have to say, she is SO beautiful - can't wait to go & see her.

A challenging time here....

Glad all good with your beautiful GD magi

Everything is falling apart

Sweetie, what's wrong?

Talk to us or PM me if you want - I'll be around for an hour or so.

Big hugs, deep breaths, look how far you have come............

Thanks.

Too many things to cope with-pregnancy, selling a house, hunting for a house, mr P away....

And unsurprisingly the pumblettes are not coping with all of this either which means P2 is struggling at bedtimes and P1 has started kicking and hitting me and screaming etx

I just feel like i am failing at everything at the moment-doing everything badly but nothing well.....

No one can ever do everything well.

I doubt that the Pumblettes are a) hungry. b) filthy. c) abused.

We all have or have had major failings with parenting but I am certain that your girls don't doubt your love for them, despite the fact they may be pushing against you as life sounds tough at the moment for you. (Big hug).

The world your girls are going to grow up into & join as adults is not fair, not perfect & can be bloody tough.

Much as we would all like our DCs to have a happy, rose strewn path through childhood, it doesn't happen. Life isn't easy & they are learning that.

I know it's not what you want for them but it is what is now for the Pumble family. Shit happens & always will.

I am certain that they have the fundamental knowledge of your love (& Mr. P's) & that will be their bed rock to go on from & become amazing women.

When I look back at all the parenting fails I inflicted on my DS I am amazed that he has turned out to be the level, loving adult that he is now.

None of us are perfect - none of us are perfect parents, it does not exist.

My only bit of real time advice to you is, if circs allow, try & have a wild & wacky chocolate filled treat day with your girls. Tell them that things are tough but you are all going to have a day off from real life & do something daft for a day.

Lots of love, big hugs, am always around the internet if you want to 'chat', & never forget.....

that you, Pumble are an amazing woman who has come through such a lot & are here on the other side & doing so very well.

XXXXX

Thank you magi . Your words may have added to the seemingly never ending tears at the moment but at least this was in a positive way.

I just feel everybody else copes with what life throws at them and I don't.

My parents are sort of trying to help out but are just making life much harder in many ways which probably sounds ungrateful but is how it feels.

I just wish the pumblettes could be having the happy and innocent childhood they deserve instead of this shit, stressful time instead.

Can we all go and live in a cave?