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have you ever said" oh he is very advanced for his/her age"?

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FluffyMummy123 · 27/09/2008 11:10

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tortoiseshell · 27/09/2008 14:44

However he is the HAPPIEST child I have ever seen and very jolly! And loves to fit in with the others so I think he will be fine.

PoorOldEnid · 27/09/2008 14:47

dd1 is very popular and sweet and v cool

so its not all bad

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FluffyMummy123 · 27/09/2008 14:48

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LynetteScavo · 27/09/2008 14:48

I only say it on MN.

My next door neighbour once told DH her DS wan't very bright. I was

tortoiseshell · 27/09/2008 14:48

I'm going with the 'they all develop at their own speed'. And ds2's happens to be VERY VERY leisurely.

Your dd sounds sweet!

spudballoo · 27/09/2008 14:49

Do people REALLY say that? Cringe....

DS1 very average. he's just turned 3. I've never ever thought how brilliant/advanced etc he is...I just think he's average.

DS2, 19mths, doing stuff faster than DS1 did but still not 'exceptional'. But then they are 3 and 19mths, I'm not expecting them to find a cure for cancer any day soon.

Those threads on gifted and talented about 2/3/4/5 year olds make me utterly howl.

I assume both my boys might be reasonably bright, as DH and I both are. But who knows? Who cares in fact?

electra · 27/09/2008 15:06

It's sooooo boring - would never say these things. And anyway you can't really tell a child's potential at this stage no matter how much 'hot housing' you subject them to.

LynetteScavo · 27/09/2008 15:07

DS2 is a late developer

StewieGriffinsMom · 27/09/2008 15:14

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Umlellala · 27/09/2008 17:33

Just revisiting this thread - didn't know you were an anti-homework teacher cod, me (and dh) too!

twinsetandpearls · 27/09/2008 17:36

I say it but it is different for me because of course it is true.

misdee · 27/09/2008 17:45

dd1 def not advanced for her age. she is happy at school for the social aspects.

Jux · 27/09/2008 17:52

DH used to say it all the time; it really made me cringe, especially when he was saying it to friends with older kids who had seen it all before. Even worse when it was to friends whose kids were same age as dd . 'Twas awful.

twinsetandpearls · 27/09/2008 17:52

I don;t like homework, or thought I didn't. But one of the reasons I am looking to withdraw my dd from her pnew primary is that there is no homework. She used to do projects at home from her old school, (she did work from the higher classes - I told you she was advanced ) which she loved doing. I don;t approve of weekend or holiday homework though. As a head of year I banned weekend or holiday homework.

singersgirl · 27/09/2008 17:57

Well, of course it is different for all of us, because of course it's true about our children!

DS2 was like Enid's DD3, language-wise, but when people commented I'd just say stuff like, "Oh, yes, he likes to talk".

I know someone who honestly said recently to my DH that neither of her children (aged 8 and 6) needed to go to school for the next 4 years as they were so far ahead! [Open-mouthed astonishment emoticon] Wonder what she was like at primary school open days.

HonoriaGlossop · 27/09/2008 18:00

I have NEVER said this to anyone about DS but I did ask his prospective reception teacher on our first visit to look round what the view was on children who could already read when they started school (so convinced was I that DS would be reading a 3, given all the PFB attention he was getting at home, etc)

He's six and still not reading

i have learned not to make assumptions!!!

PortAndLemon · 27/09/2008 18:00

I have said "His gross motor skills are quite advanced, but he's a bit behind in his fine motor skills", but that's about it.

I wouldn't say anything to a school because I reckon that they know better than I do what's advanced or not. I could just about see DH doing it, though. Could you ask your friend what proportion of comments came from fathers vs. mothers?

twinsetandpearls · 27/09/2008 18:01

Yes dd is very bright but can be quite emotionally immature.

Pruners · 27/09/2008 18:03

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singersgirl · 27/09/2008 18:09

You mean he doesn't know?

Pruners · 27/09/2008 18:10

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emy72 · 28/09/2008 08:30

lol when I had my DD1 I thought she was the most talented, gifted thing in the universe but of course I didn't say it out loud! But now I have 3 children I have come down to reality a lot more and having known a lot more young children I have finally gained a grip on reality and put things into perspective! x We actually had a little joke with DD1 nursery teacher about that so I think it does go on a lot x

Ratface · 28/09/2008 08:39

i dont have to say it, they simply radiate brilliance all by themselves

TotalChaos · 28/09/2008 08:50

Julie never met me then! When I went round mainstream schools last year, DS was still severely language delayed - so to flush out any that would be crap with SN I laid it on with a trowel about DS's problems.

ghosty · 28/09/2008 08:53

I have said it. Because it is true.

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