Anger - impatience. First post on here and would love your advice

[Freyfreysmum]

This is the first time I have posted in this topic, and would love some advice.

I (as life goes on) am an increasingly short tempered lady, and to cap it all off am hugely impatient.
I have two young children who are amazing and a husband who is so supportive, but the time has come that I need to do something about it.

I get so annoyed, so quickly, things flare up, out of nowhere, and literally I have no patience with anything.

What (and please be kind) do you suggest I do from here. I really want to change, and my relationship is at risk at the moment.
I have tried so many homeopathic things, relaxation, more sleep, and really dont want to accept that this is just 'me'. Please help if you can x

Don't know if I can help or not, but wanted to say that when I was like this, it was hormonal (PMT), so might be worth checking the triggers.

Ummmm but is there much u can do for PMT anyway??

I note u said 'was' as tho u had some miracle cure, do tell!!

Read The power of now xxx

Mine was improved by b-vitamins and evening primrose, plus I stopped drinking.
Knowing worst times helped too, but never found a miracle cure, unfortunately, just improvement.

Anger is a tricky thing and it is not always immediately obvious where anger comes from and why you react in a certain way.

it took me years to figure out why being overlooked/not seen made me irrationally angry. I found the roots in childhood. I'm aware of it now and I can deal with it.

and women are often taught that it is not nice to be angry so have little clue how to express it - and often it then comes out in the way we deal with our nearest and dearest.

Is there a way you can find out a bit more about the why of your anger rather than trying to treat the symptoms?

usually I'm quite a balanced person, but my 3 year old has been keeping me awake at night the last few days, and I,m trying to recover from a cold.I am now rather irritable (NO I DON'T WANT TO PLAY WITH YOU! JUST DO SOMETHING QUIETLY!) Every time I try and nap I get woken up alsmost straight away by her incessant delightful chatter, or the dreaded "I'm finished" on the toilet. I know that i would be fine if i could just have a proper sleep! All these years of being woken up and having to get up instantly (instead of waking up 'naturally' and then having a lovely THINK for 5 minutes) is bound to take its' toll. At the first opportunity try and have a long sleep (I've even gone and sat in the car to try an do this!). If you lose an hour of the sleep you need every day since you had your first child...well, personally I'd need to sleep for 212 days in order to catch up. Do not EVER feel guily for having a lie in!!!

I thinks its gonna take more than a book for me!!

Gosh I'm like this especially re: lack of patience. I thought it was just a personality trait.

Yes, I can relate to all that. Sleep is definately a big factor, and am sure if I dig deep enough I will work out the root of all this, but I just feel so sad that this is all taken out on others close to me. My GP had no suggestions apart from suggesting it was PMT and to have the coil fitted which I have and is disastrous (period wise) and proving 5 months on to show no difference in character

The coil seems a strange idea to help.
Mine suggested citalopram, its an antidepressant that works more as a mood stabiliser and recommended for PMT but the side effects for the first couple of wks were pretty nasty and after 3 months i didnt feel the benefit, and accidently missed two days in a row so decided to stop there.