(paywall) Queen ‘misled’ by broken Theresa May
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< snippets from "Fall Out: A Year of Political Mayhem" being serialised in S Times>
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/news/queen-misled-by-broken-theresa-may-kf6n3zdbv
Buckingham Palace was left infuriated with Theresa May’s behaviour after her general election disaster plunged the prime minister into a personal “crisis of confidence”.
Senior courtiers were exasperated that May misled the Queen
by saying she had a deal with the Democratic Unionist Party (DUP),
only to take another 17 days to nail it down, and then went on to breach protocol in the way she announced her intention to form a government.
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May’s problems led to tensions with Buckingham Palace,
where the Queen’s +private secretary, Sir Christopher Geidt,
was unable to get answers from No 10 about the status of the DUP deal
or about rumours that May was on the verge of resigning.
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It reveals that the prime minister repeatedly broke down in tears after surrendering the Conservative majority
and went into a spiral after she faced widespread criticism for failing to meet victims of the Grenfell Tower fire.
She had to have her make-up redone before she visited the Queen because she had been crying.
Aides grew concerned that she might not be able to go on.
“She looked tired and I don’t think she was thinking straight,” one said.
By the Friday of the week after the election, a senior political appointee decided help was needed, saying:
“She was absolutely beaten, grey-skinned. I’ve seen people with shell shock and she looked worse than that.”
The aide said :
“I can get you former special forces commanders . . . people who have been in crunching encounters.
They will realise it is in the national interest to keep her on track and keep her going.”

The offer was not taken up.
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According to a Tory who has discussed the events with a senior member of the royal household:
“There was a high degree of uncertainty about whether Theresa May would survive.”
May had been to see the Queen the day after the election,
an encounter the monarch appears not to have relished.
“In the private audiences between the Queen and Mrs May,
I don’t think the Queen finds Mrs May any easier company than anyone else,” 
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After the audience, royal aides were annoyed by the content of May’s speech on the steps of Downing Street.
A Tory peer recalled:
“She said, ‘I’ve formed a government’, not ‘The Queen has asked me to form a government’.
The palace was alarmed by her formulation of words.”
A Tory adviser said May had inadvertently
misled the Queen about the status of the DUP deal
because her chief whip, Gavin Williamson, only had a preliminary deal.
“The palace was irritated,” the adviser said.
“They felt that the deal with the DUP hadn’t been done.
Gavin thought he had assurances that he didn’t have.”
The royal source added:
“It is certainly true the palace was being given a greater sense of certainty about the deal than was accurate,
because the truth is that the DUP buggered Mrs May about longer than she thought.
< that what happens to a weak PM >
“They were getting more frustrated with it because they were running into Ascot and the state opening of parliament.
Because the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh are so old, it’s quite difficult to have them sitting about.”
While the affair did not lead to a formal complaint from the palace,
the sources say that Geidt and others repeatedly made clear their frustration at the silence from Downing Street.