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Not Driving Away!

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Pumble · 13/07/2013 14:21

P1 splashing in the paddling pool and P2 having a nap. So pleased to be back and they are so pleased to be with each other again.

Can't believe we got to 1000 posts! You need to change your nn now too don't you wylye ?!

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rowrowrowtheboat · 31/07/2014 20:27

His name Blush

Pumble · 31/07/2014 20:58

I heard from one of my finger friends (a lovely way to describe them) today sharing v exciting news with me and it reminded me how important and special our friendship is even though we aren't nearby in distance anyway. It was just what was needed even if she didn't know that!!

Glad life has calmed row. Enjoy your day of fun tomorrow.

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Pumble · 31/07/2014 21:02

Thank you for the poem magi-wise words and very apt at the celebrations.

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Pumble · 05/08/2014 21:33

Evening. How are things?

Ups and downs here as ever but coping! Could do without leaking drains on the patio... Running off to my parents to get away from it!

Had my final session with my cbt man today and feeling a bit strange and scared... Although last session was 10 weeks ago it was a good safety net knowing that there was another session coming up if that makes sense. I have learnt a lot from it all and the sessions probably saved me from running away and watching P2 and me together showed me we do have a bond.

I know I sound silly but just feeling a bit funny Hmm

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rowrowrowtheboat · 05/08/2014 22:06

It will feel funny. The sessions have been of real value, and I can understand it feels scarey not having more. I've not had CBT, so my advice, as ever, has no factual background or voice of experience. I will offer this though

You do have a support group outside of the CBT man -

  • your friends,
  • your family (how much have you shared with your mum? Can you lean on her from time to time for a confidence boost or a listening ear,)
  • your lovely husband who I remember was so supportive when you posted about him,
  • your online friends
  • The techniques you have learnt - refer back to what you have learnt occasional and remind yourself of the best techniques, especially when you have a few days of being particularly tired or feeling vulnerable
  • new friends yet to come. When does your eldest start school? - you will come across people you once knew and reignite friendships, you will cement blossoming friendships, and for the first time, your daughters will steer your choice of company by asking for play dates. Who knows who is round the corner.

And don't forget your children love you for who you are, for your love, kindness, protection, and everything else a mother is. Surely a mother - daughter (or son) relationship is built over years of knowing each other, it evolves, changes, deepens, flexes, but is there like the ocean, waxing and waning, calm or stormy, constant and comforting no matter what the weather. It isn't built and fixed within the first few years of life.

Take care, you are not on your own and you are at the start of a beautiful journey.

Pumble · 05/08/2014 22:18

Row-you must start writing. Your description on mother-child relationships was spot on and beautiful.
I know you're right on your other points too row but it's just scary. Another year before p1 starts school and I do find making friends a challenge!!

How are the summer holidays going? Is it good having them both at home?

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Pumble · 05/08/2014 22:22

And mr P has just booked our big holiday to visit my brother in September. V scary but exciting!!

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Pumble · 05/08/2014 22:22

And mr P has just booked our big holiday to visit my brother in September. V scary but exciting!!

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Pumble · 05/08/2014 22:24

And mr P has just booked our big holiday to visit my brother in September. V scary but exciting!!

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Pumble · 05/08/2014 22:24

And mr P has just booked our big holiday to visit my brother in September. V scary but exciting!!

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magimedi · 06/08/2014 08:12

Row is so right that the relationship with your children isn't just all about the first few years. I do think there is far too much focus on being a 'perfect' mother nowadays. None of us are perfect & it doesn't harm our children to realise that we are human & for them to see how we cope with bad days & for them to realise that mummy has feelings & can be pushed too far. I know that my relationship with DS (now mid 30's) has changed over the years & we are now very good friends as well as mother & son. Mind you, I still have to bite my tongue & realise that he is an adult, sometimes!

Where is big holiday? Am I right in thinking it's the US??

You must be excited to have posted 4 times!! Grin

Pumble is right, Row. You have a real talent with words & should try to write more.

It's raining here this morning - first rain for a month (apart from a thunderstorm). It feels very odd not to see the sun. Off to do the shopping - the exciting life I lead!

magimedi · 07/08/2014 19:35

WARNING!! TMI!!

Crap day today - have had a pain on the left side of my gut for a couple of days & v. bloated, so heaved up to queue outside the GPs at 8am today. Only way to get an appointment.

Got to see Dr & he made me lie down on the couch while he prodded my tum. I farted!!!! Really long, loud & certainly probably stinky!! Thank God he was a locum so will probably never have to see him again!

It's diverticulitis, which, he kindly told me, is very common in people over 55!! Not serious & I can already feel that the antibiotics are taking effect.

B U T - will Magimedi's notes have added to them that she is an old wind bag??

magimedi · 07/08/2014 19:35

Just realised that calling it a 'crap' day was an unintentional pun!!

rowrowrowtheboat · 07/08/2014 20:58

Oh Magi! That has made me laugh smile! Sorry to hear of the pain you've had, and the embarrassment of farts, but I do come from a long line of family who find farting nothing but amusing and never embarrassing. I could make myself identifiable by this, but my mother still tells of story of the very smelly old lady in the chemist shop who suffered from wind, only to discover, this sweet daughter of hers was responsible and was pointing the blame elsewhere! My youngest also seems particularly gifted in creating noisy sound effects. Mostly when she bends over. I feel for you, I really do.

Get well soon old windbag. ((((Hugs))))

rowrowrowtheboat · 07/08/2014 21:16

But doesn't hug too tightly just in case....

magimedi · 12/08/2014 22:29

Hallo!

My farts now smell of eau de cologne! Guts are better!

Waves at Pumble - How are you & hope all this gut stuff hasn't made you flee the thread!

Much cooler here the last day or so - I had to wear a jumper yesterday - first time for a month & was not impressed.

Pumble · 13/08/2014 07:20

Morning all!

Glad the farts are better magi. I have to confess it really made me laugh-would love to know what he wrote on your notes. Wink

I've been in a land of no internet or signal as ran away to my parents new house due to overflowing sewage on our patio for the second time in two weeks-grim grim grim! Came home only for it to happen again...and although there's an issue apparently they won't fix the cause unless it happens once at least once a fortnight another six times! Confused

Stressful time at my parents helping them try to sort some order into the house which needs a lot of work and mum is v overwhelmed but I coped (for the most part) even without mr P. I did have a little weep shoe shopping with the pumblettes but it was hell on earth!

We are off to Malaysia... I'm terrified-lots to do! Off to a beach for the weekend whilst there too-not sure if mg brother realises a beach holiday with two toddlers isn't the same as one with adults... Grin

Definitely chillier here too-the pumblettes had long sleeves on yesterday-v v odd.

Hope all good. Must get up!

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magimedi · 13/08/2014 07:52

Malaysia!!!!!!!!!!! Wow, how amazing.

Don't be terrified, you will have MR P with you & your brother to help with the Pumblettes.

I don't understand why 'they' won't fix the issue - I assume you mean the water compnay? I'd be onto environmental health about this.

Good Luck!

Pumble · 14/08/2014 21:57

Yes it's Thames water. They just say that they need it to happen lots and lots before even considering properly fixing! Appalling but apparently to save money!!

I looked after a friends children this afternoon and we all coped!! They were so noisy etc they stopped p2 napping but I stayed calm which feels like such a victory.

Itching to go running again-hoping to start back gently next week.

Where has all the rain come from?!! My poor washing never quite gets fully dry... I'm being a total slattern though and just hoping that it will get dry soon!

Gosh this is a boring post-sorry!! Smile

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magimedi · 14/08/2014 22:48

Friends's children sounds like more than one extra child! Well done.

Not boring at all - if I had a patio deep in shit I'd be posting & moaning AND writing to the CEO of Thames water about the health risks to my DCs etc etc.

Am also mightily fed up with the rain & the wind (weather variety) here. My lovely pool sloes on Sunday for 11 days annual maintenance & was hopin to sea swim instead. As it is a steeply shelving shingle beach SW winds (the norm here) make getting in & out too tricky.

GRUMP!!! But lovely niece is coming for a day & night on Monday so that will cheer me up no end.

Pumble · 19/08/2014 18:52

Sorry for radio silence-been a funny time in a way. Will fill in at another moment but wanted to check in.

Taking the pumblettes to France fur the day tomorrow-driving and without mr p but taking a friend. There's no way I would have done this a year ago!! Smile

Hope all ok with you Smile

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magimedi · 19/08/2014 22:31

J'espere que touteee va bien pour vous dans La Belle France.

Wavez a mon DS, sil-vous-plait! C'est only 500 miles from Calais a ou il lives!

Ne pas forgettez de driver on le wrong side of la route et have a tres bonne journee et n'oubliez pas de retourner avec beaucoup de Wine et fromage.

Et, oui, un year ago je could not have imaginezed vous doing this!

Regardez how far vous have come!

Assez de Franglais - have a great time!

rowrowrowtheboat · 21/08/2014 12:07

Go girl! So proud of how far you have come. Big beaming smile from here Smile

Magi - beautiful post, I even understood it, and I can't add anymore. Brought a smile to my face.

magimedi · 21/08/2014 22:56

Bon Soir!

Je wait avec impatiance for vous to tell nous comme la day en La Belle France went!

Ne pas keepez us in suspense!!

XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

rowrowrowtheboat · 21/08/2014 22:59

Also popping in at the end of the day to hear abut the trip.

Hope everyone sleeps soundly tonight and we hear from you tomorrow!