I can serve well enough if I get the ball toss right, but most of the time I can't get the ball toss right 
I've had one-to-one lessons with 2 different coaches. I've had all sorts of unsolicited friendly advice, including from DH.
I've recently read that men and women throw the ball differently. Women throw it higher. DH keeps a straight arm and 'places' the ball. I can't always get my arm up high enough if I keep it straight. But if I throw the ball, it tends to spin too much and can go anywhere! Any tips from female players? It's a barrier to me committing to playing with others.