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Ok, right I'm going to pieces, I called my Gp, he called the Crisis team.

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colditz · 10/03/2006 13:11

I don't know what or who they are. can anyone tell me?

i have been getting worse and worse for weeks. This morning was the crunch. I have done nothing but cry and shout all morning, I made dp tell ds i have a headache, and went upstairs where I cried for 1 hour, and I don't know why. So I rang my midwife, who told me call my gp.

I am so scared this is going to turn into full blown pnd. I feel a bit like I have it already. I can't sleep at night, I can't get up in the morning - luckily dp is on A/L this week - I don't want to talk to anyone. I am getting screamy and hysterical, and would not be surprised if dp leaves me, i must be f*ckin hideous to live with.

I don't know what to do to stop this now. I am 36 weeks pregnant, I need to be ok before I bring the baby home, I am terrified of pnd again, but I am so scared of taking ads now, it can't be good for the baby, can it?

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Nbg · 10/03/2006 13:15

Awww Colditz Sad

You've done the right thing by asking for help.
I do know that depression is quite common in pg but I'm not sure about the Ad's whilst pregnant.
Somene on here will know I'm sure.

Keep talking to us if it helps at all.
x

BettySpaghetti · 10/03/2006 13:17

colditz -really felt for you reading this. I'm afraid I've got no real experience but all I would say is please talk to the GP/midwife/MH Team. Be open with them, tell them exactly how you're feeling, what your worries are. Ask them the questions you want to know the answers to ( eg. are ADs ok for the baby?). Write down the questions as you think of them ready for when you see someone.
Good luck
x

brodiesmummy · 10/03/2006 13:17

sorry can't help with the crisis team but it does sound like it could be someone to help you through this! Good luck with this baby, keeping fingers crossed for you Smile

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colditz · 10/03/2006 13:18

I have been waiting for NHS councelling since December, it's every morning now, I posted about my temper in the mornings a while back.

well, I do eat breakfast, but it's making no difference now, I am horrible anywaySad

I can hardly be bothered to move, I am so lethargic. Dp is fed up of doing everything this week and I don't blame him.

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spacecadet · 10/03/2006 13:19

colditz-ive currently done the same amount of crying myself this morning honey.
youve actually done the right thing by admitting that you feel so miserable, my depression started at about 33 weeks with ds2 but was never acknowledged so went untreated after the birth.
if you start treatment now theres no reason why you should be unwell after the birth, there are plenty of ads that are safe in pregnancy.
your dp will not leave you!
please accept any help you are offered now.

NomDePlume · 10/03/2006 13:19

ante-natal depression is more common than you think, colditz. Well done you for getting in touch and taking that first step. Jot your questions down if you're worried you'll go to pieces in your appts and forget to ask things. Good luck.

harpsichordcarrier · 10/03/2006 13:19

colditz Sad
sorry to read this, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing getting help now
sending love
hc xx

WickedViperWitch · 10/03/2006 13:25

Colditz, if it is full blown pnd you can get help and it will get better. There is stuff they can do, where's rhubarb, she knows about this.

BudaBabe · 10/03/2006 13:25

colditz - glad you talked to your GP. There ARE ADs that can be taken while pregnant. Hopefully they will get you sorted sooner rather than later.

My sis had very bad PND which went untreated. In the end what helped her the most was a homeopath. She felt worse for a few days but then was fine. Just wanted you to bear in mind for the future if the GP/crisis team route doesn't help - although there is no reason why it shouldn't.

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colditz · 10/03/2006 13:27

Thank you all for your support.

i am waiting for the crisis team to ring me, I think, or they might be coming here. to be honest I got confused on the phone, which isn't like me... the gp told me not to go out.

I feel like a fraud. I can't cope with my family at all, I went and hid upstairs this morning, but I can sit here posting on MN. It feels wrong.

Jesus I wish the guitl would go away

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littlerach · 10/03/2006 13:30

I htink the crisis team simply come to your home and chat/discuss various thing swith you.

It means that you don't have to leave the house, and that you don't have to wait ofr an appt. They offer you some support on a short term basis, until you can get somehting permanent out.

Please take any help that they offer you, as it will make a diffrence.

Ante natal depression is recognised now, as well as PND.

Youwill be okay when you have the baby. You will have some support.

spacecadet · 10/03/2006 13:31

colditz-i remember when i was feeling very depressed and unable to cope, yet spent hours on MN.

littlerach · 10/03/2006 13:32

You can pso on here as it is a release without it actually being real, IYSWIM.

Perhaps you can print this out and show the crisis team, then you won't have to tell them.

Mhamai · 10/03/2006 13:33

Hi Colditz

I'm so sorry your feeling so low but you have really done the right thing asking for help, as for taking ads in pregnancy, it is safe, I think if you plan to breastfeed you would have to take older type ads, having said that, my experience is from assesment for poss pnd on my ds 5yrs ago, so things might be different now.

I really feel for you hun but try to remember no matter how crappy you feel now, it will pass, sending you lots of [[[hugs]]]

Orlando · 10/03/2006 13:36

Colditz, I know everyone is different, and I don't want to presume to know your circumstances, but I had pnd with dd1, and what sounds like pretty similar symptoms to those you're having now with dd2 from about the same stage of pg. Like you I was absolutely f*ing dreading the return of pnd, but can honestly say that from the moment that dd2 was born I expereinced what I can only describe as the complete reverse-- almost a sort of post-natal high.

Can only explain it as some kind of odd hormonal thing, but am sure that the fear of pnd had a massive part in the initial depression. Am just posting this to try to reassure you that pnd is by no means inevitable. Get through each day as it comes and try not to worry too much about what will happen when the baby comes. It may not be anything to worry about at all.

hope events of today mark the beginning of things getting better for you. xx

emmawill · 10/03/2006 13:38

I was very miserable during my 2nd pregancies and didn't get any help and it wasn't easy, wished I had been more forceful and demanded the help that I needed, problem being forceful if you feel depressed isn't that easy. I think there are safe ADs if you need them, that won't harm baby especially as far into your pregnancy as you are. Good idea of littlerach sometimes its easier if its written down.

I really hope you get the help you need and best of luck with this pregancy. Thinking of you Smile

monkeytrousers · 10/03/2006 13:50

Hope you're feeling a bit better Colditz (see I spelt it right this time Grin) How are you today? Don't worry about taking ad's when pregnant, there are safe ones to take and I was on Fluoxetine when breastfeeding. Just take the meds hon and let them work their magic and don't rush to come off them either. x

TearsBeforeBedtime · 10/03/2006 14:54

I was on Prozac from 30 weeks PG, and whilst BFing, and DS was absolutely fine. They tend to be very cautious about prescribing ADs whilst PG, like any drug - the docs/crisis team would weigh up the risks to you and your quality of life of not treating you with ADs against the possible risk to the baby.

If you start ADs now they should hopefully start kicking in by the time you have the baby, and would help nip the PND in the bud.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/03/2006 15:01

Oh Colditz - sorry to read this! Sad

You have done teh right thing by asking for help. Dont feel bad about wanting to hide away. Make sure you accept all offers of help from your gp etc

xxx

HRHQueenOfQuotes · 10/03/2006 15:03

oh Colditz - saw this thread earlier but didn't click on it as I didn't realise it was you Sad.

Just going to repeat what everyone else said (what's new hey) - you've done the right thing.

Just wish there was something I could do to help - as you helped me last year (different issue but still a massive help).

PiccadillyCircus · 10/03/2006 15:07

Colditz - it is all right to take ADs when you are pregnant. And if you are breastfeeding. I have been taking them since I was 12 weeks pregnant (DD is 24 weeks old now). I am taking Sertaline.

Jackstini · 10/03/2006 15:07

Colditz - not got much advice, just wanted to post my support. Definately think you have taken a huge step in speaking to your GP this morning and hoping the crisis team are there soon. Let us know how you get on and keep posting here as an outlet for some of your stress xx

madmarchhare · 10/03/2006 15:12

Rhubarbs the one you need here.

You can take ADs, just make sure that if you do, that they are suitable for BF too. Mine werent, grr, and obviously not the best time to start swapping them round.

drosophila · 10/03/2006 15:13

MN is probably a type of therapy for you. My Dad died while I was pg and it hit me quite hard. I had to take Valium to get on a plane (fear of flying) so that I could see him before he died and then again for his funeral. They can adjust the dosage on Meds for pregnancy. I also had a few glases of wine more than I should have.

Is there anything that makes you feel better? Would having time away from your family doing something frivilous help at all? You probably need to talk to someone. I hope it is a hormonal thing that disappears when baby is born