For those who have walked out.....How did you make that first step?

[zephyrcat]

I'm coming to realise more and more by the day that I wish I had the guts and means to leave p.
Problem is I have 4 year old dd, 20 month old ds and a baby due in 4 weeks. I can't take much more of living with him. I don't know that I even love him anymore. I've got nowhere else to go and not a penny to my name to go with. Am I stuck here?

Hi ZC,

Have just emailed you to see if that postal order has come through and then I fell on this thread. I am sorry you are going through all this at such a busy/emotional time in your life.

As you know my ds is 4 weeks old and I have quite a few babygros and things that no longer fit him (unisex) so I would be happy to pass them onto you if you would like them? If so just email me and I will get them out in the post to you.

Zephyr, WELL DONE for coping with all this. I hope everyone will be reasonable about the rent, surely they will be considering how near you are to the baby being born?

I wouldn't be at all surprised if you were depressed, so if it were me I'd get down to the GP and see what he/she can suggest - think you deserve all the help you can get!

Is your DP realising the enormity of the problem now do you think? Is he going to get any work - does he have any plans? I really think he may be depressed as well. would he see a doctor?

I have absolutely NO baby stuff left or would love to send you some, but I am sending my thoughts and very very best wishes.

Thank you Sparklemagic :) I think he may well be depressed as well. He is very down on himself being 40 with no 'career' so to speak - bit of a midlife crisis maybe?? He did get AD's once before when we were going through a sticky patch but he hated being on them and came off them without really giving them a chance - they made him very tired and he was driving buses at the time so it wasn't really practical.

Chloe55 I got your email - sorry I didn't manage to email you over the weekend, the camera is on it's way to you already and will hopefully arrive tomorrow :)