Are toxic people born or made?

[ReallyTired]

My mother phoned me up to tell me what a toxic person I am. I disagree with her. I am trying to cut contact with her.

If she is right and I am toxic then was I born toxic (ie. genetic) or is it her vile parenting? Surely if I am half as toxic as she makes out then she would want to break contact with me.

Your mum sounds horrible.
Lets say she is right - then if it was genetic - its her fault
If its nuture - its her fault.

Do you want contact with her ? Is she always horrible, is she controlling ?
There is plenty of advise on here about toxic parents. Try Stately Homes, or some of the narcissist threads.

Im sure your not toxic but id say its their upbringing.

Think it's much more likely that she is toxic.

Probably a mixture of genetics and her upbringing.