My not so DF was born abroad but emigrated to the UK and has been a UK citizen for 50 years.
He has to go into a care home as he's not able to cope at home (he didn't maintain the house, so it's tricky to run) and he can't afford carers as he didn't save any money at all despite a good job. He only asserts are the former family home.
His plan was to not leave his many children a penny, so when my DM died he ran through her savings/assets (she was a saver, but they had separate bank accounts because my F was financially abusive, as well as other abuse).
I get on ok with him, and I'll help him move to the care home but no plans at all to visit him (I'm not local to him so it would involve me having to stay over night in a hotel and I've no connections to his area as I moved away when I was young).
The care home is £6.5k pm and he is in good health, but frail and beginnings of dementia.
I was thinking of sending him to a care home in his former country as the host would be more like £1k pm. I haven't looked into it yet, it's just a thought, but wondered what the consensus on here was to this idea?
He's been a shit/horrible Dad to me my whole life, but I have supported him the last few years out of duty. If my siblings and I were to inherit anything from the family home, it would make a massive difference to us as we have young families and financially are not very well off.
I'd happily never see my Dad again, but if he did go abroad I would visit him because I'd feel I had that responsibility as I put him there. If he stayed in a UK care home I wouldn't feel that responsibility.