I (21F) have a 4 month old baby girl with my husband (27M). The pregnancy was unplanned, as I was on the pill (and taking it religiously), and we currently aren't planning for any more. I'm back on the pill and breastfeeding as well as insisting he pulls out if he doesn't want to wear a condom (I got pregnant on the pill once before, not trying to get pregnant again so soon after already having a baby). He no longer wants to pull out, we don't use condoms; he insists we'll be fine as in over 3 years of me being on the pill, I never got pregnant, and me now being back on it AND breastfeeding, I likely won't get pregnant.
I have my own reservations in all of this: sex is still somewhat painful after a vaginal birth and 3rd degree tear, no hormonal birth control is 100% effective, I don't like having to decide whether to keep a baby, abort them, or give them up for adoption.
Not to mention the fact that if I do get pregnant and I want an abortion, he literally told me to not tell him anything about the whole situation.
I don't care how slim the odds are, I don't like having that heavy decision weighing over me, the person literally carrying and developing this new person.
I've only ever been on the pill and hear horror stories about any other hormonal contraceptives. Any advice?