So bloody exhausted waiting for someone to die 2

[StiffyByngsDogBartholomew]

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/elderly_parents/4866628-so-bloody-exhausted-waiting-for-someone-to-die?page=1
Carrying on from our original discussion

@Tara336 had to get cooker isolated as an emergency . Mum has tiny poc which council declining to increase . Feel at end of tether whilst simultaneously like worst daughter in world … whilst my big sister says “ she needs to go into care home “ but leaves me with all admin cleaning and fiscal responsibilities! She lives round the corner … it’s good just to be honest about how stressed I feel .

@MyPinkSquid your doing your best and its too easy to beat yourself up over things beyond your control. My DB lives 5 miles max from my DM I live 130 miles away, everything was left to me. My parents home was left cleanish after DF was sectioned but needed a deep clean and redecoration as DF cigarette smoke stunk the place out and he had refused to spend money.

We are slowly clearing the rubbish he hoarded and have so far gutted and redecorated two bedrooms now on the third, I've also sold DF car, had a clearance company in and arranged for the garage door to be replaced this year. DB has carried a small piece of wood down the stairs and chucked it on the garage floor.

I spent last year arranging the sectioning of my DF, it was a horrible experience, dealing with SS, Dr's, psychiatrists, attending meetings and then fighting to get DF into a decent care home. DB did absolutely nothing to assist me. I have MS and I am mentally and physically exhausted.

I can relate to exactly how your feeling, there is a lot of us on this thread who seem to have the work unfairly distributed. There's lot of good advice roo, just come and vent when you need too

@Tara336 thank you so much . I am just about to take kids to school and tears are springing up in my eyes that someone has shown empathy. Thank you so much ! ☺️

@MyPinkSquid I can also empathise with how stressed you feel. I think it’s far worse when you have siblings that don’t help than being an only child where you have to accept that everything is down to you. I’d be inclined to cut any toxic siblings out of your life once you can.

@MyPinkSquid I'm very sorry you're in this difficult situation.
Please join us on the next thread. The link's several posts back.

@MyPinkSquid your welcome as @TheShellBeach says come over to the new thread with us. @AgitatedGoose I hope your doing OK? I didn't need to cut toxic DB off he seems to have done that himself (probably in case I ask him to step up and help)

I think in some cases euthanasia is a good idea. Why prolong lives if someone wants to go.
In practice it's very hard to legislate. Or monitor effectively.

Come and join us on the new thread - see link several posts above