School staff member took my child’s toy (for his own child) after confiscating items for sale

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My DC has recently been selling squishy toys at school, he’s an entrepreneur in the making. However we told him it wasn’t a good idea and he carried on.

On Friday he got caught and his teacher gave me his school bag which contained ‘his stock’. They asked me to not allow him to bring them in as it’s not allowed. I told them I’m glad they’ve said it to him & he won’t be bringing them again. As the teacher handed me the bag, another staff member who works at the school asked to see what he was selling and went on to take 1 squishy & said ‘this will be nice for my daughter’. My DC asked him for the money & the staff member said ‘No, your lucky I didn’t take the lot’

My DC asked the staff member for the money or squishy back & he said ‘Na na your not getting it back, your lucky it wasn’t (deputy head) as she would of taken the lot’

This doesn’t sit right with me, value is only £1 but it’s the principle. What is this teaching the children?

What do I do about this?

Indeed.

Not spelling and grammar I hope!

The swishy is not worth a £1, it’s a bloody thing your DS made.

Maybe some of the other purchasers can sue you when a younger child gets hold of it, it’s not safe and they choke on it?

Your Ds is not an entrepreneur, he’s selling rubbish to young children and he should be told no, for many reasons, not least because the “squishy” items are probably bloody dangerous,

Im amazed a teacher would have such tat in their hones!

You should’ve not allowed your son to do this nonsense.

Spend as much time teaching your DS to behave as you have whinging about the teacher and it may make him a better behaved child!

1.speak to head/chair of governors about the teacher who took the toy.
Don't make it complaint - be very calm and polite, say your sure there must be some confusion as to why the teacher still has the item but it needs to be returned. Don't "ask" as if there's any doubt at all, simply say "I'll need the toy returned this week, thank you."

The school will close ranks, they won't tell the teacher off publicly, you are fighting a losing battle even trying.

1. Just because your son wanted to sell things, you knew full well it wasn't allowed and you let him anyway. It doesn't matter if others are & haven't happened to be caught. You needed to enforce the boundary here and take his "stock" away as it was not to be taken to school.

🤣 this is hilarious. And why we, as a society, are doomed.

Your attitude of ‘I told him not to take them’ are you incapable of taking the items and actually behaving like a parent?
What age is the little entrepreneur , new to me kids selling tat at school.

Stop giving this any more air time. You told him not to take them in and he did anyway. Now it’s back fired and you’re supporting him in his grievance with the school. It’s a life lesson for him. Not saying I agree with the teacher but you’re subconsciously validating your child’s actions.

Hawking your wares at school like that is only marginally better than selling weed or ciggies at school - how embarrassing and naff. Entrepreneur, my arse. Shame the teacher did not bin the whole lot in front of everyone.

This is crazy.
You asked your child not to do something, they did it anyway. Yes the teacher is wrong but you need to work out why you have so little respect from your child that they would disobey you in this way. This would concern me far more than the teacher doing something stupid.

So why are you doing to go about it? The head should be told.

Just Threaten to report to the police as it is theft.

People shouldn’t take things from others, particularly people in a position of power. It is unethical and inappropriate and teachers are not above the law.

I imagine the teacher has taken one to show the head and that the comment was a joke. It will not have been to give to their child; if it had they wouldn’t have said it!

There will likely be an email sent out to parents about it.

Children should not be taking items in to sell, for many reasons. Children should not be taking money in to buy things, unless an official school thing. Plus many of the cheap squishies are fakes of branded items and do not meet safety requirements.

I have a year 6 child; if I knew he’d been trying to sell things and that he didn’t listen to me (he does listen to me) then I’d be checking his bag as he left the house each day. You are wrong allowing him to take these things to school.

Have you tried to actually parent your child? You know, by taking control? “Hey DS, you are not to take any toys into school to try to sell them. It’s forbidden.”

Jesus Christ no wonder we’re raising a generation of entitled brats with 0 resilience who are going to grow up incapable of functioning in society when they turn into adults. I pity the next generation being parented by the children which are currently being brought up like this.

No wonder they claim to have “mental health” problems as soon as they’re faced with any kind of opposition to what they want. They’re brought up incapable of learning the word no and instead replacing it with entitlement.

He took tat into school which he wasn’t allowed and was probably against all kinds of safety regs anyway.

It was confiscated and yeah a teacher said they’d take one and give it to their child. In truth they probably just binned it and just wanted the little shit to learn a lesson.

In my day if it had been biscuits I’d been selling the teacher would have confiscated them and put them in the staff room. Meh. Don’t want consequences? Don’t break the rules. He’s lucky they were returned to him at all. The school have every right to have kept or even destroyed them.

Theft my arse.

Speak to the governors? Call the police? How about get a fucking grip.

I don't disagree with any of the parenting comments but I'm shocked at the number of people condoning theft by an adult in a position of power from a child in a school setting.

If you had read my post properly you would have read that I’ve told my child ‘it’s gone’

I couldn’t care less about the toy, but this staff member shouldn’t be behaving like this! I dont even want it back, however like many have said he needs to be reported to the head!

That sums it up nicely. If against the rules you sell items in school, be prepared for them to be confiscated and not to see them again. I'm scratching my head here at the OP's huge overreaction. Perhaps she felt humiliated at being shown up as a "bad parent" by the school (when she hopefully isn't a bad parent overall), and that's why she latched onto this.

I dunno, I was at school in the 80s and my brother made a fortune selling cigs.

No spend your time teaching your son rules and discipline!

You’ve got a fuck ton of work to do, spend your time more wisely!

What a wonderful learning experience for a budding 'entrepreneur'. Explain to him that what happened was a usual part of entrepreneurial life. This is called a hostile takeover.

Personally I think it’s completely justified. In fact I think the teacher should have taken them all, and destroyed them. Child should never have been given them back.

Let’s not make this into something it wasn’t.It was a piece of cheap tat which the child shouldn’t have had, much less be trying to sell to other children. The rules are clear.

There was a kid like this in my school. Millionaire now. Some of the teachers at my school were unhinged (in prison now, suicide etc). I don’t think any of them would have taken the items off him and not returned them.

It’s called THEFT by a teacher!

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I’d add potentially dangerous as well!