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we were all in the bed, this is the 2nd thread....roll over! roll over!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 02/02/2013 01:26

so we all rolled over and hellebelles told us to get our arses out of bed......Smile

ive started a new one because there are only a few posts left on the old thread before it gets full.

nana ive described myself on the old thread just for you! Smile

so.

nana hellesbelles mama ed silvery and basset and any one else who posted on the old thread or who relates to our experiences and wants to post on the new one....welcome to the new thread.

old one here

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TheSilveryPussycat · 10/02/2013 21:52

yes to leaving it on bed if you can :)

Was coming back on to say I find it best to lay everything out before packing, otherwise I find I'm constantly unpacking to check whether I packed my spare glasses/meds/toothbrush/socks etc

ThatVikRinA22 · 10/02/2013 21:57

ed you can do this - so the kids stuff is sorted - that leaves not much left to do.....you can do it - but you must break it down into one job at a time - do one job, go away and do something else, or do 2 jobs but dont do it until you feel overwhelmed - just pick on job (like getting the cases) then all you have to do it dump stuff in them. do it just a little bit at a time.

it will be worth it - you will have a lovely time and a change is as good as a rest.

and so what if something doesnt get done? the worlds not gonna end if you forget something. it will be fine. you will get there and relax, so just do whatever you can manage when ever you can manage it - if it makes you feel better do a list - if that feels too overwhelming then dont....just jot down key words maybe that are the most important things, like undies, etc...

please dont stress. just one little job then stop. or do whatever makes you feel ok - i usually dump the open cases where ever is most convenient then just count piles of clothes and undies into them - then i just go around gathering stuff up as i see it, dump it in the lid and sort it later....just pick stuff up as you see it.

maybe just have a checklist for before you leave the house....

you can do it ed You will be fine.
and whats the worst that can happen eh?

helles yes thanks RI was in a much better frame of mind today - its not the kiddie lessons that bother her - but sometimes having an influx of children all trying to "help" at the yard is difficult - she does really well and she encourages the kids to get involved but it can feel like trying to push treacle uphill trying to control them all!

there was just me there today so peace reigned....Smile and for my lesson i rode a huge 16+ HH boy and was off the lunge. progress.!

im trying not to think about what happens when this all stops and i have to go back to bloody work....
i did get an acknowledgement from the NHS one i applied for though which is good.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 10/02/2013 22:01

ed yep - leave it on the bed and if there is another bed to sleep in do it!

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EdwiniasRevenge · 10/02/2013 22:49

Gah...I was going great guns....then my dm phoned...my suitcase is STILL in the loft...am I allowed to pack all the stuff in tesco bags for life?????

Trundles off to find ladder...

ThatVikRinA22 · 10/02/2013 23:03

once you get those cases down it will be easy ed....

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EdwiniasRevenge · 10/02/2013 23:08

It will...but it is stuck in the loft hole and ive cricked my neck.

Getting frantic now :(

ThatVikRinA22 · 10/02/2013 23:13

dont panic - thats the worse thing you could do!

is it stuck stuck, or does it just need a breather and a shove back up to reposition it?

walk away for 5 and grab a cuppa....

go back and shove it back in then have another go. If it wont budge then sod it - yep plaggy bags are fine! as long as you have what you need then so what....

or get someone to give you a hand tomorrow with the unruly case....

should take just minutes to shove stuff in in if its all ready to go.

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EdwiniasRevenge · 10/02/2013 23:35

Right...case packed badly...I should be in bed by midnight...

I am tempted to sort my kitchen/bins etc. To the morning but I know that will be a disaster waiting to happen... need to leave by 9am...genuinely scared...

ThatVikRinA22 · 10/02/2013 23:40

hey. look - you are packed - what else is there to do really? what does it matter if something doesnt get done....

set alarm for 7am and do those things that are bothereing you - and the rest?
sod it.

and have a lovely time!!

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EdwiniasRevenge · 10/02/2013 23:53

Clothes are packed and in the car :)

Toiletries need to be done, oh and bras...I havent put any bras in...

I am stopping the clock at midnight....and will set alarm for 7:30.

(Next bit is my checklist....I dont tend to lose mn like I lose pieces of paper....)

Toiletries
Bras
Shoes
Waterproofs
Fridge stuff
Empty fridge
Keys to neighbour

Thanks for all your support tonight....all of you.

And sorry for taking over

ThatVikRinA22 · 11/02/2013 00:03

you are more than capable of doing this - you have thought of stuff i wouldnt think of in a month of sundays!

have a lovely time. (and you didnt take over....you needed to panic online and that is afterall, why we are here!)

i will panic tomorrow when i need to phone doctor......

please go and have a wonderful time. x

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EdwiniasRevenge · 11/02/2013 00:47

I am in bed.

I shall be in bed until 7.30am.

I shall be dressed at level 3 with bonus by 8:15.

I have piles of stuff scattered around the house...

I think I sm so stressed because my friend is an ocd control freak. Which is all very well except my (7 seat) car is full of food for 7 for a week...kitchenware 'because then we know we've got what we need'. Tbh I would have been happy to throw a few clothes in a suitcase...some snacks in the car and worry about yhe rest when we get there...but this feels like a military operation...down to what noard games and dvds ive had to pack.

Oh and between now and the military operation to ensure we co-ordinate arrival I have the uncomfortable experience of meetinv with SIL and MIL since I kicked their angelic son and brother out...

Now...who's looking after my valium?

Thanks for listening. I hope to check in over the next few days but that depends how strong my internet connection is....

Night...

EdwiniasRevenge · 11/02/2013 00:48

Oh and the rain us turning to sleet to snow....joy...

HellesBelles396 · 11/02/2013 06:24

have a Brill time ed

what mil and sil think doesn't matter - they have to behave appropriately in front of the kids

EdwiniasRevenge · 11/02/2013 07:38

I realky dont want to go.

Was awake till nearly 2am.

Then slept badly.

I have a 2hr drive...traffic sounds if itsmoving outside so I dont think it snowed.

ILs will be ok....its just the anticipation thats driving my anxiety.

I have no choice....I have to lever myself out of bed. I have to for my dcs. But I really dont want to. I genuinely dont want to. This is stupid.

SnowyMouse · 11/02/2013 08:19

You can do it ed, have a great time

EdwiniasRevenge · 11/02/2013 09:04

I am on the road....well noy literally...im not mnetting whilst driving....im in my car tho...

TheSilveryPussycat · 11/02/2013 09:23

Yay! have a good time, I usually feel better once I set off and I hope you do too :)

SnowyMouse · 11/02/2013 10:15

yawn level 2 here.

ThatVikRinA22 · 11/02/2013 11:11

well done ed!

i was shattered and slept well but only for 5 hours. was awake at 5.15am. Really had thoughts of going back to bed, and i put leggings on just in case i managed to sneak back for a few more zzzzz at 8 after i took DD to bus stop but the builders were here bright and early at 8am with a digger....so no chance.

so im on level 2ish (leggings that i would have slept in!) and a baggy old top, but i have done hair and stuck a bit of make up on just so i dont scare the builders.....

hope everyone else has a good day. i am putting off phoning doctors....i think she works weds too so i will phone and get it back dated then....

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NanaNina · 11/02/2013 12:57

I really hope Ed does feel ok on holiday, as I was worried about all the preparation and stuff, but maybe it's best to arrive than travel!

Welcome Kalheesi can you tell us (or me!) a bit more about your circumstances and mental health issues. There are a lot of people on the threadnow and it is really good, but it does mean that for some of us with ancient brain cells we can't remember who said what, or how many kids they have etc. so a bit more info might help.

Hi snowymouse how are you feeling today. YOu mentioned watching some TV - does that distract you. I know this sounds a bit daft but I do colouring to distract me - I get adult colouring books from Amazon and some really nice felts, and once I've started I have to finish so that continues to distract me. What is your concentration like? Can you concentrate to read?

Thus far headmonster is asleep today but he has new tricks to play all the time. (Kalheesi ) this is my metaphore for my intermittent depression. I have a monster in my head!

I like the levels but they don't really tell us how we are all feeling, because they are just about clothing, but i suppose still being in PJs late in day means yo can't be bothered to dress, but Level 2 (dressed) might mean that you are still feeling crap. Anyway I'm on level 2 and ok so far.

Glad you had a better day at the stables Vicar and you can get signed off again. Sorry can;t remember what others have said.

EdwiniasRevenge · 11/02/2013 13:54

I am still herr you know (on mn at least).

Can I go to bed yet?

:o

mamakoula · 11/02/2013 14:06

Afternoon all! I was just reading back through the thread and noting all of the new names. Hi to Unfortunately, Gobblers, SnowyMouse, Khalessi, Mechanical Theatre, Shakin, Maggie and any lurkers. Vicar, did you ever realise what a useful and supportive thread this would be for so many?

I am at level 3 but I have to be most days for school runs etc so I feel that I am almost cheating though. I should maybe start to put a bit more effort into things for my levels.

This week I need to catch up on loads of little things that I have been putting off for months and for no real reason apart from the fact that I feel like I am not motivated to do things. Like obtaining an academic transcript (I was entertaining doing a graduate degree to swap fields but I am letting myself procrastinate), doing exercise (I am accumulating a perturbing deposit of fat which is not good), keeping on top of the house cleaning (I am now SAHM so there are no real reasons apart from the fact that I am not doing it). I simply don't feel inspired to do things anymore.

I probably need to call the dr's. My chest infection has returned but I tend to put it off with the reason of I am not sure if I am sick enough to justify seeing a dr. Friday and Sat were wipe-outs (Friday was officially a snow day here with schools and everything closed; I love a good snowstorm) and yesterday was a struggle but I feel a bit better today.

Ed remember to take some time out for yourself while you are away. Do something fun or relaxing for you. That was a phenomenal amount of prep work you put in, so do find some time to kick up your heels and sit back and enjoy the scenery.
Vicar glad the stables were good. Phone the dr's! Then it will not be occupying your thoughts.
Nana hope your grandson is doing well, and good to hear that HM is napping

Wave to HellesBelles, BAssetfeet, TheSilveryTinsellyPussycat

mamakoula · 11/02/2013 14:06

No, Ed! Have you arrived safely?

EdwiniasRevenge · 11/02/2013 14:16

Lol! Queinh at check in...