Changed to rarely used username for this. And hoping for some advice. MiL is close to end of life. She has deteriorated quickly in the last few days and is barely eating, but still drinking. 'Hospice at home' care starts tomorrow.
DD (17) is on an overseas school residential Mon-Thur next week and our uni aged DSs will also be abroad for the same 4 days. Neither DH or I have current passports.
DD has autism and anxiety and is very close to MiL. I am really struggling with what to do about the children's trips. If anything happens with MiL before Monday, the DCs can each make their own decisions. MiL definitely wants them all to still go away, but as a young adult whose grandparent will have just died I really worry about them, DD particularly, going away from home when neither DH or I can be there to support them.
If MiL lives past the weekend, they go away and she dies when they are away, I wouldn't want to tell them till they got home, but how would that feel for them, to find she has died while they were away? The boys understand that this could be a possibility but DD won't unless we spell it out to her. MiL won't want us to, but is that fair on DD?
I have no idea if MiL still being alive this time next week, when they return, is a possibility. It may be.
I feel so conflicted about what to do for the best here. Has anyone had a similar dilemma? If so, I would really appreciate any advice or insight.