poor health taking its toll mentally, feel so useless and like a burden.

[BlameItOnTheChoirOfAngels]

I have a number of health issues, fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, migraines and that's on top of depression and anorexia.

I am struggling. I'm in constant pain. I have to cancel plans because I can barely move. I rely too much on dh and feel crappy about being such a burden on him and ds.

Its starting to really take its toll and I've been having some pretty bleak thoughts and feeling that they would be better off without me. I'm losing weight again, I didn't even realise it but I'm only eating one meal a day because I can't eat two or three. And I really didn't realise. It was only when I sat down and worked it out.

Since yesterday I have had a migraine, my second in a month. I'm shattered and exhausted by being so bloody faulty.

but on days when I cant move I dont post on mumsnet, I'm afraid you are totally wrong there and, tbh, Im pretty insulted. the migraines are a side effect of my new meds, my mh issues are long-running, the fibro and arthritis have been diagnosed by a cons after extensive blood tests over four years, and the breast lump is just there. everyone has good days and bad days, sometimes things get on top of you and you just need a blow out. Its not "competative sadding", its feeling a bit shitty and like things are getting on top of you.

maybe, thank you.

ChristmasWhine, I would like to kindly suggest you should leave the thread, because you are talking utter tripe and not helping.

Apart from anything else, you're not even reading OP's posts properly - she says it was a low point when her dh had to wash her hair, not that that is the case the the moment.

Best not to diagnose via the internet... OP came on for a rant, not a diagnosis as far as I understood. She's having a bad day and some of us identify with that feeling - all with differing diagnoses. Counselling may well help but it's up to a doctor to decide if they think that's the way to go.

Angels take care of yourself - can you discuss your feelings with your dh?

Blame...you moan all you want.
We're listening...

thank you, I'm going to go back onto my ADs and am being referred back to the EDT. head has cleared now, just in the grip of a post-migraine sugar crave, so I am considering demolishing all the xmas sweets...

and ds has just got in from school with another concert to perform in tomorrow, so I can make up for yesterday then.

Ugh...I carve carbs after a migraine - which if course sets off my GERD! :)
Enjoy the show tomorrow.

oh no, for me it sweets. sugar. and lots of it. in fact, if I catch a migraine in time and get a bottle of lemonade or coke into my belly, it sometimes help avoid it. one time I had a ridiculously bad one, the day after it cleared, I went into town, bought 3 bags of haribo and ate them all within about 5 mins. do you find breac or starchy stuff like potatoes?

Both...sometimes at the same time! :)
I love coke but its really not good for my GERD. It's what got me through the awful nausea of my last pg though!
I am trying to cut down on carbs as I crave them, which is bad.
Have also come to the conclusion that tomatoes are not great for me either. Not too bothered by that though. I can live without tomatoes.
I wonder of your migraines are in fact hypo episodes if sugar averts it? Have you been tested for diabetes?

Op, my DH has PsA and fibro. It's awful for him and he has gone from a fit, active, enthusiastic person, to spending much time in bed or grumpy. The DCs and I love him very much. It is not in your head, no one (else) thinks that. You have my sympathy, it's truly awful when your body lets you down. May 2013 get better for you.

What drugs do you take for the arth.?

I havent, no. I might mention it to my gp the next time I see her. my mum cant eat tomatoes, they irritate her IBS.

Worth a punt.

Thank you BALH, I'm sorry about your dh. Its truly shit, I'm just hoping that the right balance of meds will do the trick.

At the month I am taking vimovo (an anti-inflamm that's gastro-resistent) and tramadol, as well as vit supplements (vit d and calcium). Seeing my cons next month so we can sort out a new plan and I have physio.

Badvoc, definatley. A former nurse friend suggested it a while back because I get so thirsty during and after, but can't keep down plain water.

Yep, def go for it. Random fasting bloods are what you need to ask for.
One of e issues with having multiple health problems is that they can mask othe, new problems iyswim? Also, ime nice a go sees MH issues flagged up in the screen they seem to ascribe every symptom to that (like the poster upthread!)

That should have read "once a gp sees"
Sigh.
Am very tired!

very true. Thank you, DH is keeping a sort of diary about when I get flare ups, etc. and we are photographing the swellings and timing them too. I'm used to bloods now, feel like a bloody pin cushion

is your dh helpful?

I'm a spurter
Yes he is.
Nt I like tags dine my way and get very very angry/upset/anxious when I think I am not doing what I should be doing iyswim?

I bruise, it a pita!

yes, IKWYM, I am so grateful for everything that he does. he's wonderful and so understanding.

but its little things like wiping the kitchen worktops down after making food. turning jeans inside out before putting them to wash. balling socks.... bitch

Yy to kitchen work tops!!
Drives me mad! I spend quite a lot of time tidying up after him after he has been "helping" me :)

yep. and you cant say owt, because they are being so lovely....

Yep.
Much chuntering under my breath though! :)

oh yes!

I feel much, much better now. head is clear and I'm just a little creaky. Thank you all so much for letting me whinge. sometimes, thats all you need. to moan to people who understand.

I agree.
We all love a good moan, we just don't like admitting it! :)
My turn now...ds2 is still coughing poor baby and I think I may have put my back out again..sigh.
Due frenetic conversation with dh in the morning when I tell him he needs to have some time off...:(
My friend is unhappy and I can't help.
I rink my Xmas is pretty much ruined due to ds2s ill health and my lack of sleep since Saturday.
Am fed up :(