School staff member took my child’s toy (for his own child) after confiscating items for sale

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My DC has recently been selling squishy toys at school, he’s an entrepreneur in the making. However we told him it wasn’t a good idea and he carried on.

On Friday he got caught and his teacher gave me his school bag which contained ‘his stock’. They asked me to not allow him to bring them in as it’s not allowed. I told them I’m glad they’ve said it to him & he won’t be bringing them again. As the teacher handed me the bag, another staff member who works at the school asked to see what he was selling and went on to take 1 squishy & said ‘this will be nice for my daughter’. My DC asked him for the money & the staff member said ‘No, your lucky I didn’t take the lot’

My DC asked the staff member for the money or squishy back & he said ‘Na na your not getting it back, your lucky it wasn’t (deputy head) as she would of taken the lot’

This doesn’t sit right with me, value is only £1 but it’s the principle. What is this teaching the children?

What do I do about this?

In your OP you said your child asked for the money or the toy back.

This is something for your child to learn, in shops it is called 'shrinkage'.

You should be more concerned at your child not obeying rules and you seem to think it is fine.

No, it's a FINE levied for illegitimate business practices.

Confiscation and disposal would have been fine. Theft is not.

That is horrible :(

Confiscate it, it wouldn’t have pissed me off! The fact the teacher wants to benefit off another child at school is wrong on many levels!

I’ve sat here & owned up to I should have been more stern with my child. But this does not excuse the teachers actions!

The school bag containing the squishes was handed back to me by my child’s teacher. Another staff member on the playground thought it would be okay to stick his nose in & interfere with a situation that’s been dealt with already!

Let’s get a little perspective here.

To the “theft” brigade.

If someone is selling products which are illegal and they’re taken by the authorities do you think that is theft?

It’s the same thing.

The child was selling products in the school which were not permitted. Those products, or one of them, were removed from him. That is not theft. That is consequence.

Maybe the teacher muddied the waters by saying they’d take this for their child, but the outcome is the same.

Honestly, you need to look closer to hone for the bigger issue!

Start with the example you’re setting your disobedient, racketeering entrepreneurial DS.

It’s theft! They have taken it for their own gain!

they didn’t mention they have confiscated it or going to throw it in the bin!

The rules are clear.

Yes, the rules are clear. The school can confiscate for breaking rules and not return.

A teacher cannot take one, return the rest and state that he is going to give the toy to his own child.

THAT is theft.

I can't believe how many people are condoning this and not seeing what lesson that has taught an 11 year old boy.

What does a teacher gain from a dangerous piece of tat?

Ask the teacher when he’s getting it back. If he says never or some ridiculous date in the future inform him that it’s theft. Tell him to return the item now or you will escalate the theft.

I’m all for children being told off at school if merited, but this teacher is taking the piss.

I doubt the police will be interested in a £1 toy. 😂😂

Far better to say to DC, ‘I told you not to take the toys in but you did anyway. Actions have consequences’.

There are TWO issues here.

One is poor parenting.

The other is theft by a teacher from a child in a school setting.

You are giving this too much headspace. I would wager the teacher threw it in the bin and had no intention of keeping it. He was trying to teach a lesson.

It’s so different!

If someone is selling drugs & gets caught - the police would dispose of this! They won’t brag about taking it home to their child!

The staff members position (which is nothing but a ‘mentor’) has got to his fucking head!

How do you think the boy is selling them? The other kids want them. He said he was taking it for his daughter.

Giving it to his child who has needs!

He didn’t just put his hand in the bag and take any old squishy, he stood there carefully selecting one - then took a pink one for his daughter

Do you think the teacher is honestly going to give his child a piece of tat? It’ll go in the bin, don’t worry

If I was the teacher, I’d have taken the whole lot, binned them and told him to never cross my path with such behaviour again!

What needs

What needs does his child have for a dangerous piece of tat?

To the “theft” brigade.
If someone is selling products which are illegal and they’re taken by the authorities do you think that is theft?
It’s the same thing.

Try telling that to a court when you're a police officer who confiscated some drugs then took a bit home for themself.

Sorry are you thinking that as an adult you’d want a dangerous piece of homemade tat?

A child might, because they’re a child!

Do you think the same as a child?

I would of thought as and adult, you’d think I’m not buying that crap?

But I suppose not…

Can't you see the difference between doing that and selecting one and telling the child to whom it belongs that you're going to give it to your own daughter?

He sounds odious, like those adults who grab baseballs out the hands of children at games, then look proud of themselves while everyone else is disgusted. This alone would make me want to escalate.

Are people just so desperate to criticise this mother that they can't see the wrong done by the teacher?

It is possible to understand that both have done the wrong thing here!