I don't want to be part of an organisation that decides so many important things about our country without listening to us or allowing us options.
I think it's completely understandable not to want to be part of an organisation that decides important things without listening.
But membership of the EU has conferred huge trade and peace benefits. Ok we agreed to delegate some rules regarding good, agriculture, environment in return for trade. However they aren't the most important things- the U.K. govt always retained complete autonomy over the vast majority of matters, health, elderly care, benefits,housing ,pensions, education, policing, crime, defence , fiscal policy etc.etc.
Other EU countries have no more say over us than we have over them.
We have been one of the leaders in the EU and therefore having a say in food , environment etc in Germany and in France. It's reciprocal but only in limited sunburnt areas. We can't dictate French inheritance law any more than they could specify ours.
The British government has voted against EU laws 2% of the time since 1999
Official EU voting records* show that the British government has voted ‘No’ to laws passed at EU level on 56 occasions, abstained 70 times, and voted ‘Yes’ 2,466 times.
In other words, UK ministers were on the “winning side” 95% of the time, abstained 3% of the time, and were on the losing side 2%.
https://fullfact.org/europe/eu-facts-behind-claims-uk-influence/