Hi all,
My MIL has a fractured pelvis after a fall, cancer of the intestines, dementia, rectal problems, septicaemia, several infections - inc recurring bladder infections, diabetes etc and has declined massively in the last week. She can’t stand, and is having difficultly eating, breathing issues etc.
GP advised it would be too taxing and distressing for her to be taken to hospital, as would likely be on a trolley in casualty for up to 48 hours.
Shes at home, with carers visiting three times a day, plus family support of someone going in every day, but this is becoming too much for the family to deal with - eg her daughter and sons are having to clean her up if she’s had a toileting incident, change her pads, etc Understandably, distressing for everyone.
the family have been told she needs 24 hour care.
Such is her decline, that people from the local hospices visited today, but there are no beds available, and they said she’s not technically critical enough to take in, and recommended we look into nursing homes.
Theres also 95 year old FIL at home, who is disabled and needs help, so the house can’t be sold to self fund care for MIL.
I’m trying to research what the options could be - I believe they’ve been assessed by the LA, and that their savings are only about £2k
How does one actually find a nursing home who will take patients who can’t self fund?
I’m searching online, but it brings up homes that are extortionate.
At a loss of what to do next.
any help much appreciated.