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Ethical dilemmas
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Who would you 'blame'?

47 replies

Passedproblems · 04/03/2021 13:50

If you found out that your husband was sleeping with a girl 12 years younger than him. So girl aged 15/16. Husband is 27/28.

OP posts:
QueenOfLabradors · 04/03/2021 13:50

Husband.

oneglassandpuzzled · 04/03/2021 13:51

Husband.

Samanabanana · 04/03/2021 13:52

In what way could an underage girl ever be to "blame" for being groomed and abused by an adult man?

digitaldays · 04/03/2021 13:52

Sorry but it's not really an ethical dilemma. The husband is to blame

Myneighboursnorlax · 04/03/2021 13:52

I don’t understand how you’d blame anyone other than the husband? He’s the one both having an affair and committing statutory rape.

wtftodo · 04/03/2021 13:53

What @Samanabanana said. Husband.

DioneTheDiabolist · 04/03/2021 13:53

The adult who is having sex with a child of course.

VinterKvinna · 04/03/2021 13:53

Him, he is the adult

Why??

Floralnomad · 04/03/2021 13:53

If you really need to ask the question you should be giving your head a wobble .

BaronessBomburst · 04/03/2021 13:53

Husband.
He's married
And older than her.
She's a child.

SnuggyBuggy · 04/03/2021 13:53

Is there even a debate here?

JaneJeffer · 04/03/2021 13:54

There's a name for men like him.

DogsSausages · 04/03/2021 13:54

Why are you asking

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 04/03/2021 13:54

Husband

NeverMetANiceOne · 04/03/2021 13:55

Husband, who would swiftly become ex husband

Aquamarine1029 · 04/03/2021 13:55

There is no debate or gray area here. The husband is a disgusting human being who took advantage of a child.

Sgjudxbyef · 04/03/2021 13:55

The child abuser. And anybody who defends the child abuser.

Abusers are responsible for abusing. Not their victims.

If you are for real, you should be ashamed of yourself for even asking.

justanotherneighinparadise · 04/03/2021 13:56

If he’s sleeping with a 15 year old that’s illegal surely?

Wesaed · 04/03/2021 13:57

Holy crap! The husband! 110%! And if I knew anyone who had made the other choice I would judge them horribly for excusing child sexual abuse.

Bluntness100 · 04/03/2021 13:57

Wtf? That’s rape. Who do you think is to blame. She’s a child.

grey12 · 04/03/2021 13:57

He'd be a peadophile and I would report it to the police

user7891011 · 04/03/2021 13:57

The fact you even have to ask is concerning tbh

Knittedfairies · 04/03/2021 13:57

It's not an ethical dilemma if the girl is so young. He's breaking the law.

Wesaed · 04/03/2021 13:57

I would also hope that the wife in this situation would immediately notify both the parents of the child involved and the police.

zenasfuck · 04/03/2021 13:58

I'd blame the peadophile husband