thecaty
Would I be right in feeling you are continually posting a barrage of comments to try and discredit what happened to our dc's?
What proof do you want? The bruises on my, and other, kids? The patches where their hair was pulled? The scars where they were scratched on their hands? The smashed glasses of the boy who was punched? The marks on the small boy, who was told by his attackers that they knew a way to harm him which didn't leave bruises? The damaged bike on which they were ambushed? Or proof of the emotional scars they carried?
Do tell me.
The way you are reacting is the way we were treated at the school- my children weren't telling the truth, they were exaggerating, there wasn't a history of bullying at the school, pretend it's not there and it will go away, say it often enough by enough people and it will go away. Over and over again; meeting after meeting, until I began to doubt my own child, even though she had bruises, even though she was waking every night in distress.
The children I feel most for are the ones whose parents were anthros, or leaning that way; their children had to have "curative eurythmy".
You are reacting like they did thecaty; but then you are a Steiner teacher.
I asked advice actually, about one particularly distressing incident which happened to a child there, about taking it further; I was told it was my word against theirs, and in these instances ranks close and they pull together.
For us it was cathartic to realise we weren't the only ones, which is where discussion forums like this, and plans website are helpful.
And to see our children flourish and grow in a school where there is respect for each other, from the small eccentric and sensitive , to the wild unconventional ones; there's room for all of them, and they appreciate each other's diversity. The teachers respect the children too, and it is reciprocated. I'm sure there are somre Steiner schools where this is the case, but it wasn't in ours.
I actually find it very telling thecaty, that you ask for "proof" about the bullying, but seem to accept that climbing on roofs, diggers, bridges, unsupervised, doesn't need proof.
In a perfect world, letting children have that sort of freedom is what I for one would wish for.We thought that was how Steiner school would be.
But the risks involved weren't added up in any sort of professional way. It was a miracle, when I look back, that no children came to severe harm; maybe not a miracle- maybe their guardian angels; but then I don't believe in the supernatural.
Are the books that are read and studied for Steiner teacher training guarded?